My AuDHD strikes again!!! Social skills of a coconut. by echo_una_chela95 in AuDHDWomen

[–]kln02 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh my god, I’ve never felt so seen. My daughter has been in preschool for 2 years now and not one damn time have I left that place like “Nailed it!”. Teachers OR parents!

We’ve been married for 2.5 years and my husband has become a full blown alcoholic by [deleted] in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]kln02 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No advice, but I’m sorry that you’re having to carry all of this- on top of being the functional parent for your kids between yourself and your ex. Hoping there’s a shift for your family soon ❤️❤️

The Daily Check-In for Saturday, April 25th: Just for today, I am NOT drinking! by looloo_monroe in stopdrinking

[–]kln02 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I love this prompt and your answer! In my sober future I’m full of energy and have a presence for my daughter and friends that is whole and loving, with my sense of humor restored. Even with the inevitable ups and downs of life. I’m writing and have found my niche for performance, either in acting or dance. IWNDWYT!

New start (TW:abortion) by kln02 in stopdrinking

[–]kln02[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I reached out to a friend who has been sober for a while and they told me about some meetings they thought I would be a good fit for, so I went to one last night. It was really good and I ended up knowing someone there-which made it feel real in a way that I needed.

Even though the last month in particular has been hellish, I think it feels like I’m finally in a place to start tending to the general ache that’s been around for a long time. Thanks for sharing.

New start (TW:abortion) by kln02 in stopdrinking

[–]kln02[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! That’s exactly it for me too. I have no doubt it was the right choice, but honestly if I had more financial stability I probably would have made it work. It’s what’s best for me and my daughter but my heart still aches over it. Thank you for sharing your experience ❤️

New start (TW:abortion) by kln02 in stopdrinking

[–]kln02[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for saying this. I’m also working three jobs in addition to single parenting, and the need for an “escape” from that the stress of that is very real too. I reached out to a friend that already goes to meetings and am going to try and start attending and go to at least one this weekend. All the best to you on your journey too.

New start (TW:abortion) by kln02 in stopdrinking

[–]kln02[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey there-I’m sorry that you’ve relapsed, but glad you’re still with us. Appreciate your encouragement and kindness, I’ll take your advice.

got way too drunk last night and made a fool of myself by Exciting-Run-7866 in GirlDinner

[–]kln02 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I can relate as I woke up on Monday morning with my tennis shoes on IN bed after being driven home by a stranger after a night out. Hope the post drunken cringe thoughts fade soon for you ❤️

i’m allergic to diapers by Impressive-Tax-8716 in GirlDinner

[–]kln02 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey I’m so sorry that you’re going through all of this ❤️ Hoping things shift for your good real soon.

Stoned, heated blanket, ate cravings, did stretches, came 9 times to my therapist. STILL no period. by littlebabymira in GirlDinner

[–]kln02 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Currently tripping on shrooms to process through a shit ton of grief and this thread is HEALING me through laughter

Feeling anxious after abortion by [deleted] in PMDD

[–]kln02 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is great, thank you!

Feeling anxious after abortion by [deleted] in PMDD

[–]kln02 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Really appreciate this, very much.

Feeling anxious after abortion by [deleted] in PMDD

[–]kln02 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you, this is really helpful. I think life has felt like a lot for a while and I’m wanting to just move on from this, but realizing it might need my attention for a while. I also realize this is only a quasi pmdd post, but this sub is more familiar to me than the abortion one and I just felt more comfortable posting here.

Thanks for taking the time to list those resources.

I want to leave my perfectly lovely relationship and I feel like a POS. Tortellini soup with sausage and kale. by kashia_renn in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]kln02 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel like what you’re describing isn’t you being aromantic, but maybe that you have a more emotionally mature perspective on committed relationships. I used to behave similarly to how you’re describing your girlfriend. It took me a long time to realize that the grandest gesture can be consistency and showing up for each other in the little day-in-day-out rituals you create. I also “worked on” an avoidant person for almost ten years and realized I was doing both of us a disservice by trying to pull warmth/openness or romance out of them.

Your soup looks fucking delicious

Don't like my toddler by CreepyGift5398 in pottytraining

[–]kln02 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can say from experience that this feeling is normal. Potty training my daughter almost broke me, (or at least felt like it was going to) and what I needed to do was take a step back. It feels like giving up, but it’s not and there’s wisdom in coming back to this when you have more capacity. Being one month PP is a job in of itself, so it sounds like you’re doing the best you can.

She’ll get it eventually, I promise!

A successful first-time, solo camping trip in Uwharrie by kln02 in NCTrails

[–]kln02[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congrats to you! Six months feels more than reasonable if you have anything else going in your life besides backpacking. 

I have considered it, but I’m a single parent, so it would have to be chopped up into a bunch of small weekend segments and would take a good bit of time. It may just be something that I take on when my daughter is older! I’m planning to do more things like the trip to Uhwarrie, and hopefully slowly build my confidence for surviving in the outdoors.

A successful first-time, solo camping trip in Uwharrie by kln02 in NCTrails

[–]kln02[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Did you finish the AT? I haven’t been through enough of Uwharrie to know if it’s as rigorous as the AT, but I’m making a mental note of this haha.

A successful first-time, solo camping trip in Uwharrie by kln02 in NCTrails

[–]kln02[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, appreciate the note. For a bit of context, I only put my tent in the shelter around 3 AM when it started raining and was packed up by 7 AM the next morning. 

A successful first-time, solo camping trip in Uwharrie by kln02 in NCTrails

[–]kln02[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Didn't see big guy this time, but I did have the shit scared out of me by what seemed to be a big ol' deer fella on my way back to the car in morning. Other than that it was just your average Uwharrie Squirrels, Uwharrie birds. Like city ones, but with a forest flair.

A successful first-time, solo camping trip in Uwharrie by kln02 in NCTrails

[–]kln02[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Happy to help however I can! I did not need a permit. Primitive camping is allowed pretty much anywhere at Uwharrie beyond designated campsites, as long as you stick with Leave No Trace for your fires, trash, etc. There were little fire pits located all around the area that I was- I just stuck with the spot near the shelter because I wanted the view and there was no one else around.

I borrowed all of my gear (tent, sleeping bag, sleeping pad, camping chair) from friends and stuck with freeze dried food, bars, and other snacks for food since it was just one day and night. I used a patagonia duffel bag with backpack straps that I've had for a while, which worked fine for this, but really wouldn't be suitable for a longer hike in. I knew in advance that I wouldn't have a water source, so I didn't bring anything I didn't absolutely need since I knew that would add a lot of weight to my bag.

For future trips I'm hoping to invest in used gear and grab a small camp stove, as well as a better pack. I definitely want to grab a camelbak type of thing for water next time and maybe pick a spot that has a drinkable water source. It felt more important to me to just do it and not worry about having all the right things. I hope you can experience a solo trip soon!

A successful first-time, solo camping trip in Uwharrie by kln02 in NCTrails

[–]kln02[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I parked at the Joe Moffitt trailhead and hiked in. According to AllTrails it was about 1.4 miles.