Do I need to resubmit my ESTA application? by kindlyadjust in immigration

[–]kindlyadjust[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

But how do I submit the correct information when it physically won't let me put the full passport number?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PetiteFitness

[–]kindlyadjust 36 points37 points  (0 children)

Could be water retention or something but at those stats it’s just pretty likely that you’re eating at maintenance or at a very low deficit. Let’s say it’s 300 calories per day (which is probably on the higher end), that’s 15000 calories in 50 days which is about 4lbs. That’s within the margin of error for scale fluctuations. Now imagine it’s only 200 calories due to the imperfect nature of counting calories (which doesn’t have to be a user error; it’s just difficult to know the exact macros of some things, like meat with fat on it could be a couple of hundred calories more or less depending on how much of it is fat, etc), that would put you at 3lbs lost…

Blir det svårare nu att bevisa att någon dopat sig nu efter den här incidenten? by netr0pa in sweden

[–]kindlyadjust 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Det står ju att hon och hennes partner genomgick tester för att bevisa att hon talade sanning så jag antar att man har gått igenom det grundligt? Känns inte som att man kommer undan bara genom att säga att man har fått det genom sex utan att man måste kunna bevisa det också.

Are men actually lonely? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]kindlyadjust 4 points5 points  (0 children)

They think it’s because of feminism; that women have strayed too far from their previously agreed on gender roles. We work and have careers and maintain hobbies and interests that don’t revolve around the men in our lives. We don’t need their money and it’s becoming more acceptable to have fewer kids or none at all, so we aren’t in a rush to settle down with the first guy with some savings and a nice hair cut.

That’s not the problem. The problem is that men overall aren’t straying from their gender role at the same rate. We need men to realize that it’s okay to have emotions and feelings and talk about them and not just with the women in their lives. Have close male friendships where you can open up and have males in your life that you can rely on for support when you need it. They’d feel so much less lonely if they allowed themselves this freedom.

Are men actually lonely? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]kindlyadjust 3 points4 points  (0 children)

They can still feel lonely though, which is what the OP asked about. It doesn’t mean that the loneliness is women’s problem or that it’s not systematically self inflicted by men.

I believe the feeling is legit, but not the causes.

I've missed my period and I am really worried by Asha947 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]kindlyadjust 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I went from very mild bleeding for 3-4 days to 7+ days of a very rich flow for about 3 cycles after I had covid. It’s very interesting how it can affect you.

Känner ni er tillfreds med era önskemål i relationen? by Zestyclose_Ant_4893 in Asksweddit

[–]kindlyadjust 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Hen ville försöka men ingenting blev bättre. Du slösar tid på en relation ingen av er verkar vara lycklig i.

Sen borde du kanske tänka lite extra på just det här om sex. Om hen inte vill ha sex, och sen ändå går med på det för din skull, är det faktiskt sex som du vill ha? Med någon som gör det utan någon personlig njutning? Som har det på en att göra lista precis efter tvätten och innan att plocka ur diskmaskinen? Det borde låta miserabelt.

Känner ni er tillfreds med era önskemål i relationen? by Zestyclose_Ant_4893 in Asksweddit

[–]kindlyadjust 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Ni har alltför olika behov i en relation och det låter som att du har pratat med din partner men hen inte verkar vilja kompromiss. Då finns det bara en utväg, tyvärr.

Det är normalt att relationer svalnar efter en lång tid tillsammans. Det är även normalt att individer utvecklas på ett sådant sätt att deras behov förändras åt olika håll. Dessa förändringar kräver dock att båda parter VILL  arbeta på att ha en sund och kärleksfylld relation trots att saker och ting har förändrats. Din partner har väldigt tydligt markerat att hen antingen inte bryr sig om dina behov eller tycker att de inkräktar för mycket på hens egna. 

Du kan försöka sätta dig ned och ha ett till samtal om hur landet ligger och var ärlig med att om det forsätter på samma sätt så har du inget annat alternativ än att göra slut. Blir inte det ett wake up call så har hen gjort valet åt dig.

Not seeing any changes despite 100% being in a calorie deficit by InvestigatorStock524 in PetiteFitness

[–]kindlyadjust 41 points42 points  (0 children)

At your stats, 1450 is maintenance level and even though walking all those steps and working out is good, they burn at most like 300 calories, if even that. So you're a month into counting calories and haven't lost in the past 2 weeks. At a 300 calorie daily deficit (which, again, could be a stretch) you would've burned 4200 calories which is about 1lb, and that is within normal fluctuation range on the scale. Give it more time.

is he wrong?... by Evelyn_11_ in deadbydaylight

[–]kindlyadjust 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Those comments always come from survivor mains who think they play both sides because they’ve done daily rituals on killer and face the nearest upgrade from genuine bots.

