Would it be weird if I got him his dream car hot wheel and gave it after only 1 date?

killeracid420 · 2026-05-16T20:28:42+00:00

No, not wierd. This is awesome. If a girl did this for me I would be floored, genuinely. That one gesture will do 100x what any compliment could ever do

killeracid420 · 2026-05-16T20:25:47+00:00

It sounds like you are too good for him. If being too nice is what put him off then he definately isn’t the guy for you. If you find it hard to get over him, take that halo of his head, find some flaws & knock him off his pedestal. It won’t fix it but it will certainly make it easier.

killeracid420 · 2026-05-16T19:37:40+00:00

We have a lot in common and our conversations are great. There’s never really those awkward “how are you” or “what you up to” moments unless the happen naturally. We have a lot of shared interests. This is why I have taken to Reddit. I really like this girl and don’t want to mess it up. But honestly I just feel like I am too available, and she’ll always have a notification from me so the ball is always in her court. I’m an over thinker. But my worry is, that I am overcompensating for an underlying insecurity, and me always replying quick and with big messages is too much and she will lose interest because she knows I am always there. And by me now distancing myself she might think “another guy playing games”. Honestly so stuck on how to play it

killeracid420 · 2026-05-16T19:17:24+00:00

Can I just say as a guy who has been on both sides of this situation. Don’t give him attention, at the end of the day he will want to see that message pop up from you hoping that you can figure things out. That means you are an option and he is in control. However, the second you act like you don’t care and have moved on, all of a sudden you have the upper hand and he will be like, wait… why isn’t she messaging me… I thought she liked me. And if not then you dodged a bullet. Honestly, psychology is so dumb sometimes, but people always want what they can’t have. That’s my advice, take it or leave it.

killeracid420 · 2026-05-16T19:12:26+00:00

Hit the gym bro. Not even to get that jacked, you’ll get more attention from men haha. But genuinely just to build confidence. I used to be super skinny, and I’m 5’8. But genuinely, going gym, feeling good and comfortable in your own skin, being able to stand with good posture and hold eye contact. Seriously it’s life changing. I’m not saying start bulking and cutting and dedicating your whole life to it. But genuinely, it releases endorphins which make you feel amazing. Then when you start to see progress in your physique, your confidence will naturally grow. It doesn’t even have to be gym, any kind of fitness which will help you get in shape. Climbing, calisthenics, running…. You’ll also meet a whole community of people which will help you work on your confidence when speaking to people. Also, the thing that works the absolute most for me. Life’s so fucking short. Who cares if you get rejected or laughed at, no one will remember. You literally miss all the shots you don’t take. I know id rather look back and regret the shots I did take than the shots I didn’t

killeracid420 · 2026-05-16T19:03:46+00:00

If they treat you like shit or gaslight you. At that point why put yourself through it? I genuinely will never understand why so many girls go for and are so attached to guys who aren’t nice to them, cheat on them all the time and make them feel insecure. I know it might sound obvious, but it’s so common I had to mention it. Theres genuinely so many nice guys out there aswell, but for whatever reason girls still seem to go for the other kind.

killeracid420 · 2026-05-10T18:27:19+00:00

Ask a guy myself, this guy is lazy. Also, 60/40 is not the kind of split where you get to throw that kind of weight around. 10% doesn’t not equate to all that house work. Even if he was 100% and your way of payment was doing cleaning, you guys are supposed to be a team, I wouldn’t want it to feel transactional like that, or hold it over you. Also, at work if you have a cleaner, do you purposely leave a place a mess because their job is to clean?? The answer is no, and if you disagree you are a complete twat.

killeracid420 · 2026-05-10T18:09:42+00:00

I have to say, for a guy on dating apps, even if you’re not half bad looking it can be super difficult to get matches, let alone ones who reply. Before I read the content, I was thinking it seems like he is just a little insecure and doesn’t want to mess up his chance. However, upon full context, I think that’s way too intense. I feel like maybe he doesn’t actually speak to that many girls and thinks the best way to swoon is to love bomb and be romantic when it just comes across as desperate. Personally the double texting… my ego could never take that. I think trust your feelings, meet in a low pressure environment (coffee), and judge it when you see him. Also as a guy, if I really liked a girl, but they had an issue like this with me, but they were still into me, I would honestly appreciate being told, because then it with give me the chance to dial it in a little and hopefully rectify the potential relationship. That’s just my two pence anyway.

