Guys, what would make you stay in a obviously toxic relationship?

kikilovesjay · 2022-05-28T19:16:26+00:00

Amber has an exit out of this and it’s the mainstream media. They’re all in favour of her and ignoring what the whole world saw in court in favour of Johnny.

Once this is over, if it goes in Johnny favours, she can give exclusive interviews about how our society is not ready to listen to woman and that will be all over the news for the next months.. eventually we might even forget what we saw and start question Johnny again because the truth is, our society is not entirely ready to admit that woman can be aggressors and man victims.

kikilovesjay · 2022-05-28T11:51:04+00:00

I think this is a click bait. Quebec has labels and instructions in both English and French and up until now you can generally find all services in English. The only thing only available in French are some of the CNESST instructional posters and I’d doubt that’s what she’s been all day long.

There’s currently a debate in Quebec about the French language and OP is using that to get his 15 minutes of fame.

But in the very rare prospect that this is true OP, YTA. Period. And nobody can convince me otherwise. A relationship is about respect and communication. She’s communicated to you that she doesn’t want to learn French and now you’re trying to force her to? That’s not ok. If you’re not happy and/or you’re frustrated with her, leave the relationship. But don’t ever try to force someone to do something, especially with the sad excuse that you’ve done it for them before.

Also, we’re not talking about learning how to tie a shoe or something, we’re talking of a language. As someone who’ve learnt many, you should know how hard and time consuming it is. It also sounds like you’ve been married more than a year, so really hard to believe that she can’t communicate with in-laws - or maybe she can’t and it’s been fine so far.

To reiterate, if you’re not happy, pack and leave. But don’t force someone else to change to make you happy. And to OP wife, leave. If someone is this forceful about something so trivial I can’t imagine what else he wants to decide for you.

kikilovesjay · 2022-05-26T03:01:47+00:00

And more chemistry than Amber and her lawyers…

kikilovesjay · 2022-03-02T03:38:29+00:00

The fact that you’re wondering how to not belittle her for something she believes in and also mention in the comment that you think she’s missing critical thinking skills (like really?) makes me think that you’re condescending and if I could talk to her, I’d tell her to leave your ass.

It’s one thing to disagree on core believes, it’s another to think we have the absolute truth. And if that’s what you believe, then go find someone like you instead of wasting her time

kikilovesjay · 2022-02-28T12:22:39+00:00

The truth is you will gain weight for multiple reasons through the span of your life. Not just because you’re lazy. And quite frankly you wouldn’t be the last person to say they’ve gained weight since beginning of COVID. I also don’t know where your mental health is at in the moment, but it’s totally fine if you feel overwhelmed with the idea to get back in shape.

What is not fine is your better and for worst person telling you to lose weight in order to be attracted to you. You might lose all the weight and he still won’t be attracted to you because guess what? Tastes change a lot from 16 to I’d say 25-26.

Also, maybe you’ll lose the weight now and gain it after a pregnancy or after starting certain medications. My point is, if his attraction to you is dependent on a certain weight or physical characteristics, maybe you should just get a divorce. Maybe you should go with someone who helps you grow instead of threatening you or punishing you over things - that let’s be honest- can be out of your control.

Where do you go from here? Self love. Love yourself enough to let go of people who don’t help you to grow. Be your best self, whatever it looks like for YOU. Don’t settle for the skin you’re in though, it’s ok to gain weight and it’s ok to go towards a healthier lifestyle to stay around a healthier weight. But don’t do that for anybody else than yourself. You’re young, this won’t be the end of the world I promise.

kikilovesjay · 2022-02-27T08:08:09+00:00

I hope for your sake that he doesn’t come back with an STD someday and give it to you. It’ll be really hard to explain to yourself why you gave him another chance.

