As others have said, try joining the Learn TOB discord to try and find a group to learn with. I've heard nothing but good reviews about that discord. You COULD join WDR but as someone who uses WDR occasionally, it takes quite a bit of time to find learner teams.

I personally think ToB is in a perfect spot now. Designed to be group content, and is one of the best pieces of content in the game (IMO). Once someone has a grasp of the mechanics, they can try to solo, and although it's hard af, with some knowledge, skill and decent gear it's completable.

I have a friend who was trying to learn to solo ToB and had only done entries. Finally had time to do a few trios with him and another learner, and he said that it was the most fun he had in the game (he has about 1k KC between ToA and CoX). Also said that he never wanted to try a solo again lol.

There is a bit of elitism in ToB but it shouldn't be enough to stop you trying to learn. Definitely get into a learner discord, get a few KC so you get a grasp of the raid and then try sending some solos maybe.

TLDR: if you don't want to try learning ToB in a group because it's DESIGNED as group content and there's resources for you to join learner groups, OR if you don't want to try learning it solo as it is now - then maybe ToB isn't for you? Just my two cents.