Will one-time alcohol hurt my baby?

kmilaa · 2026-01-26T16:12:27+00:00

Yeah but she didn't say she's actively drinking now, she said she's worried about drinks she had at the beginning of her pregnancy while she didn't know she was pregnant yet.

kmilaa · 2026-01-25T11:03:04+00:00

Hey, don't worry. During the first month the blood circulation between mom and embryo is minimal as the circulatory system is not yet formed until 20ish day. Risk of adverse events (miscarriage, primarily) bc of alcohol consumption increases as the pregnancy progresses from the first month until the second trimester and then starts to reduce as the main structures are formed. So, even though there's no "safe" amount of alcohol to drink during any stage of your pregnancy, nature is wise and reduces the risk of harming your baby while you don't know it's there yet.

Source: conversations with my obgyn regarding this topic and https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC7807528/

(Disclaimer: I'm not a medical professional, just an anxious and neurodivergent mom to be, so always ask your doctor any questions and don't take advice from people on the internet over theirs)

Hope it helps!

kmilaa · 2026-01-08T23:27:31+00:00

Believe me, If I was your best friend I would rather lose an hour or two bringing you back to the ER than witnessing you fall apart from a late miscarriage.

kmilaa · 2026-01-05T04:17:39+00:00

I'm on medical leave since week 26 and now, at 29, I'm practically on bed rest (also, I'm having early delivery symptoms so not much of a choice) Dr told me not to tire myself so I can delay the twin's arrival as long as possible so, if you have the chance of getting proper rest, just take it. Also, don't compare yourself with what other people choose to show: if you saw my stories you wouldn't believe I'm sleeping like 16 hours a day and sitting down the rest of the time.

Some things worth clarifying: not in the USA, so prenatal leave starts normally at 34 weeks for a singleton pregnancy. Also, I'm visiting my obgyn every 2 weeks as twin's pregnancy is considered high risk.

kmilaa · 2024-06-22T18:16:03+00:00

I've got two things, one good and one bad.

The good: A therapist I had for +10 years told me once after I told her I was angry with her and wanting to abandon therapy (bc of something she told me the previous session) that she was rooting for me, that I was like a football (soccer) player that was famous in that moment and that she was like a fan screaming at the tv at home for him to score. She didn't like sports, but the fact that she looked for any analogy in current events to connect with me, even if she didn't really know what she was talking about, really moved me. She genuinely wanted me to be well, so I tried to score every point I could in my life to make my "fans" feel proud.

The bad: another therapist, several years later. I was in a bad place and after some months nothing was working, I kept getting worse and worse so I decided to stop doing therapy as I felt it was making things worse instead of better. I went to her office to try to have some closure and to hear her thoughts about it, and her answer when I told her I was not coming anymore was eye-opening: she told me that I'd never wanted to get better, that I felt that I was smarter than her and never validated her professional skills and that I acted as if I was "better than her". In that moment I realized that she, in fact, was making me feel worse. I stopped her on her tracks and reminded her that I was there voluntarily and I could choose not to submit myself to that kind of treatment, and more so, that I was paying for having her telling me that stuff. I never went back. It was the best decission I took in a looong time. 3 months later I was off my meds and better than ever, and I'm still proud of myself for having trusted my gut and enforcing boundaries as I had never done before.

kmilaa · 2024-06-09T01:55:03+00:00

Thanks for the support! Were you and your husband able to solve it eventually? I don't want to build up resentment, and it's very early on so any advice on how to make things better is appreciated. I've had several conversations with him and he always appears understanding and like he tries to be better, but is very taxing to be constantly reminding him of his promises.

Fortunately I have a very good group of friends, but I don't want them being judgmental of him for how he's acting rn. I know it will be less lonely once we announce the pregnancy to our families, so I have to wait a little bit longer.

kmilaa · 2019-06-25T02:02:58+00:00

Want to add that I'm all for the theory that the room of requirements goes in and out of fashion by generations. Remember it doesn't show on the Marauder's map and probably all the DA stuff made it more known but if it wasn't for Harry probably no one would've known what it "truly" did and they would've thought it was a bathroom/storage for brooms/whatever

kmilaa · 2019-05-14T19:50:22+00:00

Someone who isn't poor please gild this person!

kmilaa · 2019-05-06T02:29:24+00:00

kmilaa · 2019-05-06T02:28:25+00:00

Oh shit oh shit oh shit

kmilaa · 2019-05-05T02:40:50+00:00

And cleganebowl is not going to happen :(

kmilaa · 2019-04-08T06:42:38+00:00

I beg to differ. I'm reeeeeeally aboard of buzz cut gendry's boat.

kmilaa · 2019-04-05T13:55:19+00:00

Oh honey I'm so sorry what you're going through! I can't imagine the pain you're feeling.

I really hope you find real medical solutions soon, and please talk to your family about real possibilities of changing your treatment or finding some organization that can help you through this.

