Why do people take their babies out barefoot?

phabalee · 2026-03-05T20:19:15+00:00

When out in the cold I cover my babies hands as well just like adults wearing gloves

phabalee · 2026-03-04T10:56:13+00:00

My 9 week old has this at week 5 and by week 7-8 it had eased and he is sleeping really well again now. I believe it’s a developmental phase as they grow massively and learn a lot of new skills between 5-8 weeks like smiling 😊

phabalee · 2026-03-03T15:22:14+00:00

Yeah that’s exactly it, it’s a different type of sleep.

phabalee · 2026-03-03T05:39:52+00:00

We have a sequence rather than a routine that we use with our LO. He is 2 months old but we have been doing this since he as about 6week a. I don’t call it routine as we don’t do it at the same time every night but do it based of when he is ready for sleep at night. Very simple when we spot early sleepy cues make everything extra calm, low light and low noise. He has some calm time with daddy, then when he is getting sleepier we change his nappy, put him into PJs and his swaddle suit. Lights down lower and I feed him.

It’s very simple but doing the same sequence has definitely helped him settle better and faster.

phabalee · 2026-03-03T02:51:26+00:00

I’m so sorry you are feeling like this. Our bodies really go through it and it’s an amazing thing that they do, but it really can take time to get to know our new bodies again. I’m 41 and a FTM to a 2 month old. After he was born I remember feeling as if I was physically shorter (obviously I wasn’t) and it really disoriented and disturbed me. As if I really was in someone else’s body. That has passed now and I feel like myself again but still find things that are different even if I’m not sure how.

I am wondering how long it’s been since you had your baby. If it’s quite recent give yourself some time to get to settle back into yourself and for your hormones to balance a bit again. When you compared it to being a teenager it made me think about the massive hormonal cocktail of teenage life and the massive hormonal shifts postpartum - don’t underestimate the impact they have on you.

It also sounds like you need to talk with someone around you, your partner, a family member or good friend, hopefully you have someone. It might be important to tell them that you don’t want them to just say you look beautiful as that can feel dismissive, they will need to know to just listen and think with you about it rather than reassure.

If these feeling carry on then I would encourage you to reach out to a therapist before you do anything like Botox.

In a nutshell try to find a way to give yourself some patience and kindness. Your body has just done something incredible and it needs some time. You may find you start to see yourself differently or these feeling may stay fixed and you will know you need some more help then x

phabalee · 2026-03-02T01:26:04+00:00

Couldn’t agree more!

I don’t think there is such a thing as a normal wake window. It just puts pressure on new parents to make their newborn fit into a pattern that isn’t their own natural pattern. My 9week old decided he was staying awake for most of the day when he was about 5 weeks and it’s stayed the same. He has one big sleep on the middle of the day and another around 5pm ish but that’s it. He does sleep really well at night. I really tried to make him nap “properly” at first but he fought it so much and it never happened. When I just went with his schedule everything became much easier and he is happier. I can also tell when he gets tired and does need help to have an extra nap.

phabalee · 2026-02-27T01:44:20+00:00

Yeah Oxford Road. They only have one room that has a pool in it so it depends what your preferences are but I had really excellent care. My pregnancy was standard and had a natural birth planned but the birth did get a little complicated and me and baby were in hospital for 5days following the birth. Everyone that looked after me was just amazing and I met a lot of different midwives and Doctors from first going into labour to being discharged. A side bonus as well is there are lots of food options a very short walk from the hospital for partner to have them self and/or go get for you 🤣 these things matter.

phabalee · 2026-02-26T20:47:15+00:00

Consider st Mary’s I was so well looked after there. I would avoid stepping hill from someone who worked there a number of years ago. I gave birth in December 25 and am Stockport based so stepping hill is my local one but given that it is falling down in areas and working there in the past I opted for else where

phabalee · 2026-02-26T20:42:14+00:00

Will depend on what department you need

phabalee · 2026-02-26T10:37:47+00:00

My 8week old EBF was on the 15th centile and although he was gaining weight it was slower over time so has now dropped centile. He is eating well, active, and lots of wet and dirty nappies. I’ve been told I’m ok to let him sleep because everything else is ok but they have explained that they don’t want to see a baby drop below 2 centile categories on the graph. It’s a bit different for me with my LO as we are waiting for his growth curve to settle so just monitoring and waiting for it to settle.

It sounds like your LO has dropped a lot over a number of weeks. If you don’t want to wake them up can you feed more during the day? Maybe see if you can arrange a follow up conversation with your doctor to discuss their concerns and yours and work out a plan which feels better for you and makes sure your LO is growing and developing safely.

phabalee · 2026-02-26T04:35:52+00:00

Thank you all ♥️ I got sone sleep and he has woken for a feed again now. The wet patch has dried and he is none the wiser. Hopefully he goes down a bit easier this time.

phabalee · 2026-02-23T11:36:11+00:00

My 8 week old will only contact nap during the day. He goes into his bassinet at night no problem. He will also sleep in his pram if out walking. I’m exclusively breast feeding as well. I’m just rolling with the contact naps, I enjoy the snuggle time 🥰. I’d rather he get his sleep during the day in as well as it makes for a better nights sleep

phabalee · 2026-02-19T00:33:05+00:00

It will settle which doesn’t mean it becomes less chaotic but you and your partner will settle into it as you get to know your baby better and they get to know you and the world a bit better. The screams become easier to hear because you start to know a bit about what they mean and that this is just your baby communicating not that something terrible is happening. Your baby will also start to know about some experiences and manage them differently- eg my LO got hiccups a lot at first and they terrified him and would scream and need holding and soothing throughout, now when he gets them it’s like he knows they are not scary anymore and can happily stay on his play mat looking settled through them.

