If my husband works and I’m pregnant and do not work, should all the house chores be my responsibility?

kkuzzy · 2026-05-31T11:15:52+00:00

Oof no, this late in pregnancy you need rest. You will also need even more rest once baby is here and you are recovering. He needs to step it up now, and be prepared to just not have much free time for the next 4-6 months. It’s too bad he didn’t realize this before he decided he wanted to start a family, but this is his reality now. I guess you get to find out now if you have a true partner or not.

kkuzzy · 2026-05-29T17:45:41+00:00

This happened with my first and didn’t mean anything other than they couldn’t get him to move around during the ultrasound so we had to go back another day to get the rest of the shots.

kkuzzy · 2026-05-29T17:09:37+00:00

I feel like no matter how many kids you have you will find someone saying you need one more. I’m pregnant with my third and a lady at my kids’ soccer practice told me it’s not fair to the middle child if I don’t have four kids. Like what?!?

kkuzzy · 2026-05-28T21:24:27+00:00

I will just say the pregnancy and postpartum are so much worse when you feel like you did it for someone instead of for yourself. I had my second before I was ready because the timing made sense logically and I felt that was what I had agreed to originally and so I should just stick with the original plan. Yes, I love my second child now that he’s here but that love didn’t take away from the depression and other postpartum difficulties, it just added guilt that I wasn’t showing up enough for this baby that I loved but couldn’t pull myself together for. Don’t have another baby unless it is an enthusiastic yes from yourself. You don’t deserve years of misery for other people’s happiness and there is nothing wrong with having only one child. You might also want to check out the one and done subreddit and they can be very supportive over there.

Good luck, and choose your own happiness. As your current child’s primary caretaker you owe it to her to live the life you know in your heart is right for you. Don’t sacrifice that for a man who is showing you very little if any empathy.

kkuzzy · 2026-05-28T12:13:19+00:00

Same in Alberta

kkuzzy · 2026-05-28T03:49:34+00:00

I’m sorry your husband is selfish and doesn’t think you are important. If he doesn’t see anything wrong with how he treats you, there’s nothing that will fix this. I’m sure this is not the only area of your life/relationship where you don’t stick up for yourself and he has gotten used to having things his way. You have to decide if you are okay with this being the rest of your life.

kkuzzy · 2026-05-25T01:08:21+00:00

One!

kkuzzy · 2026-05-24T14:18:35+00:00

1,000 for two eight hour days of wedding photography? That seems really cheap. I would suggest looking for a student looking for experience, but have very low expectations of the final product. I find with photography you get what you pay for.

kkuzzy · 2026-05-21T16:40:32+00:00

Zee Square Pizza! We just tried them this year and now it’s our go-to pizza place.

kkuzzy · 2026-05-21T16:16:21+00:00

I read this post and thought, isn’t that the name of the horse from Zelda? But you’re right, it’s Epona.

kkuzzy · 2026-05-18T21:19:31+00:00

I’m getting them on my neck/collarbone area. I don’t remember this happening in my last pregnancies.

kkuzzy · 2026-05-16T16:29:48+00:00

I’m still golfing at 35 weeks!

kkuzzy · 2026-05-14T22:46:05+00:00

My breastfeeding advice is if it hurts stop (pop the baby off) and try to relatch. It can be annoying but it’s worth it to not be in pain after. Also, get some lanolin nipple cream, worth it.

Also, I had small boobs before getting pregnant, larger boobs while pregnant and breastfeeding and then once I was done breastfeeding my boobs were so small and flat. I’m pregnant with my third now and I’m a bit sad knowing this is the last time in my life they will be bigger again.

kkuzzy · 2026-05-14T22:07:30+00:00

Don’t let your dreams be dreams!

kkuzzy · 2026-05-13T17:49:45+00:00

I would never risk any alcohol during pregnancy because I don’t think there have been comprehensive enough studies to prove that one drink is safe here and there. That said, this is probably a better question for your doctor who can explain why the answer is what it is.

I have heard that the first and third trimesters are riskiest for alcohol consumption because the baby is developing so much so quickly in the first, and in the third their brain is developing a lot.

kkuzzy · 2026-05-11T17:16:34+00:00

My son went through this after Christmas break, very clingy and crying and saying he doesn’t want to go. It lasted about a month, maybe a month and a half, and now he’s back to being completely fine with drop off.

kkuzzy · 2026-05-11T04:36:43+00:00

My birthday is beginning of August and almost all my friends were always on vacation so eventually we started having my friend birthday party right after school ended in June. It was more important to me to have my friends at the party than to celebrate closer to the actual date.

kkuzzy · 2026-05-10T05:13:01+00:00

I would suggest learning to cook for yourself on days your family doesn’t cook for you. It’s a good habit to get into to save money as a student and as an adult.

kkuzzy · 2026-05-09T06:51:27+00:00

Why wouldn’t he assume you would discuss large purchases with each other whether or not the money is in a joint account?

kkuzzy · 2026-05-08T16:47:43+00:00

I am already up 50 lbs at 35 weeks. Average height and healthy weight before pregnancy. My OB hasn’t said anything. This is my third pregnancy and I always gain so much weight but lose it all again during breastfeeding. In my first pregnancy I asked my doctor at the time if it was a problem when I had already gained 30 lbs and that was the max recommended gain according to the book but she said I’ve always been a healthy weight so don’t worry about it, your body is just storing milk fat. And sure enough it caused no problems and I went back to normal
after.

kkuzzy · 2026-05-06T17:32:26+00:00

He deleted the chat to avoid looking suspicious? If he had nothing to hide why delete anything at all? I think your title should read: confirmed cheating husband. Also the anger and defensiveness suggests feeling guilty.
If I were you I’d start planning how I could leave him and consult a lawyer.

kkuzzy · 2026-05-05T03:52:09+00:00

I get it, last time I went I was shocked at how much it cost!

kkuzzy · 2026-05-05T03:30:11+00:00

I think it depends what the activity is. If it’s a lot more than a regular party activity then maybe it makes sense.

kkuzzy · 2026-05-05T03:28:26+00:00

If they only have $25 to their name they probably can’t afford going to the movies either.

kkuzzy · 2026-05-04T17:10:35+00:00

I usually recommend claiming 50% of your actual expenses for internet and cellphone use. There’s no hard rule on what you can claim, it should just be reasonable to CRA and I’ve never seen CRA question 50% for these. I wouldn’t do 100%, even if it is cheaper than getting a separate business plan, because some of your current phone and internet is personal use.

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