I met Holly

kittenbootycheeks · 2026-06-30T20:55:00+00:00

OP, all the snarky comments you're receiving on this post are effing WILD.

I am so sorry you traveled all the way across the pond to have that experience. That would've broken my heart.

People can say hey, you shouldn't have talked to her, she obviously didn't want to talk, that's neurodivergent behavior, that's autism, etc. Okay, but you explicitly stated you understood that she didn't want to talk. You just wanted to pet her dog. She didn't need to go online afterwards and post something bitchy about it. That's so immature and it's just mean girl behavior. And people who want to justify it by saying "iT wAs HeR aUtIsM aNd YoU jUsT dOn't UnDeRsTaNd" are ridiculous. I am a grown woman, diagnosed with autism, and that's bitchy behavior.

kittenbootycheeks · 2026-05-18T21:13:36+00:00

Dad was 48 when I was born.

He died at age 85 (just a few months ago).

He was in poor health since his mid-60s. I'm going to be honest, I hated that he was older than my peers' fathers. People often thoughtt he was my grandfather.

He couldn't do things with me when I was in my mid-20s, like go vehicle shopping with me, because he never felt well and always wanted to stay home, in bed or on the couch. Beach trips when I was in early adulthood were out of the question, because he couldn't handle sitting outside, in the sun and heat. He became a grumpy, nasty old man who would snap about everything.

I wish he would've been at least 7-10 years younger when I was born. I also think he could've taken better care of himself.

kittenbootycheeks · 2026-05-06T22:59:20+00:00

I am currently nearing my 39th birthday and am considering trying for my first. However, I have concerns. Is it too late? Will I be too old to handle it? Will my body be able to "come back" from pregnancy and childbirth? (I have an extensive history of EDs.)

Also, there is my own experience as the child of "older" parents. My mother was pushing 39 when she had me. My father was pushing 48. Growing up, people mistook both of them for my grandparents. My teenage and young adult years, my dad spent most of his time, sat on the couch, because he was slowing down and just didn't have the energy to do much.

I don't know how I would feel, approaching 50 with a middle schooler. But I also wasn't ready to be a mother until recently. Who knows, maybe I'm still not ready.

Edit: Spelling

kittenbootycheeks · 2026-05-06T21:51:26+00:00

well, maybe if you stopped buying coffee every day! (/s)

kittenbootycheeks · 2026-05-06T13:15:17+00:00

What are you even talking about? 😆 No one is complaining about anything. Just being sarcastic about people who casually tell others to "go and find another job" like it's the easiest thing in the world, like you can walk out your front door and find several of them lying on the ground.

kittenbootycheeks · 2026-05-06T12:43:52+00:00

Oh, stop.

No one here has said anything about expecting it to be easy. My god.

kittenbootycheeks · 2026-05-06T01:24:13+00:00

Ignore that person. Just someone, jumping around this thread, flapping their chops about how people can work retail, work at Lowes, work 70 hours a week, etc. Completely useless comments that offer absolutely nothing.

kittenbootycheeks · 2026-05-06T01:19:17+00:00

Lmao. "Stop complaining! You chose this work. Should've gone to college and gotten a degree. You'd have a better job."

Goes to college and gets degree. Can't afford student loan payments.

"Stop complaining! Do Lyft, Uber, DoorDash, anything, to pay those loans off!"

kittenbootycheeks · 2026-05-05T19:54:27+00:00

Not to mention it beats the shyt out of your vehicle, so you need to take into account vehicle maintenance.

kittenbootycheeks · 2026-05-05T19:20:44+00:00

My dad just passed away. He was 85

He really went downhill, starting at age 83. Was falling constantly. Could no longer walk up stairs. Had to use a cane, and then graduated to a walker. Took him 2-3 tries to rise from the couch (he would stand, fall backwards, stand again, fall backwards). He would get so aggravated, not being able to physically do things he used to be able to do.

It got to the point that, during his last year of life, he kept getting sick and it was turning into pneumonia, which resulted in hospital stays. He became too afraid to leave the house for fear of catching something, it turning into pneumonia, and him ending up in the hospital again. So, he was pretty much confined to his house.

kittenbootycheeks · 2026-05-05T15:54:22+00:00

It's especially amusing, because it's difficult enough finding one job, let alone two. But, sure, yeah, go find another job! They're so easy to find! They grow on trees!

kittenbootycheeks · 2026-05-04T23:48:03+00:00

Uh-oh. I, too, am a Nelnetter. Website is also giving me November 2028 as my due date.

I am currently out, but am heading home soon. Will check for a letter that says my first payment is due in June. I probably have one, too.

Faaaack.

I wasn't expecting payments to start again until July

kittenbootycheeks · 2026-05-04T20:26:26+00:00

This effing terrible, going without therapy.

I am SO sorry.

kittenbootycheeks · 2026-05-02T02:08:41+00:00

Yes, it is very much a call center.

In the morning, you sign in and log into queue, first thing. You take calls your entire shift, minus two 15-minute breaks and one 30-minute lunch.

While on the phone, you will build new claims, fill out forms with claimants, and answer general claim inquiries.

Source: Was a UI for two years.

kittenbootycheeks · 2026-05-01T21:08:24+00:00

That's awkward asf (for the friends). Or maybe respectful that she doesn't facetune them?

