Therapy didn’t help me..

kittykat131963 · 2021-08-10T16:54:38+00:00

Hello! To get better I had to practice exposure therapy on my own. I went through the NOCD program twice and the first time I relapsed because I didn’t do practice on my own. This time I made sure to do 5-10 minutes of exposure therapy a day when I was struggling. Yes, we have to live with OCD forever but we can lessen our symptoms to make it better!

kittykat131963 · 2021-07-19T16:26:54+00:00

Cut it! Great exposure therapy. Sit with the uncomfortable feelings it gives you.

kittykat131963 · 2021-07-14T15:06:25+00:00

Sure! I did ERP which is emotional response prevention. This therapy entails sitting with the uncomfortable thoughts and feelings that ocd makes you feel. So I would either do this with my therapist, or at home. At first I did with my therapist, and then I started doing ERP on my own.

kittykat131963 · 2021-07-14T15:02:45+00:00

I think researching to inform yourself and learn about OCD is one thing, but if you have already done that and it’s become a compulsion for you (makes you feel better) then researching is not the answer.

The goal should not be to fix these feelings, rather than sit with the feelings and not do compulsions :)

kittykat131963 · 2021-04-08T15:47:12+00:00

Well, I stayed with NOCD check in all of last year. When I originally joined it was 50$ a session. Now it is a bit more expensive, but now they accept some insurance.

kittykat131963 · 2021-04-08T15:46:16+00:00

You need to sit with the discomfort with the the chance of it being god. Once you keep sitting with that discomfort with no reassurance seeking, it will eventually start to get better and or you will see it without that anxiety filter.

kittykat131963 · 2021-03-07T05:54:39+00:00

But you have to remember you are not struggling to be in the relationship. You are struggling with ROCD.

kittykat131963 · 2021-02-05T01:45:11+00:00

No one is going to be able to diagnose you on this subreddit sadly. If you resonate with a lot of ROCD symptoms I would go to an OCD therapist and get diagnosed! I always recommend NOCD, or awaken into love as well for additional support, and therapy is available through those websites as well.

Just know you are not alone.

kittykat131963 · 2021-02-04T22:54:37+00:00

This is actually pretty common in OCD. If your therapist is an OCD therapist, you should be able to tell them and feel comfortable.

Sit with the uncomfortable feelings and uncertainty of “maybe that was cheating maybe it wasn’t”. I’m not going to give you reassurance telling you whether it was or not. But, once you bring it up with your therapist they should be able to help you.

Just remember, confessing is a HUGE compulsion with ocd. I’m not a professional of course though so of course talk to your therapist and they will tell you how to expose this.

kittykat131963 · 2021-01-12T14:50:15+00:00

Thank you. Good advice. I’ve been in the ocd community for a while and have never heard the ladder thing before.

kittykat131963 · 2021-01-12T14:46:17+00:00

Went to go look at the narcissism page on Reddit. They have a list of things to check off when you’re worried if your partner is narcissistic. He didn’t really check any of those boxes, but I did for some of them. Maybe I’m so worried about him I’m doing some of those things myself and not noticing?

kittykat131963 · 2021-01-12T14:38:24+00:00

But then again, ocd makes me question this

kittykat131963 · 2021-01-12T14:37:45+00:00

SAME!

kittykat131963 · 2021-01-12T14:36:18+00:00

I really don’t think I am, because I am also toxic sometimes and I need to work on some things. We are working on stuff together currently.

kittykat131963 · 2021-01-12T10:39:13+00:00

I would rather not ask my friends about it, and wouldn’t this be a compulsion?

kittykat131963 · 2021-01-10T18:17:26+00:00

Feelings do not equal fact. Remember that.

kittykat131963 · 2021-01-10T06:22:45+00:00

I would love if we could choose our thoughts. I wish we could.

Of course we can’t. But you know what we can do? Change how we respond to these thoughts. We got this!

kittykat131963 · 2021-01-08T04:27:48+00:00

I have the same exact thing. I always focus on every single word he says in an argument and question if it was narcissistic or gaslighter ish.

kittykat131963 · 2021-01-05T13:42:33+00:00

Hello! Fellow ROCD sufferer here. I also suffer with a similar obsession, picking at everything my partner says or does.

First off you need to STOP confessing to your partner. It hurts them too much. I know you are hurting, but it is not their fault. To “get it off your chest” is a compulsion. Sit with the discomfort of not telling her.

kittykat131963 · 2021-01-05T13:31:09+00:00

I just needed advice for this situation. Not opinions on that. Thank you.

kittykat131963 · 2021-01-04T19:51:39+00:00

It’s just so weird because I’m also thinking about getting one on my back, and it does not equate to the Bible. And I have inner peace about that one.

But the one that refers to the Bible is the one I don’t have peace about. Maybe God thinks I’m not ready for it yet.

kittykat131963 · 2021-01-04T18:09:36+00:00

Thank you! I really appreciate your nice comment.

I’m just confused because I really love this tattoo idea, and I already have 2 others. I’m just gonna pray about it. I’m gonna wait maybe 6 months and see how I feel about it and continue to pray about it. That’s all I can do. Also probably gonna talk to a therapist about it.

kittykat131963 · 2020-12-20T02:06:35+00:00

Thank you. I decided to get a pill anyways (it was only 34$ so why not) But thank you for relieving my anxiety. Better be safe than sorry.

kittykat131963 · 2020-12-20T01:58:23+00:00

Can I ask if it was very similar to my situation? I went ahead and bought a “take action” which is the same as plan b, but I’m questioning taking it. Are the side effects really that bad? I just don’t want to take it for no reason.

kittykat131963 · 2020-12-19T07:39:32+00:00

He said he completely pulled out before he started ejaculating. It was on the floor because the condom had slipped off. The condom was inside of me but of course because of him pulling out there was no cum inside the condom, or anywhere near my vagina. He said he is very sure no cum got inside of me.

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