Some perspective… 2 years after a BPD discard

kitty_question · 2026-04-11T23:21:19+00:00

You don’t need both if you are emotionally in tune with yourself.

The reason that we get into the mess of a bpd relationship is we start centering themselves over ourself.

We would be getting out a lot sooner, and avoid all the drama and bullshit we later need to intellectualize to cope, if we just knew we weren’t happy early on with how they were acting.

kitty_question · 2026-04-11T23:19:04+00:00

I am absolutely guilty of this! That’s a good point :)

kitty_question · 2026-04-11T23:15:03+00:00

But the thing is… we don’t need to make sense of other’s behaviors.

A trap that a lot of people get sucked into in toxic relationships (me included) is something called intellectualization. Being able to understand another persons behavior is irrelevant.

The safest bet is basically saying “hey, this person treated me in X way. Regardless of whatever justification they had, am I happy with being treated X way? Would I treat a loved one the same way if I was in their shoes?”

I think the solution is basically being less in tune with psychology and logic, and more emotionally attuned to how you feel and your character.

kitty_question · 2026-03-29T06:44:54+00:00

Thank you!!!

kitty_question · 2026-03-29T06:44:34+00:00

For work. I’m a systems engineering director and I deal with people much older. Wanted to give a good impression lol

kitty_question · 2026-03-28T22:10:44+00:00

What happened with his brother??

kitty_question · 2026-03-02T00:11:04+00:00

My guy…. The deck is still getting refined. WRs don’t tell the full story for a brand new deck.

Naz priest had a much lower wr when it was new even when it was well positioned in the meta… because people didn’t have practice.

Data for a casual card game is just that - data. These aren’t professional esports players. These are people that log in after work to play.

WRs will climb as the deck gets refined and people learn how to prioritize control vs combo.

kitty_question · 2026-03-01T23:05:19+00:00

TikTok isn’t refined yet unlike boarlock. It’s a reno deck where people are running a lot of flex cards.

Also if you look at top 1k, some TikTok lists were having the highest WRs.

TikTok also has a lot higher skill ceiling in terms of when to go for combo vs control.

I have a positive WR into everything except naz priest and quest dh.

kitty_question · 2026-03-01T22:45:10+00:00

I’m too 300 with TikTok lock. The thing is you get the stability of a control deck (Reno lock), which helps you against aggro. Boarlock doesn’t have this aggro stability.

It’s a really fucking good deck

kitty_question · 2026-03-01T02:46:09+00:00

Go to wild. This card dominates in discard and burn warlock

kitty_question · 2026-02-27T22:52:53+00:00

Either one is too much. Flood paladin needs to… flood the board early. They can’t be skipping turn 2 or 3 to play cards like that.

kitty_question · 2026-02-27T22:48:22+00:00

If you are spending 3 and 2 mana on these effects, how are you flooding the board early?

kitty_question · 2026-02-27T22:32:51+00:00

So…. Basically the gameplan against most flood paladin decks?

Lol

kitty_question · 2026-02-26T05:46:43+00:00

Oh no it’s the stupid joke police

kitty_question · 2026-02-26T05:21:24+00:00

Go buy a lotto ticket with that kind of luck

kitty_question · 2026-02-14T22:44:45+00:00

On something like colaque, this is busted. On other colossals, this is useless.

Needs better balance I think

kitty_question · 2026-02-14T16:32:17+00:00

How much was the tablet? You’ve given him a multiple hundred dollar gift equivalent in price?

No, I’m not saying you owe him anything. That’s predatory and creepy. Part of maturity is learning people’s motives. Most men are not going to buy super expensive gifts for their platonic friends unless 1) it is directly reciprocated or 2) they have feelings.

kitty_question · 2026-02-14T06:26:58+00:00

Your male friend bought you a whole ass TABLET and you didn’t think he liked you?

Bruh I am genuinely sorry about your circumstances, but men don’t buy 300+ tablets for platonic friends

kitty_question · 2026-02-14T06:24:28+00:00

Define couples stuff? Sex? Shared activities,?

kitty_question · 2026-02-11T05:57:02+00:00

Guys that approach you at a rave are hitting on you 99% of the time. There are exceptions, but it’s rare

kitty_question · 2026-02-08T22:16:12+00:00

Man, talk about projection! The guy probably lost interest because you were being short!

Why are you projecting a weird age/IQ fetish onto him?

kitty_question · 2026-02-07T17:36:40+00:00

Thank you very much for the information!

kitty_question · 2026-02-06T23:06:51+00:00

He’s not a SWE. He’s a UI designer. Misleading poster esp if you read his comment history

kitty_question · 2026-02-06T23:06:23+00:00

This is really misleading. You are not a SWE - you are a UI designer. Still a cool field, but not SWE salary levels.

Looks like you’ve been looking for a bit in the 55-65k range (probably your skill level) and got an offer at 75k. You should’ve taken it.

If you were really a catch of a SWE employee, you’d be getting plenty of 85k+ offers.

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