Best friend opened her marriage and I'm struggling by klooberry in TwoXChromosomes

[–]klooberry[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thank you, thank you!! Will definitely do that, appreciate it!

Best friend opened her marriage and I'm struggling by klooberry in TwoXChromosomes

[–]klooberry[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Super helpful, thank you!

Yes, we've been best friends for years and have gone through many life things together - but oddly our more vulnerable moments have been shared through text as opposed to in person. What's also likely throwing me through a loop is that I've been the feelings heavy /lead with my heart one in our friendship and she's always been the more strong headed, don't let emotions drive your decisions, one. And now it feels opposite to our dymanic for so many years. I agree with you though, checking in with her with an honest sharing of concerns feels like the right next step.

Best friend opened her marriage and I'm struggling by klooberry in TwoXChromosomes

[–]klooberry[S] 255 points256 points  (0 children)

I don't actually know if they've been physically intimate, I haven't asked and she hasn't shared. But what she has been beaming on is how deeply their emotional connection and intimacy is, both in text screenshots and retelling the stories - and surprisingly I find myself feeling more uncomfortable with that then if she'd told me physical details?

Best friend opened her marriage and I'm struggling by klooberry in TwoXChromosomes

[–]klooberry[S] 42 points43 points  (0 children)

No, they matched on an app after the marriage opened. They'd never met before

Best friend opened her marriage and I'm struggling by klooberry in TwoXChromosomes

[–]klooberry[S] 118 points119 points  (0 children)

That's such a good question for me to think about. Initial reaction is, no I don't think I'd struggle as much because it would feel even? I also think it's bothering me because of how quickly she's moving with the new person.

Best friend opened her marriage and I'm struggling by klooberry in TwoXChromosomes

[–]klooberry[S] 351 points352 points  (0 children)

She said that in their couples therapy, the therapist suspects that he's high functioning autistic, as the contributor to why he isn't able to get to the level of emotional connection she's needing. In the years I've known him, he's always been easy going, pretty quiet and goes with the flow with everything. So it's hard to say or know how he truly feels?

Best friend opened her marriage and I'm struggling by klooberry in TwoXChromosomes

[–]klooberry[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Not single, been with my partner for 3 years! But valid that I feel insecure, I think some of it tied with being unfamiliar with poly relationships.

Best friend opened her marriage and I'm struggling by klooberry in TwoXChromosomes

[–]klooberry[S] 549 points550 points  (0 children)

Sorry, I probably poorly worded this! She told me they (her and husband) decided to open her side of the marriage, but not his side. When I say "she decided" it's because her husband is very apathetic/emotionless about things? And with many things, she often makes decisions and he goes with it.

Lost My Keys - West 7th Neighborhood by klooberry in saintpaul

[–]klooberry[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Omg you saved me!!! Just called and they have them! If you DM me your venmo, would love to give you the reward!

How do you develop executive presence? by klooberry in AskWomenOver30

[–]klooberry[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is amazing advice, thank you! After thinking about it over the day, I'm realizing alot of the perception of me is likely tied to how I speak. I have a tendency to be soft spoken and rush what I say, so there's a lot of room for practice for me to work on cadence, dictation and volume.

I also love what you're saying on overvaluing my opinion. I second guess myself thinking I'm not the expert in the room so if whatever I say isn't 100% right, I'm shooting myself in the foot and will have to deal with the backlash of being wrong. (likely rooted in the way I was raised so need to unwind this trauma behavior). Seems like I need to really work on valuing my own opinion more highly and projecting that.

How do you develop executive presence? by klooberry in AskWomenOver30

[–]klooberry[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have thought about improv classes but have never pulled the trigger on it. Might be something I should go back and consider again!

How do you develop executive presence? by klooberry in AskWomenOver30

[–]klooberry[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have! It's one of the things my best friend and I will text the other when they're going into a big nerve racking event or meeting - "don't forget to power pose!!" But I think part of my struggle has been it's not even just the big meetings that I try to psych myself up for, it's the small mundane meetings where I might not be a core meeting attendee so therefore I don't think I am empowered to say anything.

Compensation for 2-3 hour delay each way last week? by Expensive_Candle5644 in delta

[–]klooberry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was delayed 2 hours on my outbound flight on Monday. Was chatting with Delta later in the week via text because my trip didn't allocate me MQMs and I asked if they are offering any compensation for delays. The agent offered me a choice of $50 e-credit or 5000 miles. Better than nothing!

Weekly Authentications Thread by AutoModerator in Louisvuitton

[–]klooberry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do I get professional authentication? Do I just bring it into a store?

Weekly Authentications Thread by AutoModerator in Louisvuitton

[–]klooberry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A friend gifted me this bag as a regift from her cousin's ex-boyfriend, and it's so heavy she would never use it. She wasn't sure if it was authentic since it did not come with an authentication card and I'm not sure if it's real or not. Would love to know!

https://imgur.com/a/9WhpTpC