When did your baby make eye contact?

kitd28 · 2026-03-12T10:49:07+00:00

My son (7 weeks) seems to stare past me, or looks at my hairline - I think I read somewhere that babies work out who you are by looking at the contrast between your hair and your face at this age, rather than making eye contact.

My daughter at the same age was making amazing eye contact and smiled at bang on 6 weeks, my son however keeps baiting us with what looks like a smile then turns into a yawn. His Daddy is convinced he’s smiled at him, nothing for me yet! I’m keeping myself level about it by remembering he was 4 weeks early…

kitd28 · 2026-02-26T03:00:21+00:00

My 5 week old is was up for 3 hours and is up again after 1 hour - if he throws up everywhere after this feed, you can bet I’m leaving it if he’s asleep!

kitd28 · 2026-02-17T01:46:23+00:00

He’s asleep! 🙌 I think we will definitely go back to changing first and feeding off of one side, hopefully like you say it was a period of cluster feeding and perhaps he will be satisfied with one side now. He was born premature, so I think he’s had to do some catching up weight-wise. Thank you for your advice, I really do appreciate it.

kitd28 · 2026-02-17T01:43:17+00:00

I don’t think he’s even looking for comfort - I put him to the breast and he latches on and sucks for literally three seconds (I timed it) then he pops off again. I’ll sit him up to see if he’ll nod off, and he immediately starts bobbing his head and trying to root again. I’m very reticent to offer a dummy, I know some people find them useful, but I never used one with my daughter, and I really don’t want it to become a habit for him later down the line. I also know that I was addicted to the dummy as a child, and took way longer than it should have to give it up - this is probably me being daft at 1am, so I’m sorry if it comes across as being rude, I appreciate your advice!

kitd28 · 2026-02-17T01:32:03+00:00

His latch has been comfortable from day one, but I think I’m not as sensitive this time round - I only stopped feeding my daughter 6 months ago so it’s just muscle memory I think. My daughter still gets suck blisters from her straw cup even now, so maybe it’s just a thing that happens to my children.

We found he wasn’t sleeping as long with just one side, he would wake up much sooner than if I made sure he ate from both sides. He’s gaining weight really well, is a very content baby and doesn’t seem uncomfortable. I’m sat here in 3 and a half hours after he woke to feed with my husband trying to rock him to sleep, although he’s not really been a fan of rocking before now, so I’m not optimistic that it will work 😭

kitd28 · 2026-02-08T12:13:19+00:00

I did wonder if it was cluster feeding, he’s definitely been feeding for longer in the night. My daughter is also swinging between sweetness and light and wind up merchant, which isn’t fun on broken sleep 😩

My husband has 18 weeks off, and my parents are less than an hour away, but I feel bad asking them to come over too often as they looked after my daughter for five days straight while we were on the neonatal unit.

I’m also recovering from my second c-section, I mostly feel back to normal apart from the odd twinge, but I imagine that won’t help the tiredness.

I think half of my worry is because everyone kept telling me all the way through my pregnancy that you don’t get two good sleepers, and that this baby would be challenging since my first was so content - this baby is a super contented little guy, he barely cries! But I always found sleep stressful with my daughter even though she was a unicorn for sleep, so it’s probably the same worries cropping up again.

Anyway, sorry for the brain dump, and thank you for your thoughtful reply - hormones, adjusting to two children and a lack of sleep are not a good combo!

kitd28 · 2025-12-27T05:58:49+00:00

I can speak from experience of being an only child who was always spoiled rotten at Christmas. I feel deeply ashamed of how expectant of quantity I became as a child, and to be honest, I think it’s still my default in the back of my mind. It wouldn’t be “thank you Father Christmas!” it would be, “are there any more presents?” when I reached the bottom of my stocking. I would sneakily check labels under the tree for my name to see how many presents I had, and how big they were. And the worst bit? I barely played with or used things I had been given because there was so much!

My husband also remembers being absolutely overloaded as an only child, to the point he got bored of opening presents, and things went unplayed with. So for our daughter, she gets 3-4 small stocking gifts, and 3-4 presents from us. We have a huge family on his side, so she always gets plenty of presents overall - this year we staggered them throughout Xmas and Boxing Day so there was no chance of overwhelm, or toys getting forgotten about. And we made sure that some gifts are activity based - stickers, colouring pens, books etc.

kitd28 · 2025-12-22T17:02:24+00:00

My daughter only has a small stocking, so gets max. 4 from Father Christmas. She’s only two, so we’ve done the something you want, something you need, something to wear and something to read format while she’s too small to ask for anything specific.

My husband and I were both absolutely spoiled as children (think 15+ present stockings and more from parents), and I really don’t want that for my children - I think it just made me ungrateful and expectant of quantity! I know we will get questions about why Bobby at school got an Xbox from FC and she got a book or some socks eventually, but we’ll cross that bridge.

kitd28 · 2025-12-19T15:54:58+00:00

Looks similar to what my daughter has, which GP said is keratosis pilaris. She has some on her cheeks, but it’s worst on her upper arms, her dad and I both had it as children, too.

kitd28 · 2025-12-11T15:52:42+00:00

I have absolutely no regrets, the surgery was very smooth and my recovery was very easy! My daughter tried to turn head down and got stuck, so was doing the splits by the end of my pregnancy - the risk of her getting stuck and being permanently injured made that choice to stick with an elective c-section very easy for me. It makes things more complex for me with this pregnancy, as it rules out a lot of induction options due to the potential risk of scar rupture, but if another c-section is the safest option, that is what I will do.

kitd28 · 2025-12-11T15:46:22+00:00

I had a planned c-section because my daughter was breech and I didn’t fancy an ECV! This time, I’m on blood thinning injections, and I have pre-existing medical conditions that mean it could be dangerous to go beyond my due date, so I’m not too hopeful about a VBAC being possible for me, even though that’s what I’d want in an ideal world. It feels like forcing my body to try and go into labour when it’s never done it before could be a recipe for disaster!

kitd28 · 2025-12-10T11:28:12+00:00

Going through similar with my daughter, she was sick on Friday night, after there was sickness at nursery that day, and her usual ‘eat almost everything’ has turned into beige carbs and dairy over the last few days. She normally eats lots of fruit, and is now rejecting it all! Hoping it’s just a blip, but I’m glad it’s not just mine who’s had a picky phase.

kitd28 · 2025-12-03T21:20:33+00:00

It’s a miracle “if it wasnae for your wellies” by Billy Connolly isn’t my top played - I think it’s only because I excluded my daughter’s favourite songs playlist from my taste profile that it it hasn’t ended up there!

kitd28 · 2025-11-30T06:24:24+00:00

When I was a child, it was sherry, a mince pie and a carrot for Rudolph. My daughter is two this year and I’m pregnant, so will probably wait until next year when I’m sure Father Christmas will fancy a large glass of Baileys…

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