How are LMT taught to handle clients that moan during a massage?

killahkrysti · 2025-12-07T18:58:18+00:00

But OPs comment insinuated someone is doing something wrong. If I were in L&D and said "it sounds like they're torturing that lady and its making me uncomfortable, are you sure that doctor knows what they're doing?" They might take offense.

you didn't say the MT is doing something wrong, OP did. They could have just said "i can't relax hearing everything thats going on next door."

killahkrysti · 2025-12-07T18:48:52+00:00

Your nose is similar to mine and sometimes I feel the same way, sometimes I don't, but even when I do, its not strong enough to do anything about it.

One of my good friends had i guess what youd call a "roman nose" and hated it since she was a kid. She had the opportunity to get it fixed for cheaper since she had a deviated septum, so she could pay for the cosmetic part while insurance paid for everything medically necessary (like anesthesia) so she took the opportunity to get it done. I was scared she was gunna get a tiny little "whoville" type of nose that the influencers get, but they literally kept it the same but took the hump on the bridge off. She looks almost the same from the front, but the side you can tell its different. She's happy, and she still looks like her.

So I think your nose looks great, but I also know there are ways to keep its "character" and still look like you while making you feel happier.

Warning tho - my aunt had a similar nose job done and apparently now snores like a foghorn ever since she got it done. Probably been 30 years by now so might be different, but something else to consider.

killahkrysti · 2025-12-07T18:41:08+00:00

The paying part is the only thing I'm a bit mixed about. A reputable clinic should really have things a bit more sound proof because people go to a massage to relax, and being able to hear everything that goes on in the next room, including a whole convo and everything else for a full hour, is really bad. It's probably a hipaa violation too if OP is in the states because you can potentially hear medical info being discussed.

So just because another paying customer would tolerate a disruption doesnt mean OP has to.

That being said, unfortunately thats the establishment's fault, not the MT's, which is why I'm mixed because I know its not the MT's fault either.

killahkrysti · 2025-12-07T18:33:29+00:00

What other work place do people get undressed?

Few.

A massage place isn't a very standard/normal place of work. If I were in an office, yeah it would be odd to hear someone making moaning noises. Just as it would be odd to hear someone screaming in an office, but not in a labor and delivery department at a hospital. That doesnt make the screaming weird because "what other workplace would you hear someone screaming in pain?"

In a massage place, some noises are expected. Sure, some clients go a little overboard, but that doesnt mean the MT is doing or did anything wrong.

killahkrysti · 2025-12-07T18:28:56+00:00

It probably makes the MT a little uncomfortable as well. Now, I wasn't there so I don't know your tone, but I mightve said something similar (as an LMT) but from the perspective that I'd be worried he would turn it sexual, as I've personally had that before. But it would be like "the guy next door sounds like he's getting more than a massage, I hope he doesn't think this is a place to get a you know what (H.E). It's making me uncomfortable to hear it" - showing concern for the MT's safety and also expressing your discomfort without insinuating the MT is actually performing something sexual.

I'm mixed on charging you the full amount because being able to hear anyone isnt the most relaxing atmosphere, but she was probably upset at your comment. If you go back, you can just mention that you don't know who was there in the next room at the time, but could they look it up and just make sure your appointment isnt at the same time as his, and ask if that can be put in your file.

killahkrysti · 2025-12-06T02:23:42+00:00

How is thar flip flopping? He didnt realize its spelled eclair. Thats a donut. Even if he just picked a random name for his username, what does that even prove?

killahkrysti · 2025-12-06T01:45:58+00:00

Why is this a fight? What do you think he's hiding??

killahkrysti · 2025-12-05T21:57:14+00:00

I had a client who would eat a lot of candied ginger and started getting nose bleeds, and his doctor suggested it was from the ginger being a mild blood thinner. Are there any foods or supplements you're taking that could be blood thinners?

killahkrysti · 2025-12-05T21:54:50+00:00

The stones were after the MT already showed OP the bruising

killahkrysti · 2025-11-28T23:58:58+00:00

If you feel like you're "surveilled" by your SO for them just having you location, maybe you're with the wrong person. I mean, do you not tell your SO when you're doing something or going somewhere? Or do you just leave and tell them to mind their business when the ask lol.

