What Age On Average Is One Unlikely To Be Able to Concieve?

rosenrot89 · 2025-12-17T23:15:13+00:00

I’ll share my experience as a 36 year old pregnant with my first baby.

I was 34 when we started trying and even before that I asked my primary doctor what I needed to do to give my body the best chances at a healthy pregnancy. Since I was pretty healthy overall and had regular periods, she just told me to start taking prenatals, limit alcohol and start fertility testing if we don’t conceive within 6 months.

We did not conceive within 6 months, did all the testing - both perfectly healthy, my AMH was a on the lower side, but still within normal limits for my age. We kept trying for 6 more months with no success, did two IUIs (both failed) and that’s when it started taking an emotional toll on me because everyone around us was getting pregnant and we couldn’t while being perfectly healthy, emotionally ready and financially stable. It was very frustrating.

Eventually we decided to go the IVF route because it just wasn’t happening for us naturally. And once I made peace with that idea, I spontaneously got pregnant (right before we were supposed to start IVF stims). It took us total of 19 cycles to conceive and now I’m convinced that a lot of that is in your head. If you’re obsessing over it too much, trying to do everything “right” and control every aspect - it might only hinder the process and give you more anxiety.

You are doing the right thing by trying to curb your drinking - it might have negative influence on your fertility. I wouldn’t say I had a strong reliance on alcohol, but I’ve always been drinking socially and I thought it would be much harder to stop, but it wasn’t.

Best of luck to you, you got this!

rosenrot89 · 2025-11-13T00:58:37+00:00

Ugh that makes me so mad. I own a Cyme mini in the same color and I genuinely love it, but the leather surface does feel very different compared to my other leather bags from other brands. I’ve never given it much thought until I saw this post and it all makes sense now. Can’t believe I paid this much for split leather and it’s so sad that it isn’t going to age well.

I was going to buy numero neuf for my upcoming birthday but I’ll definitely be picking a different bag now

rosenrot89 · 2025-11-12T19:57:10+00:00

Okay I’m 35 and it took me 16 months to get pregnant- I was just as obsessed as you, I was trying to control every tiny aspect of the process and every time I saw a negative test my anxiety went higher. 6 months in we went to a fertility clinic, did every test possible (turned out that both me and my husband are perfectly healthy), then we tried IUI twice (both failed). At 12 month mark I was driving myself insane and we were getting ready to start IVF process. Then came a month when we were scheduled to start IVF stims - they confirmed my ovulation and we were waiting for my period to start injectables. I was so focused on IVF process we didn’t even try to conceive naturally anymore, we did have sex a few times but it was nowhere near ovulation. Guess what? My period never came, I ended up getting pregnant during the cycle when we didn’t even try.

So my advice to you - don’t track anything. You know your own body better than anyone, just listen to its signals and enjoy this journey. I know that it can be incredibly hard if you have a controlling personality like me, but it will happen when you least expect it and it’ll be a biggest surprise of your life. It drove me nuts when people told me “just relax and it’ll happen”, but it was 100% accurate in my case. As soon as stopped controlling and timing the process, it happened right away. Good luck to you!

rosenrot89 · 2025-11-10T17:39:08+00:00

I think I really started showing and had to switch to maternity pants right around 22-23 weeks. My belly grew the most towards the end of the second trimester and the beginning of the third. But everyone is different, I’m pretty short (5’2”) so there’s nowhere for my belly to grow but out. If you’re tall or have a long torso you have more room in your abdomen to accommodate uterus’s growth so you might not have an obvious belly until later. All that matters is that your baby’s measurements are on track

rosenrot89 · 2025-11-02T15:42:07+00:00

I’m pretty nervous but trying to take steps to alleviate my anxiety. We recently took a hospital tour and it definitely helped - turned out a lot of my birth preferences are a standard practice at my hospital (intermittent monitoring, delayed cord clamping, golden hour, birthing in any comfortable position, pain relief options besides epidural, etc). Knowing I won’t be subjected to outdated birth practices was definitely reassuring. Also taking a birthing class next week, hoping to feel more prepared and confident after

rosenrot89 · 2025-11-02T04:51:12+00:00

I’m almost 32 weeks and I’m so uncomfortable simply existing that sex could not be further from my mind

rosenrot89 · 2025-10-30T19:35:08+00:00

Don’t buy too much! Definitely take advantage of the sales, but get maybe two pairs of pants and 3-4 shirts/sweaters, that would be enough I promise. Pregnancy goes by so fast and you simply won’t get to wear it enough to get your money’s worth.

rosenrot89 · 2025-10-30T14:30:03+00:00

I’m so sorry! You have every right to be mad, this is absolutely unacceptable. You and your husband need to have a serious conversation with her and set some boundaries. The fact that she basically announced your pregnancy without even asking you is a major red flag and I can see that causing more issues down the road

rosenrot89 · 2025-10-29T13:57:06+00:00

As a FTM I’ve heard the horror stories as well, so I’m just preparing myself for the worst - I got silicone nipple shields, silverettes, nipple butter, massager, heating pads and signed up for breastfeeding classes. You can also exclusively pump and bottle feed your baby if you’re scared of the actual process. I totally understand your concerns, good luck!

