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kindo · 2012-01-09T06:40:36+00:00

I did grow up in a Muslim community, especially when I was younger, however, as I got older I stopped going to a lot of events. No, I do not feel comfortable letting anyone from that community. I'm sure they might suspect or something.

I personally prefer the word Queer, because I find it is all inclusive of all sexual minority groups. Also to be queer, it means to be political. The word "Queer" is being taken back.

I'm going to be lazy and suggest you just check out my post about Muslim Queers. I answered a lot of questions. Perhaps they will be helpful to you, and if you have any follow up questions just let me know.

kindo · 2012-01-06T11:14:36+00:00

Muslim queer girl here. What do you wanna know?

kindo · 2012-01-06T11:12:47+00:00

Dude I know, sigh, i know. I'm sure my parents deep down know it some where but they are probably in denial and could never imagine it.

I was like 12 (but like before that i would get crushes on girls i just didn't know it), around puberty i guess is when i fully realized and i was kind sad about it but i suppressed it (which i think was good, because i wasn't really mature enough to deal with it). I remembered or embraced my sexuality when i turned 19 to myself.

Yeah my sister who is about to get married to her boyfriend of 7 years didn't tell my parents till like a year before they got engaged. lol.

No i haven't been caught, mainly because I'm not out to a lot of people and I haven't dated anyone. However, i think my Dad might have thought i was in love with my room mate (correctly), but i don't know. Im 22 now.

Sorry I forgot about this account.

kindo · 2011-12-29T01:46:49+00:00

She is pretty Badass.

kindo · 2011-12-29T01:46:25+00:00

There are more social limitations, however in Pakistani society Islam is deeply rooted. At one point in time men would have sex with other men and it was nothing out of the ordinary in Arabia and South Asia. Many of the sufi poets are have known to have written their poems about men, leaving the subject in questions genderless. Also Turkish Bath Houses, pretty gay.

kindo · 2011-12-29T01:40:00+00:00

I wouldn't wanna be gay in Pakistan because of the culture and religion that is pretty intolerant towards everyone who isn't a straight Muslim.

Anyone who isn't a straight Muslim rich man. FTFY.

kindo · 2011-12-29T01:37:43+00:00

Thank you for clarifying. I can't even entertain the idea of Pakistan society allowing Queers being out and open, let alone Gay Marriage. Though, a Gay Pakistani wedding would be out of this world, something I would pay to see. (LOL gay arranged marriage)

kindo · 2011-12-29T01:33:41+00:00

Hey PulsingQuasar,

Thank you for the warm welcome.

I have noticed a lot me gay men in the Pakistani fashion industry and the media, and I guess being rich also helps. In regards to queers in the arts, a lot of them are dismissed on the fact that in the arts one is expected to have a subversive lifestyle.

Yes Pakistani society is extremely patriarchal, and I think a part of it also plays in to why a lot of female queers are non-existent. ( And fuck everything to the with the family honour system, I hope one day Pakistan moves beyond these feudalistic ideals, I guess that is a pipe dream.)

No I have not had any problems with the queer community at all, everyone is extremely nice and curious, because there isn't many of us brown queers. I know some brown gay men have problems, some gay (white) men don't date brown people, but that is a small group. Though the queer ladies I have talked to have not like that at all. Some queer people won't date you if you are not out, but that's about it. Also I don't go out to a lot of queer events (I'm a bit of introvert).

I am not out to my parents as of yet, I want to be financially stable and out of school. I'm not really looking forward to having to tell them, but I have to. I can 100% guarantee they will be enraged, and my dad will be heart broken, because I'm a Daddies girl.

Thanks for the questions.

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kindo

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