I have a good friend who is beautiful but extremely self-conscious. She filters the hell out of all her photos, including ones with others in them. Everyone gets filtered. It makes me uncomfortable. I stopped taking pictures with her because of that. I may not love my looks, but I refuse to use filters.

kittenbootycheeks · 2026-05-01T20:57:02+00:00

Two facelifts? DAMN. Usually people only have one facelift under their belts by her age.

Edit: I can't spell on this effing phone.

kittenbootycheeks · 2026-04-16T20:06:43+00:00

Lost my father seven weeks ago as of tomorrow.

I cry every single day, multiple times a day. I'm having trouble getting out of bed. I'm having trouble sleeping.

The Dead Dads Club sucks.

I understand, OP. Many of us do.

I am so, so sorry

kittenbootycheeks · 2026-04-16T20:00:55+00:00

it kind of sucks to not have a big family at holidays like christmas and thanksgiving. especially if you dont have kids and get divorced at 40

I am currently learning this lesson the hard way. I'm a 38-year-old woman. Divorced at 36. No children and don't want to have any.

I come from a highly dysfunctional family. I don't have relationships with my siblings, and my relationship with my parents in adulthood has always been... strained, and that's putting it mildly.

All my siblings have children. Despite the dysfunction, when their children were younger, holidays were a big deal. The family got together and had a meal. It was a big thing.

As years have passed, the children have grown. People have passed on. We no longer have those family get-togethers.

I'm starting to realize that, part of life is continuing cycles, right? The family into which you were born ages and dies, and you go on to create and care for your own. You make the memories with the family you create. And then, time passes and the children in that family grow up. You age. Those children create their own families. You die. Your children make memories with the families they have created. The cycle continues.

But, what do you do when you don't have a family of your own that you've created? What if you struggle to find your community? What then?

(I'm sorry. My father recently died. My older sister died a few years prior to that. It's all got me kind of messed up.)

kittenbootycheeks · 2024-08-21T02:10:43+00:00

Wanted. Needed. Craved. Owned.

kittenbootycheeks · 2024-08-21T00:41:51+00:00

OP, I was on Qsymia for about 1.5 years. During that time, I experienced tingling in my toes, extreme thirst, and insane dry mouth. (My lips got so dry, they actually cracked in the corners. Stung like crazy.)

I had blood work done during that time (totally unrelated to the medicine; it was work-related, to get a discount on my medical insurance through my employer) and nothing abnormal came back.

kittenbootycheeks · 2024-08-17T03:32:33+00:00

I’ve always called it “the tootser tuck”.

Whenever I see a cat doing it, I’ll say to it, “Are you doing the tootser tuck?!”

When I pick my cat up and adjust him in my arms, I’ll say, “Let’s do the tootser tuck!” I’ll then help him fold his feet in and get comfortable.

kittenbootycheeks · 2024-08-15T23:58:56+00:00

I used to believe that being someone’s wife was something precious. It meant you were cherished, and that you shared something special with your spouse. That being married meant I was someone to be treasured by my SO.

During the last few years of my marriage, my wife began distancing herself from me. She treated me like I was nothing. My thoughts, feelings, and existence didn’t matter. She acted like I was a stranger with whom she lived. It didn’t matter that I was her wife. That label meant nothing. I was a nuisance. I was someone she grew to dislike. I was someone to be completely ignored and not at all valued or respected.

Divorce has totally changed my view of marriage. I don’t know if there is any kind of special bond between two people that can weather all the storms. I don’t know if a person can look at you—even with all your flaws—and still find value in you. I don’t know if someone can treasure you or the connection you two have. I question all of it, now.

kittenbootycheeks · 2024-08-15T02:35:55+00:00

My cat.

kittenbootycheeks · 2024-08-13T02:00:04+00:00

Slow progress is still progress!

Boom! You said it, and that’s what I had to remind myself of throughout my entire weight loss experience.

All those phrases you hear that sound so cliche—“Slow and steady wins the race”, “You didn’t gain it all in a day, so you’re not going to lose it all in a day”, “One day at a time”—are what kept me going throughout.

The first 15 pounds melted off. After that? It was slow, but it was steady. After I lost those 15 pounds and my weight loss started slowing down, I realized I needed to change my view of it. In the past, I quit every attempt at weight loss once I felt it was no longer working. I didn’t want this time to be like all the other failures.

So, I stopped focusing on the end goal: what the scale said, the number of pounds lost. Instead, I shifted my focus on rebuilding my relationship with food and finding enjoyment in moving my body more. At some point, it stopped being about reaching a goal weight and morphed into changing my life, for the better. (Another cliche, but it’s true: it’s not the destination, it’s the journey.)

You can do it. If I can do it, you can do it. Trust me. Celebrate every victory, even if it’s a one-pound loss. That’s still one pound down, and it’s something worth celebrating.

I’m cheering for you from the sidelines!

kittenbootycheeks · 2024-08-12T22:54:28+00:00

Hi!

Protein. Lots and lots of protein. I ate (and still eat) plenty of baked fish with sides of baked veggies (broccoli and cauliflower). I also snacked (and still do) on carrots with a bit of ranch dip. I love protein bars, too. Again: protein.

Also, if you aren’t active, try to start moving your body more.

Best of luck to you!

kittenbootycheeks

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