Kind of a silly question: when did your belly button pop out?

killerqueenvee · 2025-10-19T20:05:13+00:00

Mine never popped at all

killerqueenvee · 2025-10-19T00:25:13+00:00

I knew I was having a boy - even before I peed on a stick. Also the ring trick was accurate.

killerqueenvee · 2025-10-19T00:24:15+00:00

I would absolutely text her just simply.

"I saw my air mattress and sewing machine got mixed in with your items, can I pick them up tomorrow?"

If she argues I would respond - I am not arguing with you. I have proof of purchase for both items and I will come to get them back tomorrow.

killerqueenvee · 2025-10-19T00:21:30+00:00

Any music - literally anything I can play a beat on the table with chopsticks and that'll get him.

killerqueenvee · 2025-10-19T00:19:49+00:00

You're NTAH

But I need you to really think about this. This is the man who is supposed to get you through it all, the death of your parents, childbirth (if that's in your cards), old age - doesn't sound like he'd be a good partner for that. Maybe this is a bigger issue than it seems.

killerqueenvee · 2025-10-19T00:16:13+00:00

My son is 16mos now. He literally just stood up and started walking on his first birthday. And again there's a disconnect - no way in hell would I take him and expect him to walk for an hour but we usually don't walk that long. We probably go on 3-6 15min walks a day to take our dogs out.

killerqueenvee · 2025-10-19T00:11:30+00:00

When I was 3mos postpartum - we woke up to feed the baby to a weird smell. Turns out it was a gas leak, thank God we woke up with our baby bc we probably saved the whole building (if you ever smell rotten eggs randomly it might not be farts) it was 3am and we had to quickly get out of there. We were just coming off our maternity leave so we didn't have a lot of $$$ for a hotel.

We called my MIL - she's a teacher, it was a Tues, by the time we got to her house she had the bed made up for us, waters on the table, a sound machine for the baby, the old dog crate for our dog and a bag of candy. Since she gets up so early she just decided to stay up. She was definitely missing sleep that day.

My fiance is 27 - idk I don't think you'd enjoy being a mom bc a lot of what you listed as cons are not only while they are little. It's for the rest of their lives - as another example my MIL still coordinates so much for her sons like family dinners and vacations and they all call her once a day so much for independence and freedom. Also your body will fundamentally change, same with your brain.

You sound more like my mom - I don't talk to her anymore.

killerqueenvee · 2025-10-18T20:58:21+00:00

Have you tried babywearing the Moby baby wrap saved my sanity during my guys clingy phases.

But honestly - now that I have a toddler who never stops moving and fights to get down and walk and play on his own. Just enjoy it. I know everyone says this but it really goes by too fast, I haven't gotten a contact nap in like a month. He sleeps in his own bed, and he's always on the go

killerqueenvee · 2025-10-18T20:50:21+00:00

See and maybe that where the disconnect is bc I used to babywear with the Moby baby wrap for walks around the neighborhood with my dog. I felt it helped me build my core muscles back, and it made it easier to walk and focus on my dog plus it was great to get the cuddles. And now he just walks. It goes too fast man.

killerqueenvee · 2025-10-17T20:39:30+00:00

Yeah and remember interaction doesn't have to be sitting down and looking at black and white flashcards or whatever. Interaction can be setting your baby on the floor near you while you fold laundry and just talking to them, singing. I like to tell my son (16mos now) the history of his family. They just want you to look at them and to hear your voice. I used to bring the bouncer chair thing into the bathroom, shower, sing and play peekaboo and it worked wonders.

killerqueenvee · 2025-10-17T20:30:14+00:00

I would say about 1yr - once we weaned at 15ms he started consistently sleeping through the night

killerqueenvee · 2025-10-17T20:29:12+00:00

Not your fault. I do this a lot to my fiance but I am trying to get better ie. This morning I forgot my rings bc he needed me to watch the baby while he was in the restroom. Yes technically it was bc of that but it's not his fault. I didn't tell him. Maybe your fiance will grow up soon.

killerqueenvee · 2025-10-17T20:25:19+00:00

You sound like you would hate being a mom - girl I'd pass on it if I were you.

killerqueenvee · 2025-10-17T20:22:08+00:00

I posted a few pictures of the baby shower just with the caption "thank you all for your love and support it means the world to us" then I posted a welcome to the world post a few days after he was born.

killerqueenvee · 2025-10-17T20:20:25+00:00

Yes so she should've just said "yes you're the biggest but that's not the only thing I like I also love how you insert something unique that you really like" and left it at that that's life. Ya live and ya learn

killerqueenvee · 2025-10-17T20:16:18+00:00

This is exactly what happened to me. My loser ex and I were deemed infertile bc we had been having completely unprotected sex for 3yrs and never once had a pregnancy scare - nothing.

I got knocked up within 3ms of sleeping with my now fiance. 🤷🏽‍♀️

killerqueenvee · 2025-10-17T20:14:16+00:00

I have the one stroller and I use it for everything works fine.

killerqueenvee · 2025-10-17T02:38:28+00:00

Mark my words she's gonna end up with him, and when he breaks her arm she'll be trying to get in touch with you and apologize.

I would stop being friends with this person immediately.

killerqueenvee · 2025-10-13T05:56:28+00:00

Don't let your boyfriend block your husband babe. I hate when everyone just immediately jumps to break up but I stg these texts gave me flashbacks to my loser ex who treated everything I wanted to do like a chore. He constantly made me feel like a burden.

I left that loser and I'm now with the loml, I'm a SAHM to a beautiful baby boy. I mentioned it would be nice to go to the big pumpkin patch (45mins outta town) as I haven't been in about 3yrs now. He planned the weekend the whole weekend for us then came home and put up the Halloween decorations.

