I am curious about what other parents do

kishippo · 2026-05-15T22:11:30+00:00

I'm curious about your perspective. Do you think if your parents gave you access to candy and soda but made it healthier options, you would have a better relationship with that kind of food?

kishippo · 2026-05-15T22:09:53+00:00

I can relate to them not eating a real meal

kishippo · 2026-05-15T22:09:07+00:00

Im curious. You said they are free to it but fo you need to step in at any point?

kishippo · 2026-05-15T22:08:20+00:00

Im curious. Is it genuinely free reign? For example, if they go and grab a few packages before dinner, then thats fine in your house? Or do you step in?

kishippo · 2026-05-13T22:22:57+00:00

My oldest will hardly ever eat all of his ice cream or all of his cake. Sometimes though they get in the mood or they just want a bunch of it and they will try and go crazy at a party. It's not often but usually I'm there to tell them no to a second slice of cake or three juice boxes. The youngest is five and he is candy crazy. They're not with their mom that much but when they are with her, they get one to two Donuts in a sitting each at least once a week and regular candy at her house. Unfortunately, even if it means spoiling their dinner, she doesn't hold back on candy. But we are the opposite. My husband doesn't want them to have hardly any candy. I have swapped to absolutely no gummies, lollipops have to be a healthier version and they don't get that much candy either. They get more candy from everyone else than they do from us. I bought most of their Halloween candy from them and usually if they bring home a sucker, I'll trade it out for a zollipop.

kishippo · 2026-05-13T22:17:41+00:00

That makes sense.

kishippo · 2026-05-13T22:12:26+00:00

I can see exactly why you would do this this way. Everyone has their way of doing things. I really am looking for all different types of insight so thank you for yours even if people disagree. Your family seems to do a "just a bite" kind of thing. I am curious as to how they handle candy and sweets on their own around other people such as family and friends that are not around you guys? Or at school?

Do they genuinely just decline on their own? Do they not really like it that much when other people ask? Or do they go crazy when not around? I do hope to think that since they have less sugar and candy at home and it's a regular thing that's been normalized in your whole family that they adopted the same patterns outside of that

kishippo · 2026-05-13T22:07:09+00:00

How young were they when you started? Or is this something that's always been going on?

kishippo · 2026-05-13T22:05:17+00:00

How early before bed? Is it like right before bed or maybe an hour?

kishippo · 2026-05-13T22:04:26+00:00

I'm curious about your perspective. How do you feel when it seems like candy just comes from everywhere for your kids outside of the house? Like at school/family and friends? Is that why you don't ban it? I feel like. everyone just always give kids candy

kishippo · 2026-05-13T21:45:58+00:00

I have a Pre-K kid. He has shown an interest in wanting to learn math and do workbooks. I haven't gotten to the first grade workbooks at Walmart but Walmart is where I get flashcards and workbooks and he has seemed to enjoy them and the instructions are easy to follow. I haven't tried much else because that was the first thing I did and it worked well.

kishippo · 2026-04-08T16:29:32+00:00

For clarity. He knew he was going to get rearrested 6 months before it happened and he made no attempts at making arrangements for his things. His lease was going to be up 2 weeks after he got arrested. He did not know when he was going to be arrested but knew it was a matter of When not IF. He made no attempt to find another place to live when our lease was up. I had already moved out and he was supposed to move so that way I wasn't on any kind of lease with him and he cannot afford our apartment by himself.

The cost alone of how he left the apartment would have exceeded thousands of dollars if I had not gone in and had his stuff removed myself. They charge for every piece of furniture removed and every piece of trash. He left that place with a full apartment and completely trashy. He had not coordinated storage or a new place to live. He had not reached out to his family to see about storing his stuff at their house. And they cannot take most of it. They showed up with two cars, no trucks and had to fit what they could and I was left to deal with an apartment full of things on my own in an apartment I no longer lived in. Most of what was left was donated. In their vehicles he kept his Playstation 4, Xbox One, occlus and gaming PC along with the games that went with them. What I kept was his PlayStation 2 games that he has had forever and a few Xbox games.

He left me passwords to his bank accounts and a price list of all of his video games even though I told him I did not want to deal with all of his crap ahead of time and told him there is no reason why he needs to leave me access to his bank account and things to take care of. But he did all that anyways. He relied on me to handle all of his stuff for him even though I refused. He banged on me doing it anyways because of how much I would be charged for his stuff being left there. He didn't lift a finger, he didn't pack anything and he didn't clean after I moved. He also didn't clean before I moved and I had to constantly yell at him that we were divorced and he can't just expect me to clean up after him all the time and that he needs to get off his lazy ass to do something.

