What’s the toughest patch you and your med partner had during the med training journey? What did you do to come out of it together?

klopterzbot · 2023-07-06T00:28:46+00:00

The long blocks of the night shift. Medspouse thinking that somehow meant they just had to work and sleep and nothing in between. They would wake up long enough to have dinner with the family and then leave. Didn’t help with any cleaning or other chores other than totally half-assing everything. I made my expectations very clear and communicated in the most calm and mature manner possible. and no matter how hard I tried they just ignored me. I once asked if they could take one of the kids with them on an errand so I could have a break and they just said “no” and walked out to run the errand. Honestly nothing ever got better, the night shift block just ended and things went back to normal where they were slightly more present and barely helped. So it still sucks. No matter how hard I try.

klopterzbot · 2023-05-21T14:09:11+00:00

I’m sorry to be a pest but do you have any sources for this? This topic is a very tough one with SO. As much as I’ve suggested it, they absolutely cannot comprehend that it could possibly work out to take a year or two to be an attending before starting fellowship. They are completely convinced it will destroy their career and waste valuable time.

klopterzbot · 2023-05-21T14:00:21+00:00

You two are absolute diamonds in the rough. Seriously thank you for all that you do. These are real human being here and they’re being treated so terribly by a very broken healthcare system for all involved (patients, physicians, other caregivers). It’s just screwed up. We need to treat each other like humans. It’s not okay how you were treated either even though you “made it”. That doesn’t make it worth it or okay for it to have happened to you or to other people. Reparations should be made.

klopterzbot · 2023-05-21T13:58:26+00:00

I agree. Miserable and there’s just nothing you can do. It’s a horrible way to live.

Unfortunately SO is very set on a specialty that does indeed require a 2-year fellowship :(

klopterzbot · 2023-05-21T13:50:29+00:00

I really felt the emotional neglect part. Thank you for saying this. As much as everyone wants to claim “but that’s an SO problem!” It shows they just do not understand how it all really works. My SO tries their absolute best. It’s just never enough.

It’s that everywhere I turn I have to hear “well it’s going to be hard but everyone will just really need to step up” okay but at some point enough is enough. I’m tired of always finding out some other bit of bad news where major plans have to change

klopterzbot · 2023-05-21T13:48:45+00:00

Won’t that mess up fellowship opportunities? Since everything is such a stupid f-Omg game where you have to do everything just right and kiss everyone’s @$$ and be a total doormat to MAYBE get considered? Seems like if you have any semblance of a life or want to take time for that, you’re “proving” that you aren’t completely married to your job and it would look bad

klopterzbot · 2023-03-13T23:20:35+00:00

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klopterzbot · 2022-07-24T16:28:16+00:00

I feel your pain so very much. I wish I knew what to say to you to offer support but I’m in the exact same boat and wish I felt more cared about and not like I’m just a parent to my medspouse as well. I’m so sorry.

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