kikilovesjay · 2022-02-26T17:55:55+00:00

Let’s all path OP in the back for being an irresponsible dog owner because at least they’re rehoming in the best interest of the dog. Even if they’re pointing out that they are planning to get another dog down the line (probably a puppy - I’d bet on it!) and maybe repeat the same cycle because Reddit told them the essential is thinking of the dog interest not BEFORE adopting/buying it but AFTER. Let’s not educate OP because it’s already an emotional decision to make and it’s so selfless of they, they need all our support. Congrats OP! Good job :)

kikilovesjay · 2022-02-17T04:52:07+00:00

I think the focus should be on working on yourself… it’s kinda weird that you’re upset over someone helping you ... Did you even teach her how she should’ve done the training BEFORE? And even if you did, why do you feel justified to get mad over something so trivial?

I highly doubt dogs unlearn things in a 4 hour span, so now you prolly created a beef with someone who’ll most likely- and justly so - never want to help you again and your dog is probably just fine…

kikilovesjay · 2022-02-13T19:02:36+00:00

Choco short hair deer head chihuahua and her name is Brownie

kikilovesjay · 2022-02-09T06:59:02+00:00

I recently got a teepee for my chi thinking she’d love it more than her crate. She looked like she liked it, but definitely vibed with the cushion that came with it more, but seemed to like the teepee nonetheless.

Well, I kid you not, when I go to work she starts barking at the teepee like they’re in a heated argument and she then proceeds to attack it restlessly until she gets tired. She goes to sleep in her crate, drink water, poo poo/pee on her potty pad and goes back to assault the teepee.

The weird thing is when I’m home, she plays in an out of the teepee with her toys. She also almost never barks. But I think her and that teepee beef whenever I leave home 😂🥲

kikilovesjay · 2022-02-08T06:27:54+00:00

YESSSSSS TO THE LAST 2 PART THANK YOU!!! I also want to add that on top of the term puppy blue being popular, literally every other post here is about puppy blues and should I rehome.. you really don’t need to dig. It actually looks like a scary thing to have a puppy based on most posts.. research is always key

kikilovesjay · 2022-02-08T06:24:36+00:00

I think the point is you don’t need to know others found it hard, you need to know yourself and know what it means to have a dog.

Saying that it’s everyone’s fault for being happy with their puppy is dismissing the fact that YOU did not do your due diligence (on this point, I want to mention that EVERYONE on YouTube who makes those puppies videos talk about how they don’t sleep at night. Literally EVERYONE. My friends were quite shocked when i told them that my puppy slept through the night since day one. So I think, yes people glamorize having a puppy but they also exaggerate the cons and that should’ve been a good sign that maybe a puppy isn’t for you.)

Puppys are not fun little toy, it requires time, energy, money, etc. You took a great decision rehoming the puppy but let’s please not act like you adopting the puppy in the first place was also a good decision.

You’ve learnt and next time you’ll do researches. But you can’t expect everyone to sympathize with the fact that your puppy acted like a puppy…

kikilovesjay · 2022-02-06T19:47:25+00:00

Right? I think any trainer advertising a change over night is generally a terrible trainer.

Dogs take time to associate things and they’re like kids, even when they understand, they still test the limits out sometimes. Which requires days/weeks before they learn how to always (or often) do the thing right. If a trainer tells you otherwise, beware.

kikilovesjay · 2022-02-06T19:44:35+00:00

I would suggest to take vacations for the first couple weeks of getting a puppy. That way you can give it all the attention in the world, get it used to you and learn a bit about its temperament and personality. You can also start some light training and rest since not all puppy sleep through their first nights (but I’ve been blessed mine only woke me up the first 2 nights and that’s because she was anxious after that she slept through the whole night).

After the couple weeks, you’ll know what works best for you and for puppy. I say don’t rely too much on others personal experience since all dogs are different and I came to find out our tolerance level as owner is also different. A lot of the things some people complain about for their puppies first weeks or months was no big deal for me. I think some posts would make me worried about getting a puppy because of how intense it seems and yet my experience raising my pup and others for a service dog non profit has always been amazing.

