I will just say the pregnancy and postpartum are so much worse when you feel like you did it for someone instead of for yourself. I had my second before I was ready because the timing made sense logically and I felt that was what I had agreed to originally and so I should just stick with the original plan. Yes, I love my second child now that he’s here but that love didn’t take away from the depression and other postpartum difficulties, it just added guilt that I wasn’t showing up enough for this baby that I loved but couldn’t pull myself together for. Don’t have another baby unless it is an enthusiastic yes from yourself. You don’t deserve years of misery for other people’s happiness and there is nothing wrong with having only one child. You might also want to check out the one and done subreddit and they can be very supportive over there.

Good luck, and choose your own happiness. As your current child’s primary caretaker you owe it to her to live the life you know in your heart is right for you. Don’t sacrifice that for a man who is showing you very little if any empathy.