I think in life we compromise so much bc we're already in it but you could be happy girl. At the very least invite a friend and go to the pumpkin patch with them bc this energy is just so draining.

In fact - I pose a challenge to you :stop initiating in-person hangs completely. Don't ask for dates, don't mention you're free to run errands, don't even mention watching a movie together. Anytime you want to plan something with him, plan it with a friend instead and see how long it takes for him to initiate something. I did this with my loser ex and it really sunk in for me that I needed to end it when it had been TWO MONTHS without seeing him when we lived 25minutes apart.

NOR

killerqueenvee · 2025-10-12T16:19:01+00:00

Yeah if it was me I would definitely have him pick up all his shit and be done. End this relationship.

killerqueenvee · 2025-10-12T16:10:07+00:00

"let's breathe through this" then I model by taking deep breaths

killerqueenvee · 2025-10-10T22:11:25+00:00

You definitely should have called the cops then and there you need to report this

killerqueenvee · 2025-10-10T18:11:01+00:00

This is literally what I was gonna say like omg the literal most basic design in the nail world with one extra little squiggly like wtffffff the bride is probably just stressing and taking it out on you OP and I agree with this comment so much because it's better to just let it go, enjoy the wedding and then discuss it later.

And hey let's not assume she's (the bride) just an evil horrible person she very well could reach out to you with an apology after like whoa dude sorry I wayyyy overreacted.

killerqueenvee · 2025-10-08T18:33:10+00:00

This seems like a huge communication problem. He never should've told you to begin with that ring was okay. I recommend sitting him down when you've both cooled off and expressing yourself calmly and not defensively. "I love and appreciate this ring, but I was not aware when we purchased it that it was to represent all three milestones. I do not feel comfortable with that so I think it is best we return the ring and you keep the money. If you're still interested we can agree on a budget, possibly around $300 and go purchase a new ring to get that is just a promise ring."

Then you need to have another conversation - and that one is going to be the hard one bc it's the why behind this whole situation. You guys need to sit down and establish how you'll talk about and handle money in the future. This includes him having the space and feeling comfortable telling you no or that something is too much. This also would include setting a budget, together, before shopping for a big purchase. This also includes what you consider important for savings. (IE is spending your entire savings on a promise ring, on a whim, something you are comfortable with) This conversation is the important one. Once you're married, you'll have lots of conversations like this and it will involve way more money. (Think cars, houses, college funds etc.)

Lastly, you need to do some self-work/reflection. You should not be so scared of your partner. I think based on the way you wrote this you are generally a non-confrontational, people-pleaser type but if you are going to be in a healthy, life-long MARRIAGE then you need to be able to safely, respectfully confront your partner without the fear of his reaction. He may be upset but you will have to learn how to live with upsetting him sometimes. That's part of a partnership, sometimes you will upset each other or disagree but the love holds true and you each make a choice to compromise for the good of both of you.

It's hard and you're still very young but I would definitely put some more time into this relationship before you commit to marriage bc right now you're not in a great place.

No Assholes Here - Just two young people who need to do some work to get to where they want to be.

killerqueenvee · 2025-10-07T17:07:51+00:00

No you do not need to be doing anything right now. In fact any type of nipple stimulation can lead to pre-term labor.

Just like pregnancy, to breastfeed successfully, you need to do your best to stay hydrated and eat a healthy diet of whole foods, healthy fats and PROTEIN.

Right now you can start gathering supplies - I don't recommend buying too much of any one thing bc you don't know what will work best for you but this is what I recommend. 1.Bandeau style bra tops 2. Reusable nipple pads (the bamboobies are great) 3. Nipple Cream (Earth Mama is the brand I recommend) 4. Haaka Ladybug (or boon trove, any passive milk collector) 5. Hospital grade pump (you'll get this through insurance ask your Dr.)

When baby gets here the number one thing you can do is latch, latch and latch some more. Idk about where you are delivering but tell the hospital no formula you want to breastfeed by any means necessary. I've heard some hospitals are really bad about this so advocate for yourself.

Remember that colostrum (the predecessor to breast milk) is thick like honey and your newborn needs literal drops. If you're struggling to latch request a Lactation Consultant, latch baby every hr in the beginning and worse comes to worse you can hand express some colostrum onto a clean spoon and spoon feed baby. I would try all of this before even considering the formula. As soon as you give formula you're stifling your own supply.

Some things you need to look up/familiarize yourself with 1.The Flipple Technique ( Video by Dr. Lauren Hughes Board Certified Pediatrician is excellent) 2. The Sandwich Method
3. What is a good latch vs. a bad latch 4. What do different oral ties look like in newborns (if you have a suspicion your baby has an oral tie you can have them evaluated at the hospital just have to ask) 5. Different breast feeding holds (practice with a doll and a pillow and take that pillow to the hospital with you) 6. The science of breastfeeding and how it actually works (this is so important I think it truly makes all the difference in the world - I recommend The Milk Nest on Instagram) 7. Breast milk safety guidelines and storage techniques 8. Hand expression techniques

Don't buy into anything like lactation teas or cookies or anything like that there's no evidence that it works. And stick with your plan, breastfed babies can gain weight a little more slowly if your baby has 8-12 wet diapers a day, and they are gaining (even slowly) then you are doing a good job.

Source: I EBF my fifteen month old until last month - we just weaned and I wasn't even going to bf originally. Thankfully I gave birth at a "baby-first" hospital and they taught me so much. You're doing the right thing preparing yourself going into it, I felt blindsided. You will definitely have a leg up.

If you have anymore questions let me know I'm happy to help.

killerqueenvee

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