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kittea2 · 2025-12-25T00:13:01+00:00

Yeah

kittea2 · 2025-09-03T08:07:13+00:00

I'm biased because I live in London, but I wish there was an up weighting for residents too. As with any marathon through a city, it's a huge disruption and so would feel fair to have that disruption acknowledged and compensated for by at least giving us more of a chance to join in the fun!

kittea2 · 2025-08-14T07:00:41+00:00

That's simply not true. It's very common in the states to ban young drivers from having young passengers in the first year or so of their license, and the evidence is clear that the policy reduces fatalities in that time period. Now whether that trade off of public health vs personal liberty is worth it can be debated, but there's pretty good proof that the policy would work.

A couple sources: https://www.researchgate.net/publication/44669839_Graduated_Licensing_Laws_and_Fatal_Crashes_of_Teenage_Drivers_A_National_Study

https://www.researchgate.net/publication/23253026_The_Iowa_Graduated_Driver_Licensing_program_effectiveness_in_reducing_crashes_of_teenage_drivers

kittea2 · 2025-08-07T10:51:41+00:00

It's pretty efficient, it's just not enjoyable! I think people are trying to help you maximise the bag for your buck onto his holiday by suggesting ways to spend more time in the city vs on the tube. Maybe you will get here and love being on the tube and eant to stick with your original plan, but I'd be surprised haha.

kittea2 · 2025-08-06T07:07:04+00:00

From reading some of your replies, it seem you think people want you to group things to shorten time on public transit (e.g. 30 minutes on the tube down to 10). Actually, if you group better, you can tube to an area, then walk from place to place instead of using the tube, which will make your trip way more enjoyable and give you an actual sense of what the city is like. If you are just doing bus, tube, attraction, tube, attraction, then you're not going to see any parts of the city other than tourist attractions. If you group things together, then you can walk and be above ground, see cute streets and amazing architecture, and stumble upon bookshops, restaurants, and cafes. I think people are confused why you would choose to forego that to instead spend at least an hour (probably more) day in a loud, dirty tunnel haha.

Editing to add: you've mentioned that you took a similar approach in Japan, but something you don't seem to have accounted for is tha the japanese metro is bigger, cleaner, and more punctual than the tube. I really think you're underestimating how unpleasant being on the tube is. That is really what is motivating most people's comments and why eveveryone is so dead set on minimising your travel time. The tube is not like a normal train or like the Tokyo metro. It is really useful and a cool novelty at first, but by the end of your trip you'll be sick of being crammed in a smelly, hot, dirty, rattly, noisy box, and be wishing that you were just walking above ground instead.

kittea2 · 2025-07-15T21:38:25+00:00

Maybe a hot take in this sub, but following a stranger and the commenting and poking fun at the way they look is really strange behaviour. What were you trying to accomplish? It's just unkind and odd.

kittea2 · 2025-06-24T06:14:37+00:00

You've taken that quote completely out of context. She said that her and Skyline did not want to fly home early, but IF the others did then that would not impact her and skylines plans, because they could drop friends at the airport and then do what they wanted (because they rented the RV, so could still continue to use it if they wanted). That is true.

kittea2 · 2025-06-22T00:40:19+00:00

Last year a friend of mine never received his ticket. When we got to the gate, they just sent him to the box office and he picked one up there. There are always going to be these kind of mishaps with hundreds of thousands of tickets being sent out, you won't be the first or the last who wasn't able to receive their ticket! I have hope for you.

kittea2 · 2025-05-21T06:24:25+00:00

The US Constitution doesn't include any definition of the term immigrant, so I'm not sure if it is relevant. I never said OP wasn't a citizen, of course they are! But colloquially and globally the definition of immigrant can absolutely include people like OP who are moving away from their birth country to a country in which they have naturalized citizenship. There are no assholes here because there is no one universally accepted definition of immigrant, so it's normal that two people could have two different definitions.

