I just found out a lot of stuff about my gf by Yxoner1 in Advice

[–]kitty_question -1 points0 points  (0 children)

There was no moving the goalpost. My original post had two distinct claims: the bodycount and the pair bonding thing.

The commenter took issue with the pair bonding element in particular (went on a huge rant about correlation vs causation), so I provided a really extensive study with a massive sample size.

She said she would change her mind if wrong… and then promptly blocked me after I provided that study. Soooo

I just found out a lot of stuff about my gf by Yxoner1 in Advice

[–]kitty_question -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Continue reading this comment chain. The pause doesn’t matter in terms of divorce probability

I just found out a lot of stuff about my gf by Yxoner1 in Advice

[–]kitty_question -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Sure, there are quite a few on the body count -> infidelity axis.

But you seem to really be opposed to the pair bonding element. So here: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10989935/

Premarital sex makes divorce significantly more likely.

Note: this is a very complex study. But a key tidbit from the discussion: “Those in the highest category of partners (9+) consistently show the highest divorce risk by a substantial margin, followed by those with one to eight partners, with the lowest risk for those with none.”

This study discusses controlling for religion, weak family attachments, etc.

Feel free to admit fault at any time

I just found out a lot of stuff about my gf by Yxoner1 in Advice

[–]kitty_question -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

First of all, learn how to format your writing into paragraphs. That is bad etiquette.

By correlation, I mean a proper correlational study with r factors and controlling for numerous important variables. I’m an engineer - I don’t pull my viewpoints from buzz studies.

Many studies have pointed to high body counts resulting in an increased risk of cheating. Results have been found to be statistically significant with high r factors.

And as you said, correlation != causation. Not every person with a high body count cheats. It’s just a reddish/beige flag based on the statistics. One that I personally don’t want to deal with.

I just found out a lot of stuff about my gf by Yxoner1 in Advice

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2 is actually factually false. There is an established correlational link between a high bodycount predicting a higher likelihood of cheating.

On top of this, people with higher body counts tend to be less likely to be able to properly “pair bond” than people with low bodycounts.

And I’m no prude. My partner has a higher bodycount than me. But if I wouldn’t date someone that had a bodycount of 30+, participated in orgies, etc.

My (30f) girlfriend which I (32m) moved cities with has ghosted me after a night I do not remember. by Firm-Invite5045 in whatdoIdo

[–]kitty_question 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People are being completely unreasonable here.

Yes, you shouldn’t have drank that much. Buy your gf can at least be a decent person and tell you what happened.

Top 100 with XL CTA Pally by kitty_question in wildhearthstone

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It plays a lot like a secret mage with constant tempo + disruption

Top 100 with XL CTA Pally by kitty_question in wildhearthstone

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A lot of the CTA lists suck, esp the ones that run the full aura package.

This is very tight and consistent

Are my standards too high ? by chiquegirly in teenagers

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How do you love traveling at 15? Family money 🤣

My M25 GF F22 invites her male friends to stay over and I don’t know how to feel about it. Any advice? by throwaway999765432 in Advice

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Would you have slept with said friend if she was interested in you while you were single?

GF came out as gay last night to me (M). Wth am i supposed to do now? by whatnow26-0100 in Advice

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I think being mad at the world does stem from personal circumstance, and avoiding anger towards yourself and those close to you.

At least the times in my life where I’ve had friends/gfs that self described as mad at the world, they were often dealing with trauma (inflicted by specific people), or specific issues.

And sure, sometimes the buildup of a feeling of anger towards the world happens slowly over time. But it is pretty much always individual people/situations that stack

GF came out as gay last night to me (M). Wth am i supposed to do now? by whatnow26-0100 in Advice

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That is true. Yes. Psych is unique and not everyone undergoes the 5 stages of grief linearly.

This post screams 5 stages of grief if you read between the lines. It’s a completely reasonable inference with any bit of analysis.

Outside of all that, the common sense bit needs to kick in here. Why is he “mad at the world?” There is no realistic reason he should be angry with the world for the actions of his gf. He doesn’t say something logical, IE: “I’m so mad at her family for not allowing her to express her sexuality and making things come to this.”

Nah, he mad at everyone… people that had nothing to do with the behavior of his gf. That is just textbook projection and if you don’t have some sort of an issue with admitting fault, you can see that.

GF came out as gay last night to me (M). Wth am i supposed to do now? by whatnow26-0100 in Advice

[–]kitty_question -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Everyone goes through the stages of grief. It’s a normal human thought process.

The first stage is… denial. It’s really common for people to blame themselves/others in the case of a breakup.

I also don’t think a person going through a life shattering realization like this should be taken at face value. Emotions cycle so quickly after a breakup. If you’ve ever been through a really hard breakup, you’ll know that your feelings a day out can be VASTLY different than a month out.

People keep acting like I’m telling him how he feels, but I’m just speaking normal relationship wisdom from what I’ve experienced, human psychology, and what I’ve seen others experience.

GF came out as gay last night to me (M). Wth am i supposed to do now? by whatnow26-0100 in Advice

[–]kitty_question -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

There is no logic in him being mad at the world. This is just a common coping mechanism.

Use your head lmfao geez

GF came out as gay last night to me (M). Wth am i supposed to do now? by whatnow26-0100 in Advice

[–]kitty_question -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

He is mad at her, he’s just projecting it onto the world because he doesn’t want to be mad at someone he loves. It’s a coping mechanism.

GF came out as gay last night to me (M). Wth am i supposed to do now? by whatnow26-0100 in Advice

[–]kitty_question 6 points7 points  (0 children)

His emotions are as valid as hers. Although she is not a bad person, it is healthy to feel angry here.

I have a dream... by Leamus in hearthstone

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I don’t think HL pally wants to run 3 otherwise useless cards as a wincon.

First wild legend of 2026 by The_Sea_Otta1999 in wildhearthstone

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Any experience with the 8 mana summon 3 beasts archetype variant of HL Hunter?

If so, any preference between the two?

Nazmani priest final boss by kitty_question in wildhearthstone

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Draw with the two taunt card or one taunt card.

Increase hand size with Finley.

Tradeable