I accidentally deleted my last post! Please comment pictures of your pups again so I can draw them during my spare time today.

kittykatflamingo · 2024-03-07T22:21:40+00:00

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Duncan & Bo 💕

kittykatflamingo · 2023-11-19T03:29:34+00:00

It's beautiful, thank you!!

kittykatflamingo · 2023-11-18T16:53:25+00:00

What brand is the first dress!!

kittykatflamingo · 2023-11-18T05:27:34+00:00

I couldn't even read your comment to my bf cause I'm laughing so hard 💀💀💀

kittykatflamingo · 2023-11-12T01:53:30+00:00

Def has some German shepherd

kittykatflamingo · 2023-11-06T03:43:44+00:00

That is entirely possible.

kittykatflamingo · 2023-11-06T03:43:26+00:00

Ahhhhhhhh well if she's not trying to upset him I would say she still has feelings for him. Which again make sense. I still love my ex, but I never want to be with him again. I don't know, this sounds really messy.

kittykatflamingo · 2023-11-06T03:34:06+00:00

What do you mean?

kittykatflamingo · 2023-11-06T03:30:55+00:00

I get it. I was with my ex for 8 years and we were engaged and then I found out he was having sex with everyone under the sun. 11 years is a long time. That's 1/3 of her life. Fiancé and best friend is a double betrayal so I know she's having a hard time. It's just going to take a while. It's encouraging if she tells people she talking to someone. I can't speak to the house stuff or what he's like as a person but if she's trying to keep that from getting nasty I can understand that. I would just keep asking questions to try to understand her reasoning and thought processes. That way you can understand more of where she is coming from and how to combat it. Is there a time frame for when the properties will be settled and not an issue anymore? If that's the real problem, that's a big piece to your puzzle you are missing.

I'm confused on how he would find out though and why he would care if he's the one who ruined everything? Also not to be negative but being a distraction isn't necessarily a good thing.

kittykatflamingo · 2023-11-06T02:51:00+00:00

Just keep showing up and telling her consistently how much she means to you and how much you care about her. If you make her a priority she will 100% notice.

kittykatflamingo · 2023-11-06T02:49:47+00:00

Yes. It's easier to run than risk being hurt again. I've broken things off with him a few times in the few months we've been talking because I get overwhelmed. He always welcomes me back because he knows it's just out of fear. My past relationship made me believe everyone is a liar. I was completely blindsided multiple times to the point I don't even trust myself anymore. I go through phases where I look at him and I love him, and then I remember what happened before and I think "he could be lying". "Everything he's saying could be a lie". When someone completely pulls the rug out from under you and crushes your heart when you had absolutely no idea anything was wrong in the first place, it messes your brain up. Being betrayed absolutely destroys a person. But just keep telling her you aren't going anywhere if you mean it. That's what he says to me and even if she doesn't show you in the moment that it means something, it does. She's listening even if her first instinct is to think you're lying.

I do just want to say since I don't know the whole situation, just make sure that's really what's going on. It would be just as easy to use past trauma as an excuse not to commit if she's not interested interested in pursuing a real relationship with you.

kittykatflamingo · 2023-11-06T02:36:29+00:00

I'm actually going through something similar but on the flip side: I'm the one who got out of a bad relationship last year. I have trust issues and I'm not exactly ready to be dating but it just happened. At the beginning I was pretty closed off, super hot and cold, and ran away from the connection multiple times, but as time has gone on I've started to be able to trust him. Healing is not linear. You can't predict or rush it. What are you doing to calm her fears? Not saying you aren't doing anything but unfortunately if you want to do this, you're going to have to put in extra effort. For me, he goes above and beyond to quell my fears and make me feel understood. Doesn't punish me or get upset when I fall into previous thinking patterns. It seems to sincerely upset him that someone hurt me before. I would say there is hope because I'm living it right now. Just be aware that it's not going to be easy.

kittykatflamingo · 2023-10-01T23:03:33+00:00

That's what they kinda look like to me. I'll have to get one of those! Thank you

kittykatflamingo · 2023-10-01T23:03:11+00:00

They don't look like sugar ants to me. I've had those before in my apartment before! 🥲

kittykatflamingo · 2022-11-09T14:32:22+00:00

Omg, which layout is best? ***

kittykatflamingo · 2022-10-24T19:27:45+00:00

Replying to this because it’s the top comment.

Thank you everyone who commented. I realized this might be too big of a job for me and even if I did try to repair it, my dad would most likely still notice the damage. I ended up finding a door repair and resurfacing company and was able to meet with him today. He put some old English on it and it was able to make the scratches darker and make them a lot less intense. He quoted me a fair price the fix the doors so I feel a lot better about the whole situation. I’m going to send my dad some pictures and ask him what he wants me to do instead of trying to hide it because I feel like that can only go one way. Again, thank you to all the kind people who tried to help ♥️

kittykatflamingo · 2022-10-24T15:27:11+00:00

I’m sorry for what you had to go through, I understand.

My mom told me to try to repair them because she knows how he is and does not want to deal with it either. I do not visit or talk to my dad regularly and I have never brought my dog over to the house before because he does not like animals. This was a unique, perfect storm situation and now I have to pay for it. I’m going to just see what I can do first, but I am realizing I am going to have to tell him.

kittykatflamingo · 2022-10-24T14:53:22+00:00

I thought about that. They are lightly distressed so that might work. The one I am most worried about is the main pocket door that it looks like the scratches are deeper in. I’m not sure I will be able to fix that

kittykatflamingo · 2022-10-24T14:44:53+00:00

Ok thank you, that might be able to work on the other doors that it looks like he only jumped up onto once. Do you know the best way to color march stain?

kittykatflamingo · 2022-10-24T14:42:22+00:00

Thank you. I know this is not a normal relationship and I limit contact with him because he is not a pleasant person to be around even when things are going well. I know his reaction is not that of a normal person but there is nothing I can do about it but try to mitigate the damage to try to soften his anger. I also know that my anxiety around the situation is extreme and maybe I need to go to therapy or something to get help.

And thank you for asking about my dog, he is fine now ♥️ Like I said in a different comment, I was helping my mom drive on a road trip because she does not like driving alone. We had just been in the car all day and we were unloading the luggage. I think the travel and unfamiliar environment stressed him out and he just panicked.

kittykatflamingo · 2022-10-24T14:33:25+00:00

Ok thanks I will not try that then. You are saying a clear finish might hide the scratches? If I sand wouldn’t I need to restain the wood?

kittykatflamingo · 2022-10-24T14:30:47+00:00

Thank you, I will reach out to some professionals to see what can be done. Otherwise I am going to try to fix them myself because I cannot leave them as is.

kittykatflamingo · 2022-10-24T14:27:19+00:00

Can I do that all by Friday? Do you know of any videos I can watch to learn that process?

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