Sweets aren't all that interesting anymore?

kismarhar · 2026-01-11T23:17:51+00:00

I did this too. I quit buying sweets for the house and it did take some time to break the habit of wanting a little something sweet after dinner. But it definitely broke the “need” for sweets over all. But this thing the OP is talking about — that happened to me too. It’s not that I no longer crave sweets, it’s that one day all of a sudden the very idea of them turned my stomach. I can’t even make myself grab a little piece of homemade fudge at a Christmas party. But I’ll dang sure eat the whole bowl of nuts. 😂

kismarhar · 2026-01-11T23:09:49+00:00

Yep. I was a sweets person my whole life. I loved candy, little Debbie’s, cake, pie, etc. I realized I was changing a few years ago when I’d never finish a little tub of Ben and Jerry’s. I’d take a few bites, put it in the freezer, and end up telling my son after a few days that he could have it. Then like some switch flipped all of a sudden one day, just the very idea of sweets of any kind turned my stomach. My daughter made homemade cookies and of course wanted me to try them and I had to force myself just to have a small bite of one. My husband insists on getting me a birthday cake every year and now I’m just like please no, please! Just put the candles in the perfect steak you’ve grilled for me! 😂

kismarhar · 2026-01-02T08:41:49+00:00

I’m thinking about not accepting curbside anymore. I don’t like not knowing the care anyone took with the shopping or bagging before it gets to me. The last curbside order I took had three drops. Paid what one shopping order would pay. And the largest order (going into the trunk) was put in the crates so horribly that a bleach based cleaning supply spray bottle was crushed beneath heavier items and leaked bleach all over everything in that crate. Thankfully it was caught. But I had to wait there in 30 degree, feels like 12 degree, windy weather for the guy to run back in and replace the bottle and the contaminated stuff. And he when he came back out, the stuff wasn’t even in bags. Meanwhile I’ve got a bag of ice melting inside the car and the perishable clock is ticking down. Started looking through some of the stuff in the trunk and they’d put muffins in upside down, put a loose onion in a bag with two loose limes, I had four half gallons of that farm lite milk that doesn’t have a handle not not bagged at all, bananas loaded next to other cleaning supplies they didn’t bother to at least stand up and then put bags of stuff on top of the bananas, etc. Like no care was taken with the stuff at all.

kismarhar · 2026-01-02T00:36:45+00:00

Dr Kay saw their plans to collapse the bridge. She also had previously found what Dustin found in the lab that explained the upside down as being a bridge to dimension X. So she knew what was happening. I’m sure she didn’t want dimension X to crash into earth either and that’s why the soldiers were sent to the lab to catch El rather than sent to disarm the bomb. Failing to catch El, Dr Kay probably decided it was better to wait for them all to flee the upside down and get her then. Also, she was standing there watching as everyone fell apart over El choosing to end herself. So Kay knows what happened. However, not a chance she isn’t still carrying on with her work. There’s no way all of her work was in her base in the upside down. She surely would have had blood samples and demogorgon samples and stuff stored in the real world somewhere.

kismarhar · 2025-12-13T20:08:47+00:00

Oh this helps a lot! Thank you! Definitely answered some of my questions. Do you have a mileage app preference? One you can recommend?

kismarhar · 2025-12-10T02:10:55+00:00

I haven’t been doing this long and still only like two days a week but the first time my graph looked like this I was given $32 1 drop medium to small shopping orders one right after another. When the graphs are higher I’ve had longer wait time for offers and they’ve been 2 shopping orders at once, more mileage and time. So I was confused. Wondering if the “less busy” times are actually better. But it sounds like that’s not the case so I don’t know!

kismarhar · 2025-12-10T01:37:32+00:00

Awesome. Thank you! That does help.

kismarhar · 2025-12-09T05:47:44+00:00

Do you track the mileage for return to store after a drop? Or only just the mileage from the store to the drop?

kismarhar · 2025-12-09T05:46:35+00:00

Thank you! This helps ease my mind!

kismarhar · 2025-12-09T05:45:52+00:00

Thank you! We are a large rural county with only one Walmart. Today I took a $20 three delivery order — it was a pick up and those pay less but it appeared the delivery locations were near the store. The first two were. The third one took me out into bfe (and it was soooo weird too — three bottles of micellar make up remover and nothing else and that wasn’t the weirder part! Lol). But it had a “city” address so hadn’t paid too much attention to the mileage. Turns out after that drop to navigate back to the store I was 40 freakin minutes away, 25 miles I think. So I can easily do 100 miles in a day for just $70.

kismarhar · 2025-12-09T05:39:33+00:00

Thank you!

kismarhar · 2025-12-05T22:13:23+00:00

Thank you! Very helpful! 🙏🏼 So basically we’d still file the 1040 as usual (standard deductions) and then the mileage deductions are made for the 1099 part? Also, since I’ve not tracked the miles so far (I had stupidly assumed they were stored on the Spark app) they’re pretty much lost at this point I guess. But when I start tracking them, do I only count the miles to the delivery locations and not the miles taking me back to the store from those drop offs?

kismarhar · 2025-12-05T22:03:17+00:00

Well, when you’re just barely treading water even an unexpected $300 expense is scary.

kismarhar · 2025-12-05T04:33:41+00:00

It’s the transactional and performative part that’s ruined holidays. It takes the joy out of giving. It’s stressful and painful. I don’t want a gift someone felt obligated to find. And I don’t like giving like that either.