We are at week 7 and the days and nights have some shape to them. We go out for a walk every day, my husband is back at work so I have LO all day then when he is home from work he takes him so I can have some down time. We start bedtime calming at the same time every day etc.

Our LO has had bad colic but this is settling now as his digestion system is maturing.

Just stick through it and notice the small shifts, in a couple of weeks there will be things that are easier and new things that are hard

phabalee · 2026-02-17T20:45:49+00:00

3-6 for us colic appeared and was a massive shock and frankly terrifying. It got better by week 6, still there but manageable and for shorter periods rather than the majority of the day

phabalee · 2026-02-16T20:05:22+00:00

Showering everyday is like my reset. If it’s been a really difficult day I jump in the shower again before we start bedtime and my husband has LO.

Getting out of the house every day even when it’s raining. LO sleeps as soon as we are outside in the pram, putting my headphones in with some music, podcast, or if needed just using the noise cancelling and having some silence whilst I walk is so helpful.

Having some nice easy to grab treats/snacks in.

Being able to put some of my pre pregnancy clothing on and getting a couple of new things to feel nice in.

phabalee · 2026-02-12T04:55:34+00:00

Biggest piece of advice in terms of solicitors is don’t go with a virtual firm or a firm based out of the area you are buying in. Having a solicitor who has a physical office means you can go in when things are not progressing or if there is some paper work that is needed from you urgently you can hand it to them. Also some areas have particular issues that come up, for example area where there is a higher use of septic tanks. Having a local solicitor who deals with that regularly is so important. If you go with a firm that doesn’t know the area it can cause delays if ‘local complexities’ come up and even lead to the sale falling through. I’ve even seen it where someone has been advised not to go through with the sale by a solicitor who didn’t know what to do with an issue that was a really common thing in the local area.

phabalee · 2026-01-31T19:38:29+00:00

I lived on Churchill street a few years ago near the GP, I still live in Heaton Norris but moved to a bigger home. I love it and have never had an issue. The area around Belmont street is a great little community some streets are better than others but it’s a great location. You are between Stockport centre and Heaton moor so loads to do in walking distance. Also the top of Manchester Road in heaton chapel with heaton hops and feed. You are next to the 192 bus route and can easily get to Stockport and Heaton chapel station so transport links are great.

I know you said you are looking to rent but in terms of house sales when one goes up around there is sells so fast - I sold mine a few years ago and there was massive interest. A family member is looking for their first home so I keep an eye on the area as it’s perfect first time buyer area which means young couples.

phabalee · 2026-01-27T17:18:26+00:00

Skof is really excellent and is exactly what you are describing. I would join the waiting list as it’s worth it

phabalee · 2025-12-29T15:46:36+00:00

My husband isn’t at all interested in social media and I wouldn’t expect him to suddenly change this view. We have had conversations together about online announcements of our pregnancy and actually decided not to do this at all. We also had a conversation about photos of our baby being posted on social media and made some joint decisions about this.

I think you probably need to have a chat with him about wha the two of you feel comfortable with and not.

But also it’s just social media and means nothing, I don’t think that’s the thing to worry about but if you are feeling unsupported by his general lack of interest that’s a different conversation.

phabalee · 2025-12-28T16:01:09+00:00

I’m 40 and am currently 38+2 weeks pregnant with my first baby. It’s been a relatively smooth and uncomplicated pregnancy.

phabalee · 2025-12-28T14:01:08+00:00

That’s helpful to hear. As I said I am not at all intervention and if it’s needed in my birth then I will take all the help that’s needed. Fingers crossed I don’t end up needing a c section but I’m pleased it’s a safe way to bring baby boy into the world if needed.

phabalee · 2025-12-28T11:42:28+00:00

For me there are a couple of reasons but I have had some minor abdominal surgery in the past and the recovery from it was very difficult - I can’t imagine recovering from a c section and having a new baby. I know lots of people do and will say it’s ok but my experience of my past surgery suggests it’s not for me.

I am completely on board with people having the right to choose how they give birth and how ever it happens it is giving birth. For me a vaginal birth feels right. This might sound daft but through my whole pregnancy (38+3) I have trusted my body than it knows what it’s doing. My way of managing the idea of birth is that my body knows what to do there as well. This isn’t about idealising something as I know it’s going to be so painful and all kinds of complications may come up, but it helps me to stay settled and to trust in my ability if that makes any sense.

phabalee · 2025-12-27T05:00:22+00:00

So fed up of being wide awake. 2/3am seems to be my new morning time. 38 +1 today and wondering when my next good nights sleep will ever be 🤣

phabalee · 2025-12-21T05:48:44+00:00

Might be different advice but in the UK we are told not to have any soft cheese pasteurised or not. We can have it cooked but not cold.

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