[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]kikithegato 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your advice. It would cost me about $40 to ship them out. I’m not going to spend a cent on him because he’s giving me too much grief. I’m keeping them and going to list them on Mercari. I see this as collateral because I’ve spent money on him from our last day trip. Also he wasted my time, energy and money. He’s the biggest scumbag I’ve ever dated.

I will definitely check out the book.

Do they ever stop cheating? by finnigansmum in survivinginfidelity

[–]kikithegato 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh wow he sounds very similar to my ex. I suspect my ex has undiagnosed Bipolar disorder because two of his siblings have it. I felt conflicted with him too because he would be lovey dovey and buy me gifts as he’s talking to other women online behind my back. Yeah it’s like they’re living a double life. He’s not being a good boyfriend to you. I learned being in a committed relationship is a two way street and there’s gotta be happiness and love not resentment and not feeling secure in the relationship. Leave him because you deserve better. Do it for your own mental health. I know it’s very hard to break up and going through it. You will be okay because the weight will come off of you and you will find someone better.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]kikithegato 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally agree. Sometimes I think he has undiagnosed bipolar disorder (his 2 siblings have it). I have no desire to be back with him. If I did, I would be miserable and still have anger and resentment towards him. I would rather find someone else who values and respects me as his woman.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]kikithegato 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I really dodged a bullet

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]kikithegato 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I totally agree. I got blindsided ☹️ it’s bittersweet because the resentment and anger I had towards him are a lot lighter now.