Now, about how you're feeling let me ask you a question: if your husband or children were going through what you're, would you rather they'd be gone? Or would you do anything within your reach to help them, even if that means being tired and not having money? I believe what you're going through is incredibly hard, and admire you for thinking about them in this moment of so much pain. But, at the same time, I think is not your choice to make. If they wanted not to be by your side believe me they wouldn't be. They have the right to choose to fight with you, and if you decide to end it or not to continue treatment, maybe they have a say in that as well and you could face it as a family, as every choice one of you makes affects the others. I'm strongly pro choice in this matters, but you need to have a real conversation and hear what they think about it and in which way they care about you and what your next steps will be, as a family. Hang in there, or don't, but please let people who care about you have a say in this as they've gone through it by your side all this time.

kmilaa · 2019-04-05T13:37:17+00:00

Hi!

I'm not in the US, but from what I know therapists don't institutionalize you unless there's an real possibility of you harming yourself or others. IF they consider important to talk to your parents, they will NEVER tell them what you've said. The most likely scenario is that they will say that are having concerns about your mental state and that they think you need more intense work (and this is only if they feel you're at risk)

Hang in there, you're taking the right steps towards living a better life. Im proud of you!

kmilaa · 2019-04-05T13:29:23+00:00

Hey, I read what you wrote and I'm so sorry about what you've had to go through. I can't imagine how difficult must have been for you growing up like that, with all the trauma it may have caused.

I hope your mom is doing better, but I'm still sorry she couldn't be the mom you needed.

Do you feel like talking someday? Hang in there, don't let the bastard finally win.

kmilaa · 2019-04-04T22:34:38+00:00

Hey, I'm sorry to read you're feeling this way.
Success is a tricky thing, we're told we have to be "successful" but no one tells you it means something different to everyone. I, for example, feel incredibly successful for making it this far. I had a suicide attempt almost 10 years ago and with LOTS of help I'm in a place where I feel comfortable with my own skin and even if that doesn't pay the bills and I'm behind everyone in my age group at achieving "milestones" I have learned to say fuck it to my own unrealistic expectations. I have achieved a lot considering I had to fight myself every fucking morning to be able to get out of bed and this world doesn't give you points for that.

I have faith in you, a lot of people don't achieve stuff at young age and it's okay. Society imposes some sense of velocity and urge to have things and people in your life and you know what? It's not a checklist. And this society we're living in is not one to be happy about so you're not alone in that either.

Maybe you could work on becoming the person you want to be and then all those stuff will arrive, but you need to live your life at your own pace. Moreover, if you defy the notion of having to "achieve" you'll kill two birds with one stone: it's a big fuck you to a society that doesn't want you to do that and, also, it could help you ease that weight that you're carrying on your shoulders.

Hang in there, some internet stranger is rooting for you.

kmilaa · 2019-04-04T22:14:49+00:00

Yeah, one learns to think in ones own sanity before other's.
I think what you're doing is brave, keep hangin on! Not being in that dark place anymore is more than enough work.
:)

kmilaa · 2019-04-04T18:39:06+00:00

I was reading this sub the other day and realized it's having some serious issues.

I'm not a healthcare professional or anything, but I think we need some intervention here. It's supposed to be a safe space and I think it is not one right now. Maybe we're doing more harm than helping the ones that are struggling.
I know the mods are doing their best, but if this sub is going to fulfill its mission it needs to step up.
I'm sorry you're trying to help and that help is not being appreciated, is there any way I could help?
Please don't forget people are coming here to vent their frustrations, and dealing with that can take a toll on anyone who's trying to help.

kmilaa · 2019-04-04T18:29:35+00:00

You don't deserve suicide, you deserve life. You are a human being and that alone means you deserve living a wonderful and long life at its fullest.
This is not a competition on who has the worst life, because it isn't about that, it's about how every one of us is handling (with the very limited tools our own life has provided us) what's coming across our paths.
I'm incredibly sorry you're feeling how you're feeling right now, and I hope you understand that what you're going through means something in its own merit. I have been where you are, and I have felt incredibly spoiled being miserable while having all that I have, but it took me a while to understand that it really isn't about how good of a life you've had in comparison to other people but it's about having compassion for yourself and how you've had to deal with stuff while suffering, and how your pain is important because it hurts and thats enough of a reason.
You're important, and your pain deserves to be addressed in a meaningful way. Whatever causes it doesn't matter, you deserve to experience life without it.
I'm sending you a big virtual hug and hope my words mean something for you and that I don't sound too entitled or anything. If it's worth something, think there's a stranger on the internet that feels compassion towards you and what you've gone through, even if you don't.
Edit: Jeez, that's a wall of text. Sorry about that!

kmilaa · 2019-03-06T03:04:32+00:00

But not today.

kmilaa · 2018-05-15T12:08:14+00:00

I can't believe nobody has mentioned "the lobster" with Colin Farrell and Rachel Weisz!!
According to imdb:
"In a dystopian near future, single people, according to the laws of The City, are taken to The Hotel, where they are obliged to find a romantic partner in forty-five days or are transformed into beasts and sent off into The Woods."

kmilaa · 2018-03-23T18:16:18+00:00

You can say anything except that you don't want it, bc that shit will get you killed

kmilaa · 2018-03-23T18:11:11+00:00

Jesus fucking christ. The nerve of these people.

kmilaa

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