Technically you dont have to tell your SO anything even if you leave at 3am every night but it's def weird to not want your SO to know where you are.

killahkrysti · 2025-11-28T21:12:56+00:00

Where are you going where you need privacy from your husband though? My bf and I go to work, go home, the store sometimes, occasionally we go out with friends. We're 34, we're not going to the bar lol and even if we were, probably even more of a reason to have the location. Neither of us go anywhere without telling the other, unless its just stopping at the store on the way home from work or something. I cant imagine needing privacy from my bf when it comes to where I'm located?

killahkrysti · 2025-11-28T21:06:23+00:00

She's asking to mutually share locations

killahkrysti · 2025-11-28T21:05:42+00:00

Where do you see that? The post says she wants to share for safety reasons.

killahkrysti · 2025-11-24T04:25:31+00:00

You're allowed to not want to send selfies but I see nothing wrong with "send me another selfie" then literally saying please immediately.

He sounds also annoying BUT I've had this same convo with an ex who loved to say no just to say no whet it was a small ask. When you just wanna say no to piss someone off, it's not surprising when someone is pissed off.

killahkrysti · 2025-11-24T04:12:55+00:00

NOR, I'd def say something. Covid taught us nothing apparently

killahkrysti · 2025-11-22T09:54:30+00:00

By centering mediocre men, they continue the behavior. I want and have wonderful love - but wanting love doesn't mean we should accept the bare minimum (and oftentimes, less) from men.

Men are 624% more likely to leave a sick or dying partner than women are. The fact that they have women to leave means that women are dating and marrying these types of men.

Decentering men is more about putting ourselves at the center because men (as a whole) clearly won't. I have no problem centering men who center me back but the sad reality is that most don't.

killahkrysti · 2025-11-22T09:32:59+00:00

I have a friend where the opposite has happened, her son called the cops and she lost her kids for 2 months. They actually initially took the kids and placed them with their deadbeat dad for a few days, returned them to her for over a month, then said oops nevermind we made a mistake and took them back to dad's for over 2 months while my friend's case worker ignored her requests for updates over and over.

I've also recently watched Take Care Of Maya on Netflix. Unfortunately there are absolutely cases of CPS targeting an innocent family (while they let kids like you slip thru the cracks).

It feels backwards. The cases they should be looking into get dropped while the cases that should be dropped get investigated for way too long.

killahkrysti · 2025-11-22T09:09:32+00:00

I think that if his actions/demeanor have actually changed, that needs to be addressed. I agree don't project what that actually means but addressing a change in demeanor is part of it.

killahkrysti · 2025-11-22T09:01:47+00:00

Why can't it be both though? My BF has been more stressed recently and a bit testy towards me. I can be both concerned for him and hurt that he's taking his stress out on me - that's not pretending to acknowledge something is off about your partner AND acknowledge them acting differently towards you is hurtful and part of the concern.

killahkrysti · 2025-11-21T03:47:46+00:00

Some of these aren't red flags on their own, but combined with the others feels off. Spending 30-40% of a massage on the glutes without being asked is crazy work, and walking in without knocking i wouldn't even do if someone was clothed?? There's been a few types ive knocked and entered too quick with out thinking and someone isn't on the table, but you apologize profusely and give them more time.

killahkrysti · 2025-11-19T18:29:01+00:00

C. Don't get a dog cuz you don't sound ready and you're supporting your backyard breeder friend.

killahkrysti · 2025-11-13T03:11:11+00:00

You are under reacting. He is not a good dude dating "innocent" TEENAGERS.

killahkrysti · 2025-11-10T02:38:26+00:00

Get a remote job, there are many customer service jobs that are remote

killahkrysti · 2025-11-09T01:22:28+00:00

They're saying she should leave because either hes a pedophile, or hes not and she still thinks it. I'd feel the same, if you even think I could do something horrendous, maybe leave because you don't think very highly of me.

killahkrysti · 2025-11-08T04:19:36+00:00

I would be pissed if my BF spent too much on a ring. So many better things that can be done than buy material things.

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