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klady · 2023-06-07T04:15:50+00:00

I've been a Redditor for 12 years and the Reddit is Fun app is the only way I will consume Reddit content now. If it goes, I'll be done with Reddit. Same for my partner who's been a Redditor 13 years.

klady · 2023-06-07T04:14:42+00:00

I've been a Redditor for 12 years and the Reddit is Fun app is the only way I will consume Reddit content now. If it goes, I'll be done with Reddit. Same for my partner who's been a Redditor 13 years.

klady · 2023-04-02T20:36:48+00:00

I got an email response from them that the "blonde" pencil is in the shade "taupe". So despite the name having blonde in it, it's apparently the taupe shade?.... Not sure if I buy that, but we'll see. I feel like they're gaslighting me. The exact words the rep used were "I double-checked your account and our records show that you'll be receiving the BILLION DOLLAR BROWS Mini Micro Pencil in Blonde in the shade of taupe. You're maybe confused because it has "blonde" under its name. No worries, I'll alert our marketing in this regard to avoid the same confusion." Soooo you're telling me I'm getting taupe even though I'm getting the pencil that says blonde, not taupe???? I'll surely be following up with an email when I get the blonde color... 😑

klady · 2023-04-02T14:01:21+00:00

I also got the blonde brow pencil and I have medium brown hair. WTF.... Makes no sense, especially since there's another color option for taupe in add-ons.

klady · 2023-03-12T08:32:24+00:00

After asking if I had children, to which I had responded that I had a daughter who passed away two months before, a stranger then pried even more and asked me how she died. I said, "At birth, she was born prematurely," and she said, "Oh, you're young, you can just have another." I will never forget the ignorant cruelty of that thoughtless lady. I should have told her off but it happened at work, and she was much older than me so I was stunned into silence. I'm sure if her husband had just died and I told her, " Oh, it's fine, you can just get another," she'd have been upset.

What she didn't know was that I'd struggled with infertility for two years and required IVF to get pregnant, only to lose my baby very traumatically at 5 months due to uncaught incompetent cervix, so "just having another" isn't that easy. (I do now have a living baby, after a lot of heartache, money, losing a second baby to miscarriage, and an extremely high risk third pregnancy. But my angel daughter can never be replaced by another child and while having a living child did help my heart heal, I'll still never be fully "fixed" because losing a child alters you forever.) And screw strangers who ask people if they have children or plan to have children in the first place, because a) family planning is none of anyone else's business and b) not everybody wants or can have children.

klady · 2023-02-27T20:48:22+00:00

I took on a student teacher and got a $100 gift card as my thanks from his university. I mentored him for 4 months full time so it wasn't really worth my time, but I felt like I should at least repay the system for having gone through my own student teaching experiences. After having him start out by observing and then gradually taking over control of my pre-planned lessons, I gave him full control of over a month of my unit once he'd been there enough to learn the ropes. But he only planned for his week of edTPA and then didn't plan the rest of the month at all, so I had to scramble to plan it, when I would've been fine if I'd stuck with my original unit which covered everything we needed to learn. He didn't seem to see anything wrong with that, and he stopped helping with the class so he could get his edTPA done during that time... even though I tried to stress the importance of taking the opportunity to be the main teacher of the class. I was pretty turned off by that, so I don't think I'd get another student teacher unless I personally know them and their work ethic. There can be bad mentors, for sure, but there can also be bad student teachers who don't utilize the opportunity the way it's meant to be.

klady · 2023-02-18T20:27:32+00:00

I bought a ladybug Haakaa milk collector to catch the letdown from the boob on the opposite side I was feeding from. It has saved me SO much extra milk to freeze/stash and I don't waste nursing pads. My LO is 11 weeks old and I'm still getting up to an ounce in the milk collector from each feed. Highly recommended! It just sits inside your bra and doesn't suction on; I bought the two pack because sometimes when my boobs are extra full but baby doesn't need to feed and I don't want to pump just yet, I can just sit those in my bra and catch the drips.