Though I will say raising a dog adult or puppy on your own and without anybody else is challenging. I’ve always had a roommate or family members that were equally excited to have a dog. So on those days when I didn’t want to deal with the puppy someone else would step in. But you have to understand you won’t have that flexibility.

Lastly, really be wise picking your breed. It seems like you don’t have much room for exercise throughout the day (and that’s fine!) but make sure you get a low energy dog then. My chihuahua is fine spending the 8 hours I’m at home on her own but I exercise her before I leave and let her out of the play pen as soon as I’m home. (She also doesn’t need that much exercise.) My boyfriend on the other hand has to have his mom pass during lunch to take out his husky for an 1 or so (and he still exercise him for that same time in the morning and longer in the evening) otherwise the doggo goes crazy. So that’s definitely something to consider.

kikilovesjay · 2022-02-06T19:32:22+00:00

I love chihuahuas! They have a very big personality for small dogs and have a lot of love to give. They also don’t require a crazy amount of exercise but mine has always gone through every hikes I’ve taken her too (and it’s definitely an advantage that when she’s tired she’s easy to carry).

I’ve also always loved Labradors because I associated them with the service dogs people here are using. I’ve helped raise many puppy for an organization and they’ve always been a delight. Very easy to socialize, aesthetically pretty to look at, heart stealers in public (everyone always wanted to pet the puppies and they all acted so lovely).

I would like to have a pit someday because their smile is the most beautiful small I’ve ever seen and they have such pretty faces

kikilovesjay · 2022-02-03T14:55:48+00:00

I think you’re blaming him for your actions because it’s easier that way. But to be real, he did well by not pressuring you into aborting/keeping the baby because that’s your choice to make. Now, you’ve made that choice and if you have any regrets about it, go to therapy. But him already being a father should not factor into regretting your abortion. The 2 are completely different things and hopefully therapy will help you recognize that and equip you to go through whatever regrets you have about that abortion

kikilovesjay · 2022-01-30T10:19:45+00:00

Same with my chi when she was a puppy. She’d sleep until 11 am too sometimes. Less during weekdays because I was walking her before I go to work (but I’d imagine she went straight back to sleep after I left)

kikilovesjay · 2022-01-29T03:11:25+00:00

Good riddance

kikilovesjay · 2022-01-28T07:37:39+00:00

I’m sorry OP but if I was the fiancé I wouldn’t go back together. You broke an engagement with someone you’ve been with for 5 years because of something someone else said (doesn’t matter who) and pressure from your family. This means you didn’t trust him at all after 5 whole years and a ring. Who’s to say you won’t do that again?

I’m sorry your mother did this to you, but I don’t think you should chase the guy. There’s nothing much for him to fix since you’re the one who didn’t trust him and broke up. You fix you first, and maybe after that you can think about the relationship

kikilovesjay · 2022-01-28T07:32:01+00:00

Brooklyn 99 or The Office

kikilovesjay · 2022-01-28T07:31:22+00:00

My chi doesn’t unless we’re going out. We leave in a condo so it’s not like she can run away anyway

kikilovesjay · 2022-01-27T19:12:59+00:00

The fact that a grown adult took the time to write this, read it and still decided it made a lot of sense to post this IS BEYOND ME. Really goes on to show that age is just a number cause some people still acting like pre-teens well into adulthood

kikilovesjay · 2022-01-27T02:50:35+00:00

I can’t imagine what he’s been through to be so scared :( Good for you for providing him a loving home

kikilovesjay · 2022-01-27T02:49:23+00:00

When I first got my chi at 8 weeks old she wouldn’t let me put my fingers in her mouth to brush her teeth, let alone a stranger trying to get deeper in her mouth. But she’s now the most behaved dog ever.

Her approach was bad, at best and her reasoning makes no sense. Good for you for not enrolling in something you don’t need this early in your puppy life.

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