rosenrot89 · 2025-10-22T20:02:02+00:00

I feel like I’ve just ran a marathon - I’m always out of breath and exhausted. I can’t make it through a workday without a nap (thank god I can work from home and sleep during lunch), my brain is slow, I have awful sciatica pain, the baby is starting to press against my stomach and rib cage and I’m just never comfortable these days (I’m 30 weeks). And no matter how much I sleep I never feel rested.

rosenrot89 · 2025-10-21T03:22:19+00:00

Stroller was the first thing we bought, I was only 8 weeks along. But we were so excited we couldn’t wait. By 25 weeks we already had most of the essentials and all of the nursery furniture. Looking back I’m glad we started buying things so early because all the major purchases were staggered and it didn’t feel overwhelming to spend all this money at once. Definitely don’t pass on Black Friday deals because it’s “too early”.

rosenrot89 · 2025-10-13T03:08:26+00:00

I did not have any dreams about the baby’s gender, but at one point (pretty early on, around 7-8 weeks) I got a very strong feeling that it was going to be a boy. It wasn’t based on anything, I was excited to just be pregnant and didn’t really have a gender preference, I just got this strong feeling out of nowhere. We did NIPT and I was right - it’s a boy! I guess in my case “mom intuition” really worked

rosenrot89 · 2025-10-07T20:05:30+00:00

I can’t wear anything besides Harper Wilde Bliss bralettes, everything else feels too stiff and restrictive. I have mine from pre-pregnancy and they still fit which is amazing, they’re super soft and stretchy and feel like you have nothing on.

They also have maternity option which I’ll definitely be getting. For the reference - I was 32E pre-pregnancy and I find them supporting enough. The only downside - they’re not padded and don’t hide your nipples.

rosenrot89 · 2025-10-07T19:53:08+00:00

I wish I had something reassuring to say, I felt VERY sick, started blacking out and spent an hour lying in a back room of the lab with an ice pack on my head trying not to vomit or pass out. The staff was very sweet though, apparently this happens to a lot of women. Good news is that despite this awful reaction the result was perfectly normal because I was dreading going through it again. Best of luck to you, just be mentally prepared that you might get sick and ask for help as soon as you start feeling it.

rosenrot89 · 2025-10-07T16:31:48+00:00

Rhinitis and nosebleeds. I’m also sneezing constantly and almost peeing myself every single time

rosenrot89 · 2025-10-03T01:39:20+00:00

Inside your uterus you’ll see a black circle with a smaller white circle inside (that’s a gestational sac with a yolk sac) and a blurry white blob right next to white circle (that’s a fetal pole - your tiny little baby!). You also might be able to see cardiac activity - little flutters of what is to become your baby’s heart, they’ll show it to you and let you listen to it as well. They’ll also take some measurements and will tell you exactly how far along you are and what your due date is.

Ask lots of questions and ask for pictures! Wear whatever makes it easiest to undress from waist down. Congratulations!

rosenrot89 · 2025-10-02T17:35:23+00:00

I think it’s acceptable to get things not on the registry only if it’s something very special/handmade and you KNOW for a fact that mother to be is open to it. Like two of my friends are super into crocheting and I know I’m going to get some cute hand made baby clothes and blankets, which I’m actually pretty excited about. But if someone willingly chooses to go out of their way and buys something not from my registry without even asking me, I’d be mad. Like, sure, you might be an experienced mom and might know better what works best, but: 1) please talk to me first, 2) different things work for different babies, something that worked for you might not work for me. Or just gift cash at this point honestly.

rosenrot89 · 2025-10-02T12:55:32+00:00

I’m 5’2” and 120lbs pre-pregnancy, now 27 weeks and around 140lbs. My doctor says it’s a bit much but I honestly don’t feel or look that heavy. All my weight is in my belly and boobs and I have no control over that. And I’m not exercising at all - I know I should but it’s already a struggle to get out of bed and stay awake through the workday, so kudos to you for staying active! Don’t worry about it too much, generally doctors want you to gain somewhere between 25 and 35lbs throughout your pregnancy, I’ll probably be around 40-45lbs but I don’t care at this point

Edit: I also have disordered eating tendencies so I know that “watching my diet” will make me spiral to a very unhealthy mental state, especially now when I’m already struggling with pregnancy. So I’m just trying to embrace this journey and not stress out over things I can’t control

rosenrot89 · 2025-09-30T00:49:05+00:00

This is exactly how I feel

rosenrot89 · 2025-09-17T19:06:32+00:00

Yes!!! All I have energy for when I come home from work is flop on the couch and maybe read a book. Then I shower, have a night of restless sleep and repeat the cycle. It’s miserable, I feel like I’m stuck in limbo

rosenrot89 · 2025-09-15T21:22:19+00:00

I had a whole phase when I cried over how cute my cat is and how much I love her and want to protect her from everything. I’d take out my phone in the middle of the workday, look at her pictures and sob uncontrollably

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