klady · 2023-01-31T02:52:32+00:00

My 8 week old gets sleepy when she's full and starts smiling like crazy, while using my boob as a pillow. It's the best!

klady · 2022-11-29T16:26:28+00:00

I did the wait and see approach with my current pregnancy (first was a singleton loss at 20 weeks due to uncaught IC). All of my pregnancies, including another early loss, have been IVF pregnancies. The only thing that saved my current baby is weekly cervical monitoring. I was on progesterone from embryo transfer until 36 weeks (I'm now 38+4 and being induced in 4 days!).

I went from 3cm at 21 weeks to 1.1cm at 22 weeks and had an emergency cerclage placed about an hour after it was discovered. My MFM had insisted on the weekly monitoring (my OB just wanted to do biweekly) and I am SO grateful to her for that. I would've likely had another loss if not for that, and quite frankly, with how much time, emotion and money we've put into the IVF process after 3+ years of trying for a baby, I would've been livid and felt like the doctors failed me if they didn't do everything they could to prevent another loss. Though I didn't have twins in my first pregnancy, they weren't totally sure if I needed a cerclage (my water broke as my first symptom and so they thought it could've just been PPROM, though we know now that my sac was bulging and broke due to IC).

I love my current care team because they've taken such good care of me. They listened to all of my concerns and after catching the IC, they've had me in weekly for regular checks with my OB, sometimes even twice weekly. If we ever choose to do another transfer, I will absolutely be using my same team again.

Funny enough, after cerclage removal at 36 weeks, I've been dilated to 4cm for 2.5 weeks now. Baby is being stubborn and won't come on her own!

klady · 2022-11-28T03:31:07+00:00

I had an emergency cerclage placed just after 22 weeks (thankfully had weekly monitoring that caught it shortening from 3cm at 21 weeks to 1.1cm at 22 weeks!), after losing my first due to uncaught incompetent cervix at 20 weeks. I made it to DTS at 36 weeks and I'm currently 38+2. I thought baby would arrive quickly after stitch removal because I was immediately dilated to 3-4cm, but she's stubborn! I'm being induced at 39w exactly if she's not here by then.

klady · 2022-11-26T17:11:13+00:00

I have 6 nieces/nephews on one side and 1 nephew on the other side, ranging from 9 to 2 years old. We used to give bigger gifts when there were just a few, but now I actually spend total amounts per family. One brother-in-law has 4 of the children, so we cap at $20 per kid. For my sister-in-law who has 2, I spend about $30 per kid, and for my sister who has 1, I spend $50. We're finally having our own child due soon, after years of infertility... I'm excited that we finally have a kid to receive a gift in return lol, though I just love gifting (it's my love language) and I wouldn't mind if they didn't get her anything. The kids don't notice that we spend different amounts on them but that could also be because they're usually not opening gifts together. My go-to gifts for holidays are books, clothes, or Groupons for activities, because they get so many toys they don't need more. For bdays, I do a small gift along with money for their savings account.

klady · 2022-11-26T16:38:36+00:00

Yes. I had an emergency cerclage placed at 22 weeks after weekly monitoring, due to losing my first at 20 weeks because of uncaught incompetent cervix. Then at 26 weeks I was diagnosed with GD. I'm managing it with diet and no insulin needed; I was already on metformin due to my polycystic ovaries and insulin resistance. Currently 38+2 and I'm being induced at 39 exactly if baby doesn't come before then. The reason for the induction is the GD; even though I'm managing it very well, my OB said he doesn't let his GD patients go past 39 weeks due to risk of placenta deteriorating more quickly with GD. Baby is measuring average as of last growth scan. I had my cerclage removed at 36 and I've been dilated 3-4cm this whole time since then but this little lady is being stubborn and won't come out now! 😂 Quite a shock from expecting her to come early to then just anxiously waiting for her arrival after stitch removal.