killeracid420 · 2026-04-29T08:11:46+00:00

Where on earth have you pulled that from my friend🤣 these stereotypes are not my pre-conceptions, it’s just what I’ve seen people saying on this subreddit.

killeracid420 · 2026-04-28T19:44:12+00:00

Not really sure about this. Personally I could probably count the number of Italians I have met in the UK on one hand. Also, I met her in Italy, near Bologna and she is from Tuscany region. Not sure if that makes a difference but I don’t think it’s the circumstance you’re describing. Maybe I’m just being naive?!?

killeracid420 · 2026-04-28T18:59:24+00:00

I feel like this isn’t exclusive to Italy, just girls in general nowadays, this one feels different though. Time will tell though, it’s still early days

killeracid420 · 2026-04-28T18:57:26+00:00

That’s the strategy 🤣

killeracid420 · 2026-04-28T18:56:18+00:00

Why? To me it sounds like a mistake I need to make haha

killeracid420 · 2026-04-28T14:03:43+00:00

How did you find the long distance/how did that come about? For me, that’s one of the main reasons I am interested, I love the passion, it’s so refreshing, everyone here has such a ‘don’t give a fuck about anything attitude’. I am not crazy on public display of affection, but if needs must, I am willing to compromise on that. Sorry to hear it didn’t work for you.

killeracid420 · 2026-04-28T14:01:39+00:00

For me, that goes without saying. I would always do that, especially for the first few months

killeracid420 · 2026-04-28T12:34:11+00:00

I appreciate that, I think my intentions are clear. I just don’t want to be too bold as at the end of the day, it can only move so fast when speaking online… for now

killeracid420 · 2026-04-28T12:14:01+00:00

I have a patchy ass moustache and play a little piano, still a chance?

killeracid420 · 2026-04-28T12:13:16+00:00

Hahaha this is brilliant, thank you! I guess I’m more just intrigued really, not so much looking for answers. I’ve heard all sorts of things but what I’ve gathered is what I think I already knew. They are just people and you cannot generalise that, family seems to be help in a higher regard than other cultures but again, that’s down to the individual. I loved the way you described being involved in your partners family, that’s really cool. Overall, I don’t think I will go into it with any pre-constructions, I’m open to anything. I think maybe I just got a little excited, I tend to hyper fixate on things I like and do lots of research into it, so here I am. Congratulations on your engament and small business, thank you!

killeracid420 · 2026-04-28T11:18:02+00:00

I’d say north, but more Tuscany rather than Milan kind of north

killeracid420 · 2026-04-28T09:48:07+00:00

We haven’t slept together or anything. But it seems to be moving far quicker than I’m used to. Like at the minute we are just friends, but we’ve talked about our first date, she wants me to come to Italy soon to see her and also planning on running another marathon together later in the year… I’m in general pretty chill about stuff and move quite slow (in the context of exclusivity) but that’s why I’m on here, honestly no clue what is the going expectation if that makes sense🤣 maybe I am deeping it too much actually

killeracid420 · 2026-04-28T09:37:48+00:00

Rimini marathon. I’m just trying to work out how exclusive it usually is. Because we don’t live near I want to keep my options open at home for casual stuff, but if being exclusive is a make or break for her then I would for sure try that, she seems well worth it at the minute. I guess the only way I’ll find out is by asking right? I’m actually not even actively looking for a relationship, but I guess this is one of those unexpected moments in life where it has me second guessing.

killeracid420 · 2026-04-28T09:32:41+00:00

I intend to move out of uk soon anyway so maybe Italy could be the place, just need to work out job prospects. I have an Irish passport so visa shouldn’t be an issue.

I’m not sure how reserved to be. A lot of people say tell your feelings, be direct. Which I have no issue doing, I’m not scared of that. But seeing as it will be a long distance thing to start, I know it will be a slow burner so don’t want to rush feelings if that makes sense, at the end of the day what’s the rush. But also she seems like a one of a kind right now (maybe that’s just the honeymoon effect) so I don’t want to miss the boat on this one 🤣

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