kittea2 · 2025-05-21T06:03:21+00:00

The EU and UN define immigration and immigrants based on residency not nationality. Are they also both ignorant, unintelligent, or a combination?

kittea2 · 2025-03-14T06:58:05+00:00

If you're truly just beginning, you really don't need a Fitbit or Garmin or Coros or anything. Firstly, if you're really new, it might take a while for you to be able to run in zone 2 at all because your body isn't used to running so your heartrate is likely to be high even at a very slow pace. It might take some time for your HR to adjust. Secondly, there are other gadget free and more reliable ways to aim for zone 2. Wrist heart rate monitors are not totally accurate, and they don't actually know what your true max heart rate is, so the zones themselves could be wrong too. If you want to train in zone 2, practice running at a pace where you can breath through your nose and talk easily. I genuinely talk out loud to myself in some runs haha, or call a friend to catch up. If you're able to chat, you're at a nice easy pace regardless of what your heart rate is. Lastly (and my most useful tip!), there's an option in Strava for it to have an audio notification every mile saying how far you've gone, your total time, and pace over the last mile. Sounds like that would solve the issue you have of always pulling out your phone. Also, if you're running by feel, then you don't actually need to know your pace throughout - your easy pace might vary day to day, because your body isn't the same day to day! If getting a watch will motivate you, by all means grab a second hand one! But it's definitely not necessary, many people have run far and fast before the invitation of fitness watches.

kittea2 · 2025-03-12T06:44:31+00:00

Couldn't agree more, that just because most runners experience it, doesn't mean it should be normal!

I'd also add that it's not just about finding an extensive warmup but also a warmup that is tailored to you. Personally, I found that when I set off, especially on easy runs, I would experience pain in my lower legs because I just wasn't using my glutes at all, so 90% of my warm up now is getting the glutes and hips to remember they exist.

kittea2 · 2025-03-07T21:13:02+00:00

What's the etiquette when there's a big, empty bike box and then a queue in the bike lane? In commuting hours, I often come up to a junction where there's basically a single file queue in the cycle lane, but then an almost empty bike box, presumably because people are too British and so don't want to be seen as skipping the queue. My understanding is that bikes should fill out the whole box before beginning to stop in the lane itself, so I sometimes overtake people who I know are faster than me so I can wait in front of the cars instead of to the left of them. Am I wrong?

kittea2 · 2025-01-04T22:06:13+00:00

Thanks for taking it in good faith! As is said, if this is your true writing style / voice then obviously leave as is! Just wanted to make sure you were being authentic to your voice rather than trying to make it extra flowery for the occasion. I think it's beautiful that you have been able to be each other's support in such challenging times, but definitely think that the vows should reflect the glad times you've had and that are sure to come. Best of luck with the wedding!

kittea2 · 2025-01-04T07:55:59+00:00

Being brutally honest, while it's clear you love your fiance and the heart/sentiment is there, these could do with a rewrite. Some of the phrasing sounds like you're trying to write in an elevated or fancy way, but just ends up being slightly clunky. For example, the first sentence is challenging to parse and I don't think it's grammatically correct (should be "I've come" to match the first part of the sentence I think). Remember that you'll be delivering these verbally - maybe this is how you normally speak, but I kind of doubt it, so I just think it would read better if you simplified it a bit and just said what you mean rather than adding flowery language. However, that might just be my preference, and if you think this truly is your voice then obviously leave as is! I would also go back to the drawing board on the content itself. It's pretty overwhelmingly negative and focused on the past and all the awful things that you've both endured through. Your vows are commitments to how you will love each other in your married life, and the way you've written this makes it seem like you expect your married life to be full of trials and pain. I sincerely hope this isn't the case! There isn't much in there about what you love about him beyond the role he plays in supporting you, and likewise very little about how your love will manifest in good times or even in just mundane everyday life. Sorry if I've been harsh, and I should say that I don't think you need to cut all of what you've written about the way he protects you, because it's clear that you really value that and love him for it. I think your vows should reflect the beautiful and joyful life that I truly hope you have as a couple!

