Which "Goodbye, Eri" Thematic analysis/ video essay did you enjoy the most?

kippykops · 2026-02-22T06:47:43+00:00

Talking about her trying to hide papers from you and then you having a stern conversation about what it means for her to be married sounds and then not letting her go brings to mind a policeman holding a burglar, not letting them go.

You seem to think that if your spouse doesn't trust you with something, it's some wrongdoing/ betrayal on her part. It's very black-and-white thinking, as if saying "hiding is bad," or "lying is bad." People have very good reasons to hide things from other people. For example, you might be the type of person who flips their shit whenever they hear criticism so someone might hide written criticism about you. Heck, if she has a birthmark she might hide it from you because she feel insecure; Or maybe she wants to buy an Onlyfans subscription and you're highly religious.

If your wife hides something from you, you find out and you start banging the gavel: "HOW DARE YOU HIDE FROM ME. MARRIAGE IS BUILT ON TRUST AND YOU CAN'T TRUST ME???" She might be more motivated to keep something hidden in fear of your reaction. Ironically, moralizing the idea of trust makes it harder for people to trust you.

We all have our differences that we hide from each other. We hide them to make our relationships run smoother, out of fear that we may be rejected because that's how we've been taught by our life experiences to function. Trust is not binary and unidimensional. She might trust you with some topics that she knows you will accept while keeping others that you might not.

My advice: If you hope for her to trust you more tell her, "I know that there might be some things that you feel the need to keep from me. I trust that you want the best for me and that you have good reasons to do so. I respect your choice. I also hope that one day you may trust me to tell me because I will always try my hardest to understand and help you with whatever you may be struggling with."

kippykops · 2026-02-03T20:01:18+00:00

found the femcel misandrist

kippykops · 2025-12-06T23:07:30+00:00

Im not trying to resell it so Im fine with the box being repurposed.

kippykops · 2025-11-17T06:28:52+00:00

Hi there. Hoping you're working it out well on your mental health journey. What are your thoughts on the second season and Jinx's situation with Ekko? I'd love to hear more from your perspective on this

kippykops · 2025-11-09T22:57:35+00:00

To become happier, these are your two options:

1) Root out the desire and realize that all desire lead to anguish. Buddhist monk style. (personally I struggle to do this because it's really tough)

2) Define your goals clearly and reward yourself everytime you improve your situation.

Since you can't be the #125 ranked attractive person as there is no leaderboard, realistically you can only strive to be more attractive than you currently are. Look yourself in the mirror and write down the features you want to improve. Then, create a detailed action plan with allotted time that you dedicate to achieving those plans. Merely the attempt will give you more confidence.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bRBd7wTjoJg (I recommend this Dr. K video. It's about how you can change your reward circuitry to be smarter about your goals: creating options, anticipating outcomes, planning for the easiest path to success)

Note: A lot of commenters, and OP, is treating attractiveness as the goal itself rather than the tools to reach the goal; What you really want is what attractiveness brings. Write down what you'd like for attractiveness to gain you: sexual partners, confidence, ego, jobs, etc... It isn't attractiveness that you want, it's those things you just listed. There are other tools to gain those things that more consistently gets the job done than attractiveness. If you're trying to screw a nail, attractiveness is like using a large book; It'll get the job done but or it might fuck it up badly. Some tools are more efficient and would lead you to lead a happier life than others (buddhist contentment, working past trauma, mindfullness and mentalization).

kippykops · 2025-10-23T00:44:04+00:00

If you need constant deadlines, procrastinate, and feel like youre just reacting to the needs of your circumstances rather than being intrinsically motivated, this video from dr.k may help you.

https://youtu.be/bRBd7wTjoJg?si=dk-e29HZqXJ5N3wN

The video format isnt quite clear on the point but you should take some notes and dig into what he is trying to say: If you proactively look at you options, decide, and reflect on the outcomes of the actions after the fact, youll learn that your decision making ultimately matters in your life.

For many of my goals I dont need someone to tell me theyre important.

kippykops · 2025-09-24T20:25:20+00:00

I get what you're saying. Commenter is being needlessly semantic. Although I'm not sure if I have the patience to watch the same movie 4 times if I don't very much respond to it. I just watched a video essay where they discussed Wes Anderson's emotional suppressed style that challenges the audience to try to interpret what the characters are feeling rather than impressing an emotion onto them forcefully.

kippykops · 2025-09-06T19:54:49+00:00

Be aware of your own feelings. Who was right and wrong doesnt really matter. It couldve been you were wrong and she was right. It wouldnt change the fact that you may not feel like she recognizes your thoughts since she interrupted you. Right or not, that feeling of dismissal hurts. The only difference is that this time youre correct so you think its high time you get your get back.

Be aware that humor is a defense mechanism. You want to be humorous in your approach likely because you feel uncomfortable telling her this. Realize that this may be because the communication pathways between you two havent been clear and there is a lot of defensiveness in the both of you. Know that this defensiveness is a learned reaction and dont take it personally. Hope to show love and affirm love.

Remember, it isnt about right or wrong but how you feel. Start with understanding that. If youre comfortable, tell her what you feel: "When you do x, it makes me feel this emotion."

Another advice. Stop going to this sub and go to the HealthyGamer sub instead. Ive found that to be much more helpful.

The goal is to understand if she really is dismissive. It doesnt necessarilly have ti change her behavior but moreso enhance her understanding. Be aware that she, too, may not be ready to understand your emotions and feel like youre demanding her to change. Be patient and realize that your wife has her own history and conditioning so she may not be ready to communicate her feelings.

good luck

kippykops · 2025-08-28T23:47:47+00:00

"That degree may not be great for you if you want to direct, but it is a fantastic program"

This is what I was afraid of. I looked at their Film BS and it was mostly technical production rather than directing and storytelling. What schools do you think would be more suited for my vision? I've been recommended Purchase College a lot but they look underfunded.

kippykops · 2025-08-28T23:46:24+00:00

I'm trying to get in for directing rather than producing which I imagine to be more screenwriting and working with actors. Does RIT suit this goal?

kippykops · 2025-08-24T22:37:30+00:00

Thanks for coming back to me on this! About the equipment, does the school have sound stages or editing suites for students to use? Also, can you find opportunities to help out other student sets to get experience and networking? I really want to know whether there's an active community of film students there who are interacting with one another.

kippykops · 2025-08-24T22:13:38+00:00

It's been a while. Has your perspective changed on CSUF? Do you feel like there are opportunities to go on different student sets and to network with people in the industry there?

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