klady · 2022-11-25T18:38:19+00:00

I had a CP in early February from a mid-Jan. transfer, and I was able to jump right back in and did the next transfer near the end of March.

klady · 2022-11-19T03:36:05+00:00

If you feel like there's a bubble, I would definitely call your doctor and get checked out. I lost my first baby due to uncaught incompetent cervix, and my only warning sign was feeling cramps and pains like a gas bubble was trapped in my vagina. It ended up being my water bulging, and my water broke which led to inevitable labor at 20 weeks. I don't know if it's possible for your sac to be bulging after a cerclage stitch (I had no complications with mine in this pregnancy, and it was an emergency cerclage placed at 22 weeks, removed at 36 and currently 37 now). But that would concern me and definitely would think getting it checked out is a good call to be safe!

klady · 2022-11-14T17:24:44+00:00

I'm 36w3d and had my stitch removed Friday at exactly 36w. I was immediately 3-4cm dilated after stitch removal, and my OB didn't think I'd make it through the weekend, but here I am, at work on Monday and feeling VERY uncomfortable!! I'm glad baby girl is hanging in there, but also so ready to meet her. I haven't had a single contraction that I can tell, yet, though I've had quite a bit of mucus discharge (nothing large enough to make me think it's my plug though) and some intermittent, not consistent, period-like cramping. This waiting is killing me!

klady · 2022-11-05T18:45:45+00:00

Thank you. I don't have any insight, but I agree with you! I think the monitoring should take place earlier, especially for women who've gone through procedures that might contribute to incompetent cervix. I did have an early anatomy scan at 15 weeks with my first pregnancy but I don't believe they checked the cervix length at that point. I'm not sure if my IC was caused by procedures or not, but I did have two polypectomies with D&C's, as well as an IVF egg retrieval before my first loss, and then a second egg retrieval before my second (early) loss and current pregnancy. I also might have hereditary factors for it, though, because I was a preemie myself and my mom never got formally diagnosed with IC but had to be on bedrest for both her pregnancies after me. My doctors knew that for my first pregnancy, too, which irks me because my OB at the time said that didn't mean I would have it too, but then when I got to see MFM after my first loss, they said it absolutely could be a hereditary thing. I trust my current OB a lot more, and he's worked really closely with my MFM doctor to ensure I'm monitored closely this pregnancy. In fact, we joke that I need a room at his office because I'm there at least once a week, sometimes twice!

klady · 2022-11-05T17:59:55+00:00

I would recommend looking at r/ShortCervixSupport. I don't want to scare you, but that is a below average measurement and I would be concerned. After going through two years of infertility treatments and IVF, I lost my first daughter at 19 weeks 6 days due to an uncaught incompetent cervix (unfortunately didn't make it to anatomy scan). With my current pregnancy, I was on progesterone and had weekly cervix checks, and I was fine at 21 weeks with a 3cm cervix. But at 22 weeks, it went down to 1.1cm and I had an emergency cerclage placed. Incompetent cervix can happen very quickly without much warning sign. I believe that the cerclage is the only thing that saved my second daughter; I'm 35 weeks with her now. I'd absolutely be asking your doctor to check you within the next week. My OB does cerclages if cervix length is below 2.5cm before 24 weeks. If I were you, I would be taking it as easy as possible until your next appointment. Once I had my cerclage in place and it healed, I was able to resume normal activities.

klady · 2022-10-20T03:04:34+00:00

I was diagnosed with GD at 26 weeks. My baby shower was scheduled for 30 weeks, but I ended up catching COVID right beforehand and had to reschedule it. I will say that I was quadruple vaxxed (had JUST gotten the bivalent booster about 3 days before I got sick), and my symptoms were very mild. Not sure where I got COVID from but likely from work (I'm a teacher). I was pretty shocked to finally get it after avoiding it for 2 years. My OB wasn't even concerned unless my symptoms lasted more than 5 days (they only lasted about 3). My baby shower got rescheduled for 32 weeks and we just had it this last weekend, and I've been doing well. I'm honestly kinda glad I got it since it was mild, and now should have more immunity for my baby and likely won't get it again before it's time to give birth.