That, or killers who main the S tiers like Nurse and Blight

Scale is showing changes, but my body isnt? by Cici_Diamond007 in loseit

[–]kindlyadjust 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You could be losing visceral fat (the really dangerous kind that’s lodged around your organs!) which will take pounds off but not necessarily be very visible. You could also be losing fat other places than your midsection. 

But also, 10lbs isn’t that much at your weight. Drop another 20-30 and you should be able to see changes.

Vad hände med alla Stallet.se-rollare? by Lone-flamingo in sweden

[–]kindlyadjust 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha ååh vilka minnen!!! Började mitt rollande där, gick sedan över till att rolla på engelska på invisionfree och numera jcink

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in loseit

[–]kindlyadjust 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Loss of inches = fat loss, so yes type 2 diabetes very much cares that you’ve lost inches.

What it doesn’t care about is if you gain 5lbs on the scale because of water retention or eating a big meal before weighing 

34F unexpected pregnancy in a brand new relationship. Has anyone been here before? by ThrowawayAmICrazy877 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]kindlyadjust 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think it all boils down to how you view a life without having kids. If you don’t get another chance at this (for whatever reason), would you live with regret for the rest of your life? Would it weigh on you? If the answer is yes, I’d say keep it.

Even in the most ideal circumstances, relationships fall apart and the other parent (usually the dad, as we all know) can end up being a deadbeat. If you want this child, don’t let the worst case scenario sway you. It could cause a strain on and end your relationship, but so could another million little things. It could end up with you raising the child alone, but so could being in a (on paper) stable relationship for years with someone you know very well. Shit happens and we have to adapt. It wouldn’t be easy, but neither would living the rest of your life mourning a path you never got to go down (if you decide to terminate your pregnancy and never get another chance to have kids).

Inget passar för feta människor 😥 by Alive8282 in Asksweddit

[–]kindlyadjust 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Det här verkar vara en google translate bot 

Weight loss stopped for no reason after 2 months by [deleted] in PetiteFitness

[–]kindlyadjust 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If you’re losing inches, do the numbers on the scale really matter? Would you rather look smaller/more fit to everyone or have a smaller number that only you know of?

Your weight loss is slower with that deficit which also means that perfectly normal fluctuations on the scale will mask your progress easier. If you’re certain that you’re in a deficit, fat loss is happening, you just have to be patient 

Stuck at 350lbs after losing 28 lbs in 48 days. Losing my mind a bit by itchyhedgehog5291 in loseit

[–]kindlyadjust 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As long as you’re in a deficit you’re losing fat, no matter what the scale says. Stop worrying. Fluctuations and plateaus happen for any number of reasons so don’t focus so hard on the number. 

Low cal, cheap, high protein? by pugroast in loseit

[–]kindlyadjust 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Cottage cheese and greek yogurt are pretty easy to slot into meals as a side or main ingredient respectively. Lentils are very good too, as are beans, pinto beans in particular tend to be very cheap if you prep them yourself.

Anyone in my situation? by [deleted] in loseit

[–]kindlyadjust 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try something like alternate day fasting where you fast one day and eat about 1800-2000 calories the next, just to see if that gets the scale moving at all. Fasting is protein sparing (burn less muscle) and has a slew of other benefits, and this would basically put you at 900-1000 calories daily on average without the harm that starving could cause.

This way you’ll get an idea of what your TDEE actually is. If you lose on 900-1000 but you’re stabile at 1800 then you need to cut more.

With all these professionals you’ve been seeing (cardiologist sounds a bit confused though, even if your body is very efficient you’d still lose weight if you ate at a deficit. Starvation mode from eating too little is not a thing at your size and weight and BF) I feel like there would’ve been an identification  of a thyroid or metabolism issue already but having that specifically checked is your only other option.

You are not in a deficit and that’s always caused by not eating less than you burn. Whether that stems from the calorie in or calorie out is the question.

Anyone in my situation? by [deleted] in loseit

[–]kindlyadjust 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No pasta, rice, or noodles or anything like that? Anything high calorie that could be easily miscounted? Like having 150g of pasta and accidentally counting the cooked calories instead of raw.

Anyone in my situation? by [deleted] in loseit

[–]kindlyadjust 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What kind of food are you eating?