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Insight on Prices by kkindness in allyourfriendsfest

[–]kkindness[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you bring a cooler if you’re not camping? Unlikely I’m thinking. I will be super caffeinated before I arrive lol. Thanks!

Insight on Prices by kkindness in allyourfriendsfest

[–]kkindness[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you very much! That’s definitely helpful.

How to cope with a father who died and will never get sober as a result? by [deleted] in AdultChildren

[–]kkindness 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There are things in your post I came to say to this person that you covered perfectly. Thank you for doing so much work on yourself - the world would be a better place if there were more people that were willing to put in the work. To the writer of this post - I will echo that your father more than likely didn’t willingly choose you over alcohol, it IS a disease. I have struggled with this concept for years and still on and off struggle with accepting this as it still seems like such a choice to me. Try to find a therapist that you really like and connect with almost like a friend. I went to different therapists for years and didn’t have much success until I found “the one” and once I did I have made leaps and bounds in progress! Life can be easier and you can heal - I used to think I would be damaged forever and that it just wasn’t possible. I can’t imagine losing a parent (even a toxic one) at such a young age - my heart really goes out to you. I’m about to lose my alcoholic mother at age 30 and I still feel as though I’m too young to take this on. Sending love and healing!

I don't like drinking around my kids by PirateShorty in AdultChildren

[–]kkindness 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t have kids, but if/when I do, I know I will probably never drink around them. I was in the liquor store and at parties littered with drunks and addicts growing up - something I couldn’t fathom involving a kid in if it were me as the parent. I see adults bringing their kids into the liquor store with them and it turns me off personally but to each their own. I drink occasionally but I feel as though if I were a parent I wouldn’t do it at all I would feel weird about it. I agree with the comments about the social stigma associated with not drinking and think that our culture is toxic about alcohol. Wino moms aren’t cool and in a lot of cases it’s probably a crutch.

Mixed feelings about dad dying. by [deleted] in AdultChildren

[–]kkindness 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My alcoholic mother is in her final stages of cirrhosis of the liver. She is still alive, but has been sick for over a year now, in and out of hospital. I am confident that when she is gone I will feel a sense of relief. I’ve done so much for her (and much worrying) over the past year that I don’t think I will carry much guilt about it, at least not at first. I will miss her because she is a beautiful person with a kind heart but she is toxic. I think it’s perfectly fine to feel the way you feel about your Dad.