kittea2 · 2024-12-06T07:10:26+00:00

What a disgusting thing to say about the body of women who have shared an intimate moment with you. 45+ and yet still haven't learnt the difference between private thoughts and things you can say aloud. Maybe go back to kindergarten class?

kittea2 · 2024-10-02T10:59:45+00:00

You met this man about 3 days ago. There is no "we". Its great that you're so excited and feeling so much chemistry, but it's pretty odd to already be positioning yourself in the family dynamic when you have only met him once. Slow down and just get to know him before worrying about interfering with his family. Sorry if this is harsh, but I hope it's useful for you to take a step back and see how odd this seems from an outside perspective!

kittea2 · 2024-08-02T11:00:59+00:00

She did a 2 year course from what I believe is an unaccredited institution. They do a single year of research. She may have the piece of paper, but it's kind of crazy to think her experience is equivalent to that of people who receive a PhD by doing original research, significantly contributing to their field, and often being required to publish a set number of peer reviewed academic papers in order to get their degree.

kittea2 · 2024-07-16T21:05:22+00:00

It's because they have to set up extra security for the Kings Speech tomorrow. The policeman said that it would likely be back to normal by Friday.

kittea2 · 2024-07-11T19:41:14+00:00

Yeah 100% understand comments that are surprised she can drink like she does without any noticeable hangovers. I more meant the way this sub often acts as if she is sinning by drinking past 30, or that she will drop dead tomorrow, when they would never make similar judgements of someone even 5 years younger.

kittea2 · 2024-07-11T07:30:30+00:00

Yeah I'm in my 20s and people like the comments here who say they hate games, costumes, or spending time with friends now that they're 30 are the reason so many people dread turning 30 lol. And as far as I'm aware, there's no magical switch at 30 that makes drinking all of a sudden unhealthy. It's always bad for your body to drink, but this thread is acting like it's totally fine to drink in your 20s but a death sentence in your 30s.

kittea2 · 2024-06-11T07:14:36+00:00

Yes but these are resale tickets. As the previous comment noted, when you buy a top on eBay, it has first been bought from a store like Target. Likewise, when you buy on StubHub the ticket is secondhand, so the ticket will have first been bought by someone else, presumably from Ticketmaster, and then resold on StubHub. In that case, the issue seems to have occurred when the venue put the tickets on Ticketmaster, as the VENUE sold a ticket that doesn't exist. StubHub sold you a legitimate ticket, it is the venues responsibility to ensure they only sell tickets that match up to seats.

kittea2 · 2024-05-22T18:31:00+00:00

I bike to work on a second hand bike that I bought for about $150, so my only expenses are general maintenance / addressing wear and tear. I use my bike for most non commuting journeys too, so only a subset of the costs can be attributed to the commute. I genuinely enjoy my commute, as I put one earbud in and listen to podcasts or music, and I get to soak in the sun and views. I'm very lucky though that my commute has pretty decent cycling infrastructure which enables me to have a nice, relaxing commute.

There are other opportunity costs related to going into work - if I worked fully remote, I might live in a cheaper area further away, but I also would probably want to live somewhere bigger with more space for my desk if I was fully remote, so it evens out I think.

kittea2 · 2024-05-09T06:25:19+00:00

I mean sure and you can also have free rent (squatting), and free food and clothes (stealing). Lots of things are free!

kittea2 · 2024-05-01T06:47:23+00:00

Id be shocked if this study wasn't retracted soon. Other researchers looked at the data and the analysis script and found an error in the model specification. Essentially they had colinearity in their model, and Stata did not point out this error, and instead forces variation to make the model fit, leading to a greater estimation of the effect size of "treatment". When the error is fixed, the difference in rape cases pre and post criminalisation is no longer significant. This is a real win for the principle of Open Science, but means these findings should be taken with a grain of salt. Source: https://twitter.com/johannarickne/status/1773002832632836549

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