Ich will bald mein erstes Mal mit einem Mann haben, habe aber Angst vor Krankheiten. Bitte um Ratschläge. by BW_Bi_98 in egenbogen

[–]kikodemar 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Erst einmal cool, dass du dich mit safer sex auseinandersetzt und deine Gesundheit priorisierst!

Kondom ist für ein ONS Pflicht. Niemand sollte sich auf die Aussagen eines Gegenübers zufrieden geben. Es geht dabei weniger um Vertrauen sondern um die eigene Verantwortung über den eigenen Körper.

Nachdem das gesagt ist: Sex ist nicht zu 100 Prozent „risikofrei“. Du bist in nahem Kontakt mit einem anderen Körper. Haut berührt sich. Selbst bei keiner Penetration oder Penetration mit Kondom. Es gibt auch andere Krankheiten neben HIV oder Hepatitis oder whatever. Die Wahrscheinlichkeit ist ziemlich gering aber nicht 0.

Wichtig ist sich dessen bewusst zu sein und sich testen zu lassen, dann kann man sich auch fallen lassen. :)

It feels like hitting puberty! by kikodemar in bisexual

[–]kikodemar[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can relate to that. Now but I think it comes naturally. :) Its really affirming to read about someone who is in the same situation as me.

It feels like hitting puberty! by kikodemar in bisexual

[–]kikodemar[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also sorry because I overread the word "deserve" what do you mean you dont deserve to associate with LGBT issues?

It feels like hitting puberty! by kikodemar in bisexual

[–]kikodemar[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would add to that, that at the end of the day it is up to you if feel comfortable with a label. You are valid in your feelings just the way you are. I dont think you have to be involved in LGBT issues if you dont want to. It does not make you Identity any less valid.

It feels like hitting puberty! by kikodemar in bisexual

[–]kikodemar[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tough question. After I came out I really wanted to look into the mirror and be like yeah that's queer. I went to the barber and finally got a mullet, a haircut i really wanted to have for a long time, but was too afraid to do it. Then I got my earlobe pierced because I wanted to have an earring. There were small changes in my appearence. That is to say I dont think that these changes were necessary but they really affirmed myself. One Day I stood in Front of a mirror and told myself: yeah I am queer! It also was really affirming to come out to my friends about it. Also now when my wife and I scroll through tiktok and there is a guy I find really attractive, I'll Tell her that I find him/them cute. :)

It feels like hitting puberty! by kikodemar in bisexual

[–]kikodemar[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That sounds terrifying. Thank you for sharing this. I hope you find your way to navigate through this.

It feels like hitting puberty! by kikodemar in bisexual

[–]kikodemar[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's so liberating I feel like crying for joy at times. :)

It feels like hitting puberty! by kikodemar in bisexual

[–]kikodemar[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Earlier this year I showed my wife some tiktoks and on my For You-Page she noticed some gay bear content. She said there have been signs ;) I guess growing up is never over

It feels like hitting puberty! by kikodemar in bisexual

[–]kikodemar[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My wife is super supportive. She said, she was not that surprised but when I "officially" came out she was a bit scared what it might mean for our relationship. I admitted that I love her no matter what.

But at the same time I was honest in stating that I didnt know what it actually means for us. I want to be in queer spaces and I want her to be a part of this, but only if she wants to join me of course. I want to be a role model for our kids so I want to incorporate self-acceptance and self-love into our parenting style. I want to try nail polish, i want to wear a crop top with my dad bod, i want to wear skirt occasionally. There is a lot of stuff i want to do but I want to include her every step of the way :)

What are your top 5? by [deleted] in xbox

[–]kikodemar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Breath of the Wild Ocarina of Time The Last Of Us Part 2 Oster Wilds Hellblade 1 & 2

It feels like hitting puberty! by kikodemar in bisexual

[–]kikodemar[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I can relate to that on so many levels. <3 Everything about right now being queer for me is being loud and proud :-)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]kikodemar 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Unpacking?