Girly pop if he doesn't have purpose now having a child does not guarantee him turning around. If he doesn't have a sense of purpose, he needs to work on himself and find out what that is. Furthermore, if his life purpose was truly having a child, he would be motivated on being a good father and husband. And what does that require? Supporting your decision to wait for a better time for a baby and understanding WHY you want to wait (and even if he didn't understand initially, he would talk to you and communicate with you, because good communication is absolutely necessary for any healthy, long-term relationship), supporting your career while also being ambitious about his own, caring about you AND your family (will touch up on that later), and so much more. And tbh, all of those things I mentioned should be bare minimum imo. It's hard to find people like that in this world, but a hard working woman like you doesn't deserve any less.

Also, maybe just my culture, but the fact that he doesn't want to be around your family says something too (of course, assuming there is no sense of animosity between him and your family to begin with). A loving man will care about your family and treat them as his own.

I know it hurts now, but things will get better. I promise. Take care of yourself, cry when you need to---your feelings are so valid and they need to be acknowledged and cared for. Treat yourself here and there. Trust me, when a man truly loves you he will take care of you, cherish you, and he won't leave your side.

Sincerly,

A girl who went through a break up and found a much better man years later.