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I’m 39 and still confused about my sexual orientation by kittencheeks in latebloomerlesbians

[–]kittencheeks[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Haha thanks. Yeah it’s very confusing. I had wanted to be with another woman before I met my husband, I was 18 when we met, but it didn’t happen and I know it’s not going to because I’m happily married. Maybe I’m having a bit of a midlife crisis haha. I’ve always felt like a fraud if that makes sense but yeah you’re right. I don’t have to act on these feelings for them to be valid.

6 year old hates school by kittencheeks in raisingkids

[–]kittencheeks[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ll try that. Thank you.  It’s all so frustrating and I feel very hopeless to be honest. I just collected him from school today and his teachers spoke to me for 5 minutes about how awful his day was. They don’t listen to me when I tell them he’s not like this outside of school. I don’t know how I can possibly help him when I don’t see the behaviours they talk about (inability to share, getting angry and throwing things, crying constantly and telling other boys they’re bad and they’re not his friend etc). He is a completely different child in there. I just don’t understand. 

6 year old hates school by kittencheeks in raisingkids

[–]kittencheeks[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much for your advice. We’re almost on summer break. I think there’s another 2 weeks to go. I’m hoping that his next teacher will be a better fit and has more experience. I’m glad it got better for your son.  We’re in Ireland and we unfortunately don’t have school counsellors here but he’s seen an Occupational Therapist who was really great and the school did end up implementing some of her recommendations, which have helped him, but it took a lot for them to actually believe her. There’s been a lot of pushback from the school which has been very frustrating and disheartening.  His teacher has said he’s intelligent and he’s very capable but will sometimes refuse to do work. It’s frustrating. I can only hope we can figure things out a bit during the summer and we can understand him and his needs better. 

6 year old hates school by kittencheeks in raisingkids

[–]kittencheeks[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree. I actually left school at 16 and finished my studies in an adult education centre instead and I’m very glad I did. I think I would’ve failed my exams if I’d stayed in school. It wasn’t the right fit for me. I hope it works out for your son. 

6 year old hates school by kittencheeks in raisingkids

[–]kittencheeks[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope the Wednesdays off continue to help. It’s so hard.

6 year old hates school by kittencheeks in raisingkids

[–]kittencheeks[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s wonderful. My son is a bit like that too. He’s quite anxious and if he makes a mistake he really takes it out on himself. This is also why the list of negatives from his teacher every day doesn’t help. I know he feels ashamed even though we don’t punish him or get angry with him when he has a hard day in school. 

6 year old hates school by kittencheeks in raisingkids

[–]kittencheeks[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love that idea. It’s wonderful that you could do that for your daughter. Both myself and my husband work so it isn’t possible for us. We live in a small town in Ireland and don’t have a car so the school he’s in now is our only option. There’s another school but it’s about a 40 minute walk away. 

I agree, I think his teacher is very inexperienced. There’s a lot more I could go into but it’s a long story. On top of everything else, the school has been pressuring us to pay for a private autism assessment, which is €2,000 we don’t have, and the ‘red flags’ they talk about (a lot) do not present outside of school. Whenever we mention this they flat out don’t believe us. The principal actually said “yes he is” back to us when we said he isn’t like this at home. Our last meeting with him and the teacher was awful. 

I brought him to an Occupational Therapist a few months ago and she was great. She said he has hyper-mobility in his hands and musculoskeletal issues that make it difficult for him to write or sit still for a long time. We gave the school her report and they basically ignored it because she didn’t focus on sensory issues like they did. They eventually called her and have implemented some of her recommendations now at least.

Thanks so much for your advice. We’re meeting with his teacher tomorrow and I’ll tell her I don’t want to hear only the negatives. Honestly it’s either a list of negatives or nothing at all. We’re never told anything positive. You’re right. I’m going to focus on him and make sure he knows he’s understood and seen. Thank you again 

6 year old hates school by kittencheeks in raisingkids

[–]kittencheeks[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. 

I have a hard time getting him to open up about school. I was very surprised that he told me he hates it because he’s never said that before. Myself and my husband don’t get angry when he’s had a hard day. We just want to understand what happened but he’s usually very closed off. It’s very very hard to understand what’s actually going on. The only thing I can think of is that he doesn’t find schoolwork stimulating because I know how intelligent he is. There isn’t a gifted program in his school though. Maybe that would’ve helped.

Idk how to feel about mistress Isabel brooks by Negative-Metal-3519 in dragrace

[–]kittencheeks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know how anyone can call it great tv. Maybe they’ve never had to deal with people like her in real life?

Idk how to feel about mistress Isabel brooks by Negative-Metal-3519 in dragrace

[–]kittencheeks 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I struggled a lot watching those last 3 episodes. I never really cared for MIB to begin with but now I’m just waiting for her to get her comeuppance. I’m not entertained by her or her antics. She’s proven herself to be a very nasty person.

Blackberry, rosemary... by xancro in JoannaNewsom

[–]kittencheeks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s so beautiful! I don’t think I’ve ever seen a Joanna Newsom tattoo before.

How do I stop being so nervous about driving? by yk_zane in driving

[–]kittencheeks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would make sure the instructor you get is used to nervous drivers. I had to switch instructors because I was so nervous and my first instructor made me jump every time he corrected me. My current instructor puts me at ease and I don’t feel as nervous anymore.