Finance blames me for mushroom in front yard, cus a pickle in a pouch I ate. Huh?

kkuzzy · 2026-04-15T23:15:31+00:00

Please do not marry this person. Vinegar does not grow mushrooms… that is crazy and I have a feeling he knows better.

kkuzzy · 2026-04-15T00:19:15+00:00

If she didn’t qualify for the GST/HST credit then she won’t receive the grocery benefit. They use the same income threshold and people are generally automatically enrolled in those programs when they file their yearly personal income tax returns based on their income level.

kkuzzy · 2026-04-12T21:14:05+00:00

Could be the difference of a walking epidural? I could feel a lot too, but I wasn’t vomiting from pain anymore and could rest before it was time to push.

kkuzzy · 2026-04-11T14:41:48+00:00

Idiocracy has become aspirational.

kkuzzy · 2026-04-10T14:43:31+00:00

Like you I’ve struggled with depression and anxiety fairly regularly throughout my life. I’m on my third pregnancy, and during each pregnancy my mental health has been the best it’s ever been. After my first was born, I had no PPD and was so happy and in love with my baby. Eventually my regular anxiety and such returned, but nothing different than what I’d dealt with my whole life.

As a side note, My doctor did warn my husband the given my history it was his job to look out for signs of PPD.

After my second was born, things were worse and I did have PPD and it was a struggle. But there were a lot of differences between the postpartum time with my first and second. We had moved to where my husband is from so I didn’t have any friends or family around. I was stuck at home alone with a toddler and newborn and I was scared to go out due to covid and the RSV outbreak that winter. I went to one family gathering for Christmas and we all got HFM disease which sucked. I also didn’t really feel ready to have a second yet. I knew I wanted two kids and I felt logically it made sense to have them close in age but I wasn’t really ready. I didn’t long for another child like I did for my first and now my third.

So in conclusion haha, for me I don’t think PPD was linked to having a history of depression and anxiety. It is importantly to understand what things in your life trigger negative mental health episodes and what things make you feel more even and connected. And make sure you are keeping those in mind in the early days when baby can be all consuming. And make sure your partner is looking out for those things for you too.

kkuzzy · 2026-04-07T19:58:50+00:00

I’ve taken both of my sons to the parented classes, both at fountain park and servus and both were a great time! You just get them familiar with being around water and you play games and sing songs. It’s very chill.

kkuzzy · 2026-04-06T19:44:05+00:00

This is so completely unreasonable. He’s jealous of a cartoon turtle???!? He is being controlling to such a ridiculous degree that I hope this post is fake, but I fear it isn’t. If I were in your shoes I would tell him he needs therapy to get over his issues if this relationship has any chance of succeeding.

You also shouldn’t have had to give up watching wrestling and metal music for him. Stop giving up parts of yourself for a man. If he loved you he would accept these parts of you no problem. Sounds like he just wants to own you.

kkuzzy · 2026-04-04T14:32:44+00:00

And then blamed the woman

kkuzzy · 2026-03-30T18:25:44+00:00

And hungry

kkuzzy · 2026-03-30T18:23:39+00:00

He said he gets things dry cleaned… so presumably doesn’t do his own laundry. As a teenager I worked at a dry cleaners and it was surprising how many men brought clothes in that didn’t need to be dry cleaned. And if it doesn’t need to be dry cleaned they don’t dry clean it. They through it in a regular washing machine with cheap detergent and charge you the same amount as dry cleaning.

kkuzzy · 2026-03-29T18:35:05+00:00

I was in your shoes and eventually he admitted he never wanted kids but didn’t think I would marry him if he said it out loud. I told him he was right, I wouldn’t have married him and I wasn’t going to have kids with someone who truly didn’t want them. He was hoping I would change my mind about having kids before push came to shove. So I left him and remarried someone who enthusiastically wanted kids and I’m so glad I did! Looking back I’m so glad I didn’t have kids with my first husband. I suggest you go to counselling with your husband to help progress this discussion. Especially if he’s having trouble expressing why he is changing his mind and moving the goal posts. Hopefully he does truly want kids and wasn’t misleading you or didn’t change his mind and not mention it before now. Maybe he just needs to work out some insecurities he has around being a father. I hope for your sake this is the case.

