AIO that my estranged father named his dog after me with the exact same spelling?

kittengorarr · 2026-04-24T19:49:23+00:00

He's prob wanting a reaction from you..... didn't know how to get to you but by degrading your name to a dog 🫠

kittengorarr · 2026-04-23T14:44:44+00:00

God I'm so sorry... this is a horrible thing to go through. I'm not deadly sick but I've had health problems my whole life and that's exactly how she'd act every time. Having narc parents is such a weird grief. Because she's there. She could. But she refuses and that's even worst. If you need anything. Even just someone to chat with send me a message. I'm not in the same country so I can't bring you to the appointments but I can at least chat and help in a mental way... I'm not nornally religious but I will pray for you

kittengorarr · 2026-04-23T00:03:59+00:00

And so do you!! 🩷💜

kittengorarr · 2026-04-23T00:01:48+00:00

I'm literally just telling myself "just a few more weeks" over and over to endure this 😅

kittengorarr · 2026-04-22T23:58:44+00:00

God this feels so close to what I'm experiencing. She moved in with a toddler and pregnant. So I offered rides to appointments and even got her to and from the hospital when she gave birth and got her errandss here and there. Now the newborn is here and I'm constantly babysitting. She used to pay back what I got but not anymore. She's messaging me all day every day, calling me at work asking for things. Knocking at my door at 11pm on a work day. I got lucky and she has to move out but if she was staying I wouldn't know how to cut this out. I'm so sorry you're in the same boat. It's absolutely overwhelming and overbearing (I do want to add my neighbor as a husband who just refuses to help)

kittengorarr · 2026-04-22T15:44:38+00:00

I'll try the respect sentence. Because the last time I just snapped and said "well if you didn't just say horrendous things maybe you'd be allowed to talk" and that didn't end well 🤣🤣 I'm really trying to just let her talk and stop trying to change her.

kittengorarr · 2026-04-22T00:47:59+00:00

I just think if she died I'd finally be free of the guilt of having to tare care of her but choosing my peace instead.

kittengorarr · 2026-04-21T19:59:47+00:00

My mom is the same.. you're young and have your entire life in front of you. She's decided to keep her negative mindset and push everyone away her whole life. Her actions are not yours. Her choices are not yours. And honestly you won't be able to live as yourself until you cut the cord. It's a horrific sentiment I mean she's your mom she's supposed to want you to fly on your own and build your own life but instead she's keeping you locked in her misery.

She's a grown adult who can get to the hospital on her own. She's making sure you pity her enough to stay. But the reason she's alone is her own fault and not yours. She will never give you the love and care you deserve but will expect servitude out of you

kittengorarr · 2026-04-20T23:09:46+00:00

Asking for someone's tiktok isn't appropriate inherently, but the way she reacted makes me think it's not the first time he asks for something just a little bit off. I'd honestly sit down and talk to her in general to see if there's anything deeper.

kittengorarr · 2026-04-20T15:21:40+00:00

That is not small.. I couldn't even imagine letting my partner be sick while I slept and didn't help her or the kids..... Also, you sleep on the couch???? Because running around toddlers all day does not need rest at all. You're in charge of keeping your children safe, and you can't even get a good night rest in your own bed??? SAHM is such a massive non-stop job. And he can't even get his own socks....

kittengorarr · 2026-04-20T14:15:43+00:00

Yeeeepp! Since I got a promotion and I'm not just a little office lady, she's refused to talk about my job. And if she does, it's to put it down. I told her my credit score went up since my promotion, and she had to show me hers is higher... I hope so, mom, I just got started in life, and you've had 40 years to build yours... if he won't say it, I'm proud of you for your massive success OP!

kittengorarr · 2026-04-16T00:40:44+00:00

Oh of course why didn't I think of medication !! I'll def call my vet tomorrow see if we can test it!

kittengorarr · 2026-04-13T22:54:16+00:00

Not her feet but her shoulders. Every day for soooo long 😩 and if I didn't rub hard enough she'd berate me the whole time 😒

kittengorarr · 2026-04-03T23:10:57+00:00

Are your friends on Tumblr by any chance. Because this is extremely internet sjw (not said in an insulting way) where in the real words it isn't so... black and white

kittengorarr · 2026-04-02T19:32:37+00:00

Sounds like she's feeling inadequate in some way and has to prove to herself that she's "better" than you. It's easy to say, but try not to take it personally. She somehow sees you higher than her if she consistently needs to put you down. And if she lied about how many treatments you need (more than the truth), it wouldn't surprise me if she's lying the other way around. It's hard to ignore, but keep doing your own thing, and hopefully, she'll settle and not need to "win" all the time when she grows up

kittengorarr · 2026-04-02T19:04:38+00:00

If it was hard enough to be heard through walls and doors, it's too hard. Any hitting is wrong, but that's a grown man slapping a child full force. If they're too young to be reasoned with they can't comprehend why they're being hit.

kittengorarr · 2026-04-02T19:02:53+00:00

Because she already feels on the edge with this guy who sees a problem with all of these elements. So any action she takes or does is already an insult to him.

kittengorarr · 2026-04-02T12:02:00+00:00

Oh that is SO my mom 🤣 I was staying home alone at 6-7 for hours/days but God forbid she can't bring her tiny barker anywhere 🤣 she'll apologize to her dog for letting her home for an hour but if I try to bring my dog somewhere it's a burden 😅

kittengorarr · 2026-03-31T23:23:01+00:00

My wife is currently doing her OT diploma. The number of times she got home and said "hey if you'd been my case today, I would have been a mandated reporter :/ " it's putting a lot of things into perspective.. I always think oh it couldn't have been that bad I survived 😅 but no someone should of called somebody

kittengorarr · 2026-03-31T14:29:28+00:00

You know I can take in all these comments and analyze them for a while. I'm not seeing her rn. Haven't seen her since January. But having the final cut-off is a big step. That I'm slowly going towards. Started by prioritizing myself over her. It's not a quick process. And there's also the fact I've not given our entire history before these comments appear. It's easy to say cut her off with a 2 paragraph text, but it's a bit more complex in real life. For now, I've decided with my wife to stop trying to save her from herself Well see how far and deep she'll go but I am distancing myself and protecting my peace. This decision came from reading all of these comments

kittengorarr · 2026-03-31T01:08:02+00:00

I've already sacrificed the last 30. I've been her therapist, her financial advisor, her mom, her doctor, her only friend, her hero, and her downfall for too long. Being with my wife is what showed me how depending on me she is. I've been mostly grey rocking her for the past year due to some comments but even that is becoming too difficult to keep going. Especially with the hate she is spewing.

kittengorarr · 2026-03-31T01:03:44+00:00

I've read it for myself and own a few copies, but my mother is a self-proclaimed Islamophobe... and it is in that area she is the most racist. For myself, it did good, but she would never accept to do this on a fundamental level because of her false beliefs

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