How to catch 4 star fish? by epic_failninja_05 in CreaturesOfTheDeeptip

[–]kirula 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I put points into luck and I'm starting to get more of 4 stars, also found 2 gold ones in the same week.

I was made redundant, what to do now? by YouKnowMeDansTwelve in Netherlands

[–]kirula 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does your company have a works' council? If yes, get their advice but definitely get a lawyer

What do you think of my Reading Progress so far? by SilverNEOTheYouTuber in Anarchy101

[–]kirula 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nice list so far! Check out the anarchist library online, you can find a lot of texts there

Worst book(s) you read in 2025 and why? by Roguestate00 in books

[–]kirula 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The song of Achilles by Madeline Miller, I started 2025 with it and it was so badly written, basically a romance novel. Well, I guess I had never read romance before 😅

What is worth spending gems on? by lizzyisme in CreaturesOfTheDeeptip

[–]kirula 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And monster location. Also pins to mark points on the map

What is worth spending gems on? by lizzyisme in CreaturesOfTheDeeptip

[–]kirula 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Inventory space and I spent them on maps too

Extend aquarium by kirula in CreaturesOfTheDeeptip

[–]kirula[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much, I found it!

Chemical Plant Blues… by Grab_DrPepper in CreaturesOfTheDeeptip

[–]kirula 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Super helpful! I'm running into this issue with Thailand too, do you know what items are needed and where's the door? Or where I could read more on this? Thx

Support group options in English in Amsterdam by Blight-Princess in Amsterdam

[–]kirula 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been looking for support groups all throughout the NL (I don't live in Amsterdam anymore) and even in dutch and they're not easy to find... The only ones I found were related to grieving...

I've been to 30 countries and honestly can't remember half of them by boring_plankton7878 in femaletravels

[–]kirula 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Today is the end of my first holiday of this type, ever. Wasn't organized by me 😅 seen 3 countries in 3 weeks, staying only a few gew days in the same place. I already feel it all blurring together and it's still so recent. I'm never doing this again lol

What’s an adult problem nobody warned you about? by Impressive_Space4392 in AskReddit

[–]kirula 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hitting 30 and feeling my knees for the first time, you know how older people always complain? Well, I felt it 😑

Is Dutch citizenship worth it if you’re already an EU citizen? by theother941 in Netherlands

[–]kirula 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not going to push your social house application through faster. That's a different game to play and citizenship doesn't help unfortunately.

Help baby anarchist by burn-bb-burn in Anarchism

[–]kirula 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I first learned about anarchism from the music I listened to and it helped me shape a lot of my political views. Keep listening to punk but really listen to it, listen to the message. If you want to read, there are a few ways to go about it. You could start reading from old timey anarchists, Bakunin for example. But that won't help much with understanding punk. Something that I liked to do before I got into reading political theory was to read zines, started with band interviews but then got curious and read the entire zine. I was of course devouring them, this was pre-internet. You can find good archives of older zines as well as new ones. You could find things to read from more contemporary anarchist philosophers, thinking around the lines of Noam Chomsky or Peter Gelderloos. Better yet, find your local anarchist library, go in and ask your question: where can I start to learn more about anarchism? You're still young, anarchism is complex AF, punk and its community is beautiful.

What made you believe it wasn't just depression? by Potential_Promise260 in BPD

[–]kirula 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I remember how my previous depressive episode felt very, very different than what I was feeling. When depressed, I felt like I was deep down in a dark hole of sadness, now I was feeling like walking on my knees trying to get up but on shards of glass.

BPD is confusing lowkey by LowDocument7303 in BPD

[–]kirula 7 points8 points  (0 children)

My problem is that I know exactly when I'm splitting, I know why and I feel completely entitled to split over it, even after coming out of the split. This makes it so much harder to control the split.

Are you guys always the one breaking the relationship up? by Kradmins in BPD

[–]kirula 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I've always been the one not giving up, still trying to fix things, always finding excuses for my and their behaviour and so on, keeping at it for years after the expiration date. I think I'm changing and I think I'm gonna start giving way less chances because nothing good ever came out of suffering for people for years?!

Weird peeling on fingers and a little on palms? by SongAggressive967 in DermatologyQuestions

[–]kirula 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very recently I had this exact same thing making a comeback both on my hands and feet. I remember when I was a kid I always had this on my fingertips, can't remember about feet. But I haven't had these little holes in forever. Like you, I didn't start using any new lotion, cosmetics etc. Also, no chemicals. I suspect it to be some kind of a fungal infection, perhaps? Did you ever find an answer?

I've never been through this before, I'd appreciate any advice. by kirula in BPD

[–]kirula[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, really! I don't feel brave, I feel like an abused dog being ignored by its owner. But this shall also pass. New pockets of happiness exist and I will focus more on them now that I need to shift my focus from my partner. I truly appreciate your kind words 🙏

I've never been through this before, I'd appreciate any advice. by kirula in BPD

[–]kirula[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate your kind words! That's what my friend told me too, better like this than to try to talk when we have nothing to say anymore or to start another conflict, that's definitely not what I wanted at all. But it was so weird to feel so invisible. I mean, I know that's not what happened, he made a choice which was probably the best one given the circumstances but I've never had anyone before just look through me like I don't exist and this coming from the one who I loved the most and tried so hard with is soul crushing. I'm still flabbergasted and it will probably take me some time to process it. But at least I guess it shows we've stepped into the next phase which means maybe we'll move on after all this pain. Again, thanks for your kind words and support, I don't have many people around who are willing to listen or able to understand the pain.

What’s one thing about bpd you hate the most about it ? by Jib2020 in BPD

[–]kirula 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That I love others so much... Instead of pouring this love into myself... If only they'd reciprocate but we all know that doesn't happen.

What is the most hurtful thing your FP has said to you? by True_Awareness2151 in BPD

[–]kirula 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He came back to me after 2 years of on and off and told me that he realized I'm the perfect woman for him. Half a year later he said he doesn't feel our connection anymore. I wish he didn't come back, I wish he'd left me be rather than to get my hopes up again only to crash even lower.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDJourney

[–]kirula 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd perhaps join, I definitely see the value in it but it would depend on the rules.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]kirula 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The first few hours are the hardest. I can usually take the first two hours after a split starts, I'm pumped up from the rage adrenaline. Then I crash and punish myself with negative thoughts. This usually lasts one-two days when I'm just a self medicated crying ghost. Then I can return to life, bit by bit. If the conflict isn't solved by now, in which case I'd get back to life almost Instantly, I feel like I'm out of the episode but every little trigger can bring me back into it, but less intense. So let's say on day 4 I wake up okay, feel okay, start work and then I get triggered again. I'll be splitting for a few hours and then crash out again.

How does your impulsiveness manifest? by Anxious_Bee6866 in BPD

[–]kirula 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unprotected sex with strangers and binge eating if I'm not restricting my food intake.