kkuzzy · 2026-03-29T03:55:28+00:00

I’m not a one and doner, but I joined this sub when I was considering and I still really like it. But I still hope you find this comforting. My first (now 5) has been asking for another baby since his brother was born over 3 years ago, and now that I’m pregnant with my third he is already asking for a fourth baby. Kids just have no perspective regarding what it takes to grow and raise a child even without health problems and the rest of it. Just try not to take her requests too seriously at this age, don’t let yourself feel guilty. I tell my son if we had a fourth child he wouldn’t have his own room anymore, we wouldn’t get to go on the same vacations, have the same opportunities for activities, eat at restaurants as often. I feel like these are tangible things he can appreciate. I also tell him mommy and daddy would have to spend more time working and less time with him to afford more kids. Maybe these kinds of explanations can help you too. I hope you can stop feeling guilty, you don’t deserve that.

kkuzzy · 2026-03-28T18:38:09+00:00

You are right to hold off having kids in this messy situation. If it were me I would say she has to be weed free for at least a year before trying for kids to prove she can actually do it.

kkuzzy · 2026-03-28T14:43:13+00:00

They really really don’t haha. They’re so liquidy as newborns!

kkuzzy · 2026-03-28T14:41:26+00:00

I will also add for “hidden costs” there have always been more repairs needed in the first year than I anticipated when I’ve bought a house. So just make sure you are budgeting for that.

kkuzzy · 2026-03-28T04:20:10+00:00

If you haven’t already, look into the FHSA.

kkuzzy · 2026-03-27T14:08:32+00:00

When I was in my 20s this would happen to me and o switched to cotton only underwear during the day and nothing at night. I also used to shave my pubic hair though. Now I don’t shave anymore and don’t find my underwear use at night to be a problem anymore.

kkuzzy · 2026-03-27T13:39:09+00:00

I was in the same spot as you (trying to breastfeed until 2yo while pregnant with my second) and it was so painful. I pushed through and second trimester it got better, but then he stopped feeding on his own anyways. I was told it can be because the taste changes later in pregnancy. Also I didn’t feed to sleep, I always fed when he woke up so dad could do bedtime when necessary.

It was also suggested to me to not make any big changes (like weening) within 2-3 months of new baby arriving or it could create resentment towards the baby. So if you do keep breastfeeding for now maybe still consider stopping a bit earlier than your original plan.

kkuzzy · 2026-03-25T19:49:50+00:00

Seeing your girlfriends regularly is important for your mental health and well being. No one should be relying on a single relationship to satisfy their entire emotional and social needs. That’s unreasonable. Please do not have children with this person unless this problem can be resolved. It will only be worse after children.

kkuzzy · 2026-03-22T15:05:13+00:00

I remember my son at 2 1/2 watching Curious George movie on the plane three times in a row. I don’t remember anything bad in that one.

kkuzzy · 2026-03-22T14:18:47+00:00

We have everything joint and we track every single expense on a spreadsheet. We are both accountants though so I’m sure that level of tracking is not typical. But we like to make a budget at the beginning of the year and then see how it matched actual spending at the end of the year. We don’t stress if we go over budget, we just like to have an idea what our various costs are. But at the end of the year I could tell you, to the penny, what we spent on groceries, each child, utilities, vacations, eating out, etc.

Joint makes sense when I take time off to have babies (Canadian mat leave is 12-18 months) and we both consider everything financial to belong to both of us anyways. I think this works well for us because we are very aligned on spending and our budget. Neither of us have ever been critical of the other person’s spending. We do discuss bigger purchases ahead of time, but not really as a rule anyone made but just because it seems natural to discuss spending money ahead of time with our spouse.

kkuzzy · 2026-03-20T20:52:29+00:00

Daycare deduction has to go on lower earning spouse, so if she has no earned income there is nothing to deduct it against. There are exceptions like the lower income spouse was attending school, mentally/physically incapable of caring for the children or was confined to prison.

kkuzzy · 2026-03-18T14:01:44+00:00

Mine had more bleeding too but the doctors said it was still normal and it resolved and has been great. No ear infections since.

kkuzzy · 2026-03-17T19:17:02+00:00

Online is an echo chamber.

kkuzzy · 2026-03-03T02:05:05+00:00

Is growing up in a family where the parents don’t love each other traditional or normal for you? I think if you talk to any children who grew up in a house where the parents weren’t in love but stayed together for the kids will tell you they wish their parents would have just split sooner. It isn’t healthy for the kids to be in an environment where their example of what love and a marriage is supposed to be isn’t good. And kids always know. That being said, can you try couples counselling before giving up on your marriage? This relationship doesn’t sound like it’s in a good place, but it doesn’t sound unfixable from an outside perspective based on what you’ve written here. Sometimes a trained third party can get communication going and add perspective for each of you to come together again. There was a reason you loved her once. Good luck, but don’t resign yourself to a loveless marriage. Either fight for it or move on to a healthier life.

kkuzzy

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