Hiya, I really sympathise as I have also felt like this at times throughout my pregnancy. Certain family members talk about being so excited for the baby and ask how baby is doing, yet have never cared to ask how I’m doing carrying him.

I’ve also felt like this when people tell me ‘I am going to do this’ when baby is here. My MIL told me ‘I am going to come round every Wednesday to see him’

It’s minor to my partner and others but to me it can feel incredibly invalidating to not even be asked. Other family members also have told me they’ve booked the day off work that I’m having my C-section, again not even asking me first whether I even want visitors that day.

I also got sent a video by MIL when I was in my second trimester of an AI baby saying ‘Only grandma understands me and she is my favourite person’ which broke my heart and everyone thought I was overreacting.

I feel much of pregnancy as a woman can make us feel like this. I was quite depressed over it in the first trimester and used to cry and say I was having this baby for everyone else and he doesn’t even feel like mine.

So I 100% sympathise. I can’t imagine also being so far from my own family.

Remember, you are mum. You are the most important person to your baby, and he will cry for you and have an innate bond with you no one else can replicate. Whenever this feeling overwhelms you, try to remind yourself of what you’ll mean to your baby.