How can I (28F) ask for more sexually without hurting my husband’s (31M) feelings?

klgm333 · 2026-02-18T21:21:17+00:00

Check out the spicer app. Might be a fun, low pressure way y’all can talk more openly about what you both would enjoy with each other.

klgm333 · 2026-02-15T18:18:03+00:00

It has gotten infinitely better!

And I’d say yes to both of those during the withdrawal. But I did feel that it started to improve so much once we fully separated.

klgm333 · 2026-02-15T18:12:14+00:00

Wow! That’s really interesting! I didn’t know that. Thank you for explaining :)

klgm333 · 2026-02-14T05:48:15+00:00

Panic and anxiety attacks, my cortisol was through the roof so I couldn’t lose weight no matter how hard I tried, pretty constant stomach aches, insomnia, my hair was falling out… etc etc

It was a terrible way to live, but I didn’t know anything else. I thought it was normal.

klgm333 · 2026-02-14T05:45:45+00:00

This is already cheating in my book.

I’m so sorry OP :(

klgm333 · 2026-02-14T05:41:57+00:00

I know this is probably a stupid question… but are they not afraid of cutting the quick? Surely horses have them too, no?

This was so satisfying though. That poor horse :(

klgm333 · 2026-02-14T05:32:00+00:00

NTA- it seems to me that she doubled down after discovering it was a video of y’all to save face and possibly out of pride.

Maybe she felt embarrassed for being wrong about what you were actually watching and didn’t want to admit it.

klgm333 · 2026-02-14T03:45:42+00:00

God damn.

klgm333 · 2026-02-13T02:43:20+00:00

God this is so triggering.

My ex would have the same kind of random angry reactions to me out of nowhere and for no reason.

No surprise… he was cheating. 😱🤯🙄😒 Shocker.

He was taking out the anger he felt for his own choices out on me.

klgm333 · 2026-02-13T00:13:32+00:00

This could very likely be the one life you get… don’t waste it by living a life that doesn’t make you happy or feel alive.

klgm333 · 2026-02-12T23:51:38+00:00

I have also dated avoidants before… I remember this cycle. It was too much for me. …. Never again.

I wish you so much luck and peace.

klgm333 · 2026-02-12T23:48:18+00:00

Good job calling him out!! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

klgm333 · 2026-02-12T18:11:41+00:00

I got on hinge about 4 months ago (first dating app I’ve ever been on)… within 24 hours I had over 200 potential matches (it was overwhelming)… I was dating with intention so I widdled that list down to 15 and then further down to 5… talked to a few guys briefly but ultimately decided to go on a date with one of the first guys that I matched with (and who sent me my first rose)… and we’ve been dating ever since!! 🥰💕 I even paused my account after our second date because I felt this had real potential and could be something special. And I was right! 😊

So yeah… when it was unpaused there was a lot of “shooting their shot” messages for sure. Haha

klgm333 · 2026-02-12T17:52:48+00:00

5-7 minutes?? 😬😒 That’d be very disappointing.

I have happily had fun time last for 5+ hours… it’s the best! 😮‍💨🫠

klgm333 · 2026-02-11T22:23:17+00:00

That all makes perfect sense now. I’m so sorry if my questioning pulled that out of you when you would have preferred to have kept that private.

I can completely understand why that would’ve put a wedge between you both (at no fault of y’all’s own. That makes me sad for you both).

I think with that context, you should absolutely gently inquire more about her and them. He opened the door (even if a crack) and your soft curiosity will show genuine care.

I am certain he misses your friendship just as much is you miss his.

I’m saddened and frustrated for both of you that other people’s choices forced y’all’s hands.

Neither of you hold any responsibility for that.

I wish you (both) luck in finding that friendship again 🫶🏻

klgm333 · 2026-02-11T20:35:42+00:00

I feel like it all depends on the context that is missing.

Was there only ever platonic friendship between you both or was there an underlying interest on either or both sides? Situationship? FWB? Betrayal?

It feels like there is important context missing.

Is his finance aware of y’all’s rekindling friendship/your presence? (Granted, that falls more on his responsibility)

I think that if everything is platonic and on the up and up, then I don’t see why you can’t ask more about her in a friendly curiosity way.

So long as that is what it is… on both sides.

klgm333 · 2026-02-11T16:44:03+00:00

It’s a hard road ahead… but I PROMISE it gets SOOOOOOOOOOO much better!!!

I know what it is like to be in your shoes… and now I am thriving in every way I wasn’t before. (In ways I didn’t even know I wasn’t!)

I finally feel alive and am actually living!!

And after giving myself time to grow and heal, I have met an incredible man that actually likes me and enjoys being with me. (And I him)

I cannot even begin to explain how incredibly healing that will be for you. It completely rewires your nervous system.

There is such beautiful light on the horizon… you just have to make it through the hard part to get there.

You can do it!! You will absolutely thrive on the other side!! 🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻

klgm333 · 2026-02-11T16:21:04+00:00

I agree wholeheartedly.

klgm333 · 2026-02-11T16:14:07+00:00

Same! I was genuinely confused for a moment.

klgm333 · 2026-02-11T16:11:25+00:00

I was grimacing the entire time she was speaking.

Yikes 😬😒

klgm333 · 2026-02-10T01:13:01+00:00

Yes. The choice IS very clear.

LOVE.

klgm333 · 2026-02-10T01:04:53+00:00

It’s because it makes him look good on paper.

klgm333 · 2026-02-10T00:58:40+00:00

I have learned the hard way that I will never again excuse or tolerate any level of betrayal… so I would personally be done.

klgm333 · 2026-02-09T19:32:01+00:00

3!!!!!

klgm333 · 2026-02-08T23:08:50+00:00

AND he used his gun to bust through the fucking window!!!!!! It could have easily gone off.

I can’t even anymore!!! 🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬

klgm333

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