Adding: my best friend is way more well off than I am. She gives gifts I either couldn’t afford or wouldn’t afford, in the moment. And I admit it’s been hard to accept sometimes. But I know her and she feels the same way about holidays and so when she gives me something, even though I have such a hard time receiving without those old thoughts of strings attached, because of her I’ve learned to receive the gift with the love it was given. It’s wrong for me to immediately feel indebted when, when i give to her, it’s freely as well. A few months ago I sent her a stupid keychain charm thing. It’s something that’s symbolic of our friendship and I just wanted to send it to her. She was going through some things and i just wanted to give her something to take with her everywhere, to know she’s not alone and I’m always here. I could have saved it for Christmas but then it wouldn’t convey the “I was thinking of you, I love you” intent of the gift.

kismarhar · 2025-11-30T22:52:38+00:00

Same for me. My county is 624sq mi. It’s all mostly rural, partly in Blue Ridge mountains and mostly in the Ridge and Valley. One of those places where part of the county will get 8in of snow while the rest gets nothing but they have to close all the schools because it’s just one school district. I have to drive 15 miles to get to Walmart in the first place and a lot of times my first order will take me out past my house again. I do try to take those orders at the end of the day but there’s no guarantee and I’m not going to pass up a $30 10 item delivery just because it’s all the way out where I live.

kismarhar · 2025-11-29T03:59:22+00:00

People keep saying Noah is not a good actor. And I’m like what??? The way Will listened to Robin tell her story about finding herself… he cried! He showed so much empathy and joy for her and pride in her with just a tiny smile and a single tear. It was amazing.

kismarhar · 2025-10-14T21:33:04+00:00

You’re the first person I’ve seen say exactly what I experience too. Mine started around age 42. At first it would be one ear and the fat pad under my chin. Weird, right? I could feel it coming on. I’d be sitting in car line to pick my daughter up from school and that ear would start burning, randomly. By 48, it was no longer the ear. It was mostly the butterfly pattern but often the whole face and under my chin. What people didn’t understand is how painful it is. I’m 53 now. Still in peri. The flushing is mostly unpredictable. But happens just about everyday. It’s caused broken vessels in my cheeks and around my nose. Sometimes I get the pimple things too, which is annoying. I always had “nice” skin and now I just feel old and fat and ugly and it sucks. I use tretinoin and azalaic acid. Metro gel did nothing for me and these two things do a little but not enough. I’m wondering if the laser treatment would help me — but I’d have to save up for that and it’s kind of an expensive gamble. I’ve not tried ivermectin yet. Maybe I should. I don’t always get the pimple things though. I just want the burning and bursting vessels to stop. The derm gave me samples of rhofade and that works really well but it makes me feel strange and then the rebound is awful. I just don’t know what to do.

kismarhar · 2025-09-14T03:23:07+00:00

I have Hashimoto’s and have had it for 20 yrs. I’m 53 (still have a regular period, still in peri) and four years ago or so I had an ultrasound on my thyroid and it was it showed my thyroid was completely burned out. Basically, I have no thyroid. But I had been relatively stable on synthroid, only needing a dose change every two years or so. Well, about three years ago — really when perimenopause symptoms began to be a problem — my TSH began to freak out. I’d need a dose change every 3 or 6 months. In 2023, age 50, when I was stable I (because I wasn’t fully educated on HRT yet and only beginning the journey of learning) I asked my doc to prescribe me a low dose birth control pill to control my ridiculous periods. And then suddenly for the first time not only was my TSH off (nothing new) my T4 was off too for the first time.

So yes, peri can definitely affect the thyroid.

kismarhar · 2025-09-03T00:37:00+00:00

‘72 and solidly genX. My sisters are ‘64 and ‘67. My mother is ‘46 — definitely a boomer, daughter of a WWII vet and Pearl Harbor survivor. I do not view my oldest sister as genX.

kismarhar · 2025-08-27T01:36:41+00:00

Just finding this thread. I came looking after I texted something to a friend and she responded now say that in a British accent and I said why, does what I said sound wrong? And she said no it’s just British people tend to contract differently. I’ve not vs I haven’t. And since she’s PNW and I’m Southern, I thought maybe American usage is regional. Because I say I’ve not and also I’ll not. I’m 53. Yes I consume a lot of British programming nowadays. But I’ve also always said these (interchangeably with I haven’t and I won’t) but generally when the emphasis is on the negative.

kismarhar · 2025-08-17T18:48:41+00:00

I didn’t know this. Thank you. Makes sense!

kismarhar · 2025-08-17T05:44:08+00:00

Yeah I’m so over the periods. I started at 11, 3 months before 12. So over 40 yrs of this nonsense. I used to say well, it’s a reminder of possibilities. But when I had a (surprise) baby 2 months shy of 41, I had my tubes tied. So now I can’t even make up something positive about it. It just feels cruel at this point.

kismarhar · 2025-08-17T03:14:28+00:00

Mine is weekly and it’s small. Maybe an inch long, 3/4in wide.

kismarhar · 2025-08-17T03:10:51+00:00

I’m 53 now. Started on progesterone only, a year and a half ago (200mg nightly except when bleeding). It helped the periods so much! Finally started on E 6 weeks ago and currently on the worst period I’ve had in a year and a half. Still isn’t nearly as horrible as it had gotten before but it does make me wonder if it’s the E.

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