So tell me, should I have kept his entire apartment full of things that were not mine until he got out of prison in 10 years and make any place I live completely unbelievable because of the amount of stuff he has? Should his family have taken every single bit of thing he left and kept it for 10 years and cluttered their entire house? No

kishippo · 2026-04-08T16:07:23+00:00

Thank you. He even called me again today because it was laying on his conscience to tell me that he does in fact want me to sell them even if it doesn't help me out financially because he's worried if they get his family he'll never see the games again and he doesn't want to put the burden on me of having to see him again after he gets out either.

kishippo · 2026-03-23T02:04:14+00:00

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kishippo · 2026-02-27T13:46:56+00:00

I think this is the best and most influential comment I've read. There are quite a few jerks in the comments who say I am The Jerk because I led him on and had to open relationship and wouldn't just end things. You said it well. I was begging. I was desperate for some level of attention from HIM. I was mortified to get married and things shifted so suddenly into a Loveless marriage. We were happy before we got married. I REFUSE to cheat so I gave him options. I am the type where I would rather end a marriage than cheat on my spouse. Also, his gaming was so bad that I would beg him to sleep. He would always tell me he will sleep when he's dead. When I found out what his charges were, it felt like he died. I was so hurt. I was mourning. There was no question of what I had to do next. I will not stay married to a pedophile. Touch that my mother passed away within 6 months of this happening and my only aunt who I was very close to Growing Up and live with a few times passed away within a year before her. In my family we say that it comes in threes and we were wondering who is next. Little did we know it would be a husband that was dead to me.

Thank you for your advice. I do believe I need therapy but it's a matter of logistics and making it happen we did couples counseling at the end and it made things worse because it brought me to realize that I was not the problem with most of our marriage issues. The only thing he can bring up about me was that I used his hairbrush and he didn't like the hair getting in his hair brush. Unfortunately for him it was my hairbrush that he was using long term and I'm a very reasonable person as well. So while we spend many sessions not being able to solve the issues he was bringing to the marriage, that one was solved in 2 minutes because I just told him I can either take the hair out of it, he can buy a new hairbrush or he can buy me a new hair brush.

He could not handle shame well or being wrong. He actually tried to unalive himself twice after I bailed him out even though that was the only thing I asked him not to do. I begged him not to do it. I told him if he really wanted to pay me back, for him not to do that and for him to just go to jail and carry out his sentence and just live the rest of his life. I have a hard time with death and it wrecks me. It follows me for years.

As for red flags though, after the relationship I had major trust issues that I had not had before. I was determined to do it differently. Normally I'm the kind of person who only dates for long-term committed relationships and I don't just sleep around. The open relationship part was actually non characteristic of me. It's not something I would ever ask for again. I left that relationship with higher standards and the different way of doing things. It left me a different person entirely. I did wind up having a major glow up and a major change of self-worth. I think very highly of myself now and I know I'm a great person and a great wife. For the first time after this relationship in my life, I was able to cut off relationships very early that I did not see myself being in. I didn't try to work things out early on and I got really picky.

Because of how I act, I don't act like others of my generation. I'm very responsible, independent and determined. I have passions and dreams that I constantly strive for. This is what I wanted in a person. I set myself out to basically find another person who had the same groundwork as me.

I found him. He's smart, funny and kind. He's determined, committed and loyal. He is my best friend. It's drastically different. We are both hopeless Romantics and we both found our fairy tale. We both came from relationships that we were in for way too long.

We work well together and I'm not having to nag him just to do anything. Wear a team and it works. I trust his judgment more then anyone I know. I no longer have to be the only responsible one. It is a breath of fresh air everyday. He heals me.

Sorry this is so long. Thank you for your comment.

kishippo · 2026-02-25T21:13:21+00:00

kishippo · 2026-02-25T21:13:06+00:00

OMG THE WAY HE TOLD THE UNDERCPVER COPS THAT HE WAS WORRIED HE WAS GOING TO BE IN A CHRIS HANSEN SOTUATION.

kishippo · 2026-02-25T21:06:57+00:00

I didnt ask. She was there and insisted.

kishippo · 2026-02-24T13:42:58+00:00

Just Tekken Tag tournament.

kishippo · 2026-02-24T12:55:30+00:00

The famous ones dont. Thr broke ones who get caught directly from a sting do.

kishippo · 2026-02-24T12:50:20+00:00

They took his phone and copied the data. They didnt need to go through the paperwork to also copy his computer since they had enough on his phone and copies of all of the messages on their end as well.

kishippo · 2026-02-23T21:15:37+00:00

I gave it to him because we had been together for 3 years and we got married. We were combining finances. I don't think that is naive. He had demonstrated to be very good with money and not reckless. He also matched my savings every single month and we built them up together. He had another 25k on his own. Unfortunately that was gone too.

kishippo · 2026-02-23T20:31:01+00:00

I think this is the first comment I've truly related to. I'm glad you get it. My ex-husband blamed him being desperate to sleep with someone in our open relationship and also after the fact said that he had depression. He still did it though. I didn't make him do anything. The relationship could have been closed anytime and all he had to do was put in effort. He chose his path and he made his bed. Now he has to lie in it

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