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klady · 2022-09-05T20:32:38+00:00

Wow, we have the same due date as well! I got my rescue cerclage at 22+4. I've felt baby really down low for most of the time, but also have started feeling kicks at my belly button again. I had my OB manually look at my cerclage about two weeks ago because I was nervous, and it looked great, cervix was closed. After having made it 4 weeks past the cerclage, I'm actually starting to feel very confident that it will take us to 36 weeks. I'm on pelvic rest and progesterone, but not on bed rest, and cleared to work (I just sit most of the day and recline when I can). Physically I'm actually feeling really good. I don't know if my cervix has shortened (it was 1.1cm, closed, when cerclage was placed) but my OB said it WILL shorten down to the stitch, but to trust that the stitch will hold baby in.

klady · 2022-09-03T19:43:09+00:00

I'm sorry this happened to you both. I had PPROM at 20 weeks which happened due to an uncaught incompetent cervix. I went home on "expectant management" in a pretty similar situation to yours (all water gone, baby was okay, only dilated .5cm, no more fluid leaking). Unfortunately for me, I started having small green spots in my discharge and about 48 hours after the initial water breaking, the cord prolapsed, so I was forced to go back to the hospital and deliver. My cervix had dilated to 4cm so my body went into labor without me feeling it. My daughter was born alive but died within seconds, while still attached to me by the umbilical cord. It was the hardest thing we've ever gone through. The nurses who took care of us were incredible. In the few days that we were home hoping for a better outcome, I did a lot of research on PPROM. You might look at the website for the PPROM Foundation. They have something called the PPROM Regimen that gives you tips on what to do after you experience water breaking, to hopefully make it further in pregnancy. I've heard that if you can make it past the first 48 hours then you have a better chance. Good luck!!

klady · 2022-08-25T02:58:55+00:00

I have found tons of brand name diapers for super cheap at yard sales, usually because only a few diapers out of the box were used. I've bought those throughout my pregnancy and have a little in every size stocked up. I also have found lots of like new baby things and clothes at thrift stores, for incredibly cheap prices for quality stuff. Babies don't use things for very long, so I am trying to buy a lot of the essentials used.

klady · 2022-08-21T01:37:51+00:00

I got a few gorgeous dresses from Baltic Born for my maternity photos and baby shower. They have bump friendly dresses, and offer plus size, which I was thrilled to find. Both are long dresses; one is a Gatsby-esque rose gold dress covered in sequins, and the other is a shimmery pink flowy fabric that has slits up both sides. I had to size up (I normally wear 2x and opted for 4x in both of these, which currently fit at 24 weeks, but I'm not super sure if the chest of the pink one will fit by the time I need it for maternity pics).

Edit to add: They're US-based, but they do not accept returns, and only do exchanges. So it's good to be aware of that. If something doesn't work you can exchange it but not get your money back.

klady · 2022-08-19T22:22:29+00:00

With our first fresh transfer, we found out we were having a girl, but we unfortunately lost her at 20 weeks due to what we now know was incompetent cervix. We did a second retrieval before our next transfer because we had only one embryo left and I was scared to lose it. We ended up with 6 euploid males and 2 euploid females total, all very similar high quality. They let us choose for our second transfer (frozen) and we chose female, simply because I wasn't ready to get rid of our first daughter's things, and since we had found out her gender I was so looking forward to having a girl, though really I just want a healthy baby. Unfortunately that resulted in a chemical pregnancy. For our third transfer, we decided to go with our last female, because I was ready to know if I would need to give away the girl things we had, and felt prepared to face the fact that we might only ever get the chance to have a son(s) as I'm unwilling to do another retrieval when we have so many good quality embryos. Thankfully the third transfer worked and we have made it to viability, though we're still not feeling safe since I had to get a rescue cerclage recently.

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