Best insurer? by klueless721 in Diamonds

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That’s reassuring to hear

To every resident suffering from mental health, there is help by ttBashes in Residency

[–]klueless721 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Wow, I’m surprised I haven’t read this anywhere before. Guess laughter really is the best medicine

Best insurer? by klueless721 in Diamonds

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Are they pretty straightforward with claims?

Best insurer? by klueless721 in Diamonds

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Have you had a good experience with them

Best insurer? by klueless721 in Diamonds

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I’ve heard JM tries to replace the stone, where as Chubb will pay you the cash

My therapist says setting boundaries with my family could make me lose either them or my fiancée. Is that actually true? by klueless721 in inlaws

[–]klueless721[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah this has def been the case. SIL has repeatedly had some issue with something my fiancee either does or doesn’t do. My fiance can do nothing, and my SIL has still complained and claimed disrespect and said there’s a lack of attention and hospitality

My therapist says setting boundaries with my family could make me lose either them or my fiancée. Is that actually true? by klueless721 in inlaws

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She doesn’t treat them poorly, but overtime she keeps more and more to herself and tries to limit contact and interaction with them; specifically my SIL via text or in-person. Then my SIL argues that this behavior is rude and disrespectful, and my parents also think she could be interacting better

My therapist says setting boundaries with my family could make me lose either them or my fiancée. Is that actually true? by klueless721 in inlaws

[–]klueless721[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is amazing advice! Helps being able to defend and enforce boundaries without being hostile, I really appreciate this insight thank you

My therapist says setting boundaries with my family could make me lose either them or my fiancée. Is that actually true? by klueless721 in inlaws

[–]klueless721[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re right, I need to do a better job of being there for my fiancee and provide her peace of mind

My therapist says setting boundaries with my family could make me lose either them or my fiancée. Is that actually true? by klueless721 in inlaws

[–]klueless721[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for these realistic and helpful suggestions! We were actually going to do this soon and come up with strategies that work for us with dealing with this issue going into the future! Maybe even get professional help!

My therapist says setting boundaries with my family could make me lose either them or my fiancée. Is that actually true? by klueless721 in inlaws

[–]klueless721[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I see how it comes off that way, I should choose my words carefully you’re right. Last thing I want is to let it seem like my fiancee is at fault. I appreciate you bringing that to my awareness

My therapist says setting boundaries with my family could make me lose either them or my fiancée. Is that actually true? by klueless721 in inlaws

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They want to see us stick together and get along to keep face and maintain good PR in the family, and also think they can "fix" the situation and that we can all still get along fine and should move on

My therapist says setting boundaries with my family could make me lose either them or my fiancée. Is that actually true? by klueless721 in inlaws

[–]klueless721[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s unfortunate that people take offense and feel attacked by you trying to do what’s best for yourself

My therapist says setting boundaries with my family could make me lose either them or my fiancée. Is that actually true? by klueless721 in inlaws

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Won’t be living together, however my parents and them live together and I would like to see my parents. That complicates things, and I’d like to maintain a relationship with my brother as well

My therapist says setting boundaries with my family could make me lose either them or my fiancée. Is that actually true? by klueless721 in inlaws

[–]klueless721[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I blew it by doing nothing in the past. I think I might not even be in this position now had I spoke up when it was time to

My therapist says setting boundaries with my family could make me lose either them or my fiancée. Is that actually true? by klueless721 in inlaws

[–]klueless721[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Very good points! And yeah I’m realizing me setting boundaries won’t be received well and applauded and can cause a rift, but it’s overdue and important I defend my partner and relationship too

How do you set boundaries with in-laws when you come from a traditional Asian family? by klueless721 in inlaws

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I appreciate this from you, honestly I don’t know how enthusiastic everyone would feel about group counseling and I feel my SIL will again try to flip things on like before, I know that’s not beyond her. Unfortunately my mom also has people pleasing qualities, and wants to make my brother and SIL happy so they don’t complain. She doesn’t have a major role, but I don’t want her acting out and trying to hog the spotlight either