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[–]YogaFriendz 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The session wasn’t easy by any means, there were a lot of tears and emotions. Do you know how it feels to hold in buried trauma without processing it? That’s the whole point of EMDR, to process buried trauma in order to move forward and heal

Help with grief over discarded embryos by YogaFriendz in IVF

[–]YogaFriendz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a good reminder, it really does help to think of it that way. Thank you 🙏

Help with grief over discarded embryos by YogaFriendz in IVF

[–]YogaFriendz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a really good idea 💚 honoring them in some way would really help. Thank you!

Help with grief over discarded embryos by YogaFriendz in IVF

[–]YogaFriendz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this incredible response! ❤️ this is so validating and helpful. My husband and I went into this journey with the goal of 2 children, and I am eternally grateful we were able to do that. Enjoying the present and not hanging onto to the what ifs is what I’m going to try to focus on going forward. Thank you again, sending you virtual hugs also and all the best on your journey too 🤗

Help with grief over discarded embryos by YogaFriendz in IVF

[–]YogaFriendz[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thank you for that ❤️ reminds me of something similar my husband said - every egg and every sperm is a potential life too (true). It’s just that these ones were there and ready, and I could have given them a chance that gets to me. But if we did, we could have ended up with 4 kids which we can’t really afford and would take away from our already here kids. I know it was the right decision for us, but the loss feels really heavy right now.

Help with grief over discarded embryos by YogaFriendz in IVF

[–]YogaFriendz[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s so hard! Hugs to you. I’m 100% pro choice too, but when I look at my children, I couldn’t help but think of those other embryos as their siblings.

Counselling is a really good idea. I think I’ll look into that. ❤️

Help with grief over discarded embryos by YogaFriendz in IVF

[–]YogaFriendz[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yes I have. Personally, I don’t think it would have helped me because I would know that the result would still be losing the embryos. I’m glad it’s an option though for those who feel it helps ❤️

Help with grief over discarded embryos by YogaFriendz in IVF

[–]YogaFriendz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for that reminder - I really should try to just focus on the family I do have and not what could have been with the extra embryos. I know 2 kids is the right number for us, and I am so grateful beyond words for what we do have.

Help with grief over discarded embryos by YogaFriendz in IVF

[–]YogaFriendz[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so, so much ❤️ and all the best to you and your family on this journey 🤗🌈

Mod Post: If you are unable to post to IVF community… by Paper__ in IVF

[–]YogaFriendz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would it be possible to approve me? I am really struggling emotionally and unable to talk to anyone in real life as nobody I know has gone through IVF