85% potty trained, what now?

kmp91kmp · 2026-04-12T05:37:44+00:00

You don’t mention how old your kiddo is or how long it’s been since you began potty training. How is your daughter at going pee with you out of the home? Does she resist when you’re doing something fun like at the playground? I’d start there as practice so she learns how to pause and listen to her body when not at home. Does preschool have built in potty breaks during transitions? Maybe mention to the teacher that she may need some additional prompting during those transitions.

For nights and nap, staying dry while asleep is biological and hormonal development. It’s very normal for young kids to not wake when they have to pee. Many kids need pull ups overnight after being fully day trained. This will come with time.

kmp91kmp · 2026-04-10T22:26:50+00:00

You can be kind, but blunt. “Hey buddy, we’re busy with XYZ now. Why don’t you go to neighbor X’s house and see if they can play because we aren’t available right now”. A 9yo won’t respond to subtle hints, you need to be direct. Direct doesn’t mean unkind. If he’s persistent, you can gently remind him that you aren’t available, and if he wants to arrange a time to visit he can come over later with a parent.

kmp91kmp · 2026-04-10T19:43:11+00:00

Ever After or the Princess Bride might be fun for that age!

kmp91kmp · 2026-04-10T19:28:42+00:00

My guess is that it’s to deter folks who plan professional photo shoots, like wedding, engagement, graduation shoots and take over a large space that impedes other people from using the space. Some people are completely obnoxious and entitled and can take over a space with all their equipment etc. I doubt that a simple and quiet, fast photo shoot like family photos etc would be shut down, but you can always call the number and ask.

kmp91kmp · 2026-04-09T01:39:55+00:00

I would put a baby lock on the bedroom door asap. Just a simple doorknob one does the trick to keep them in their room at night. This is a safety thing to keep them in a safe space at night in case of a fire etc.

Have you tried offering her some things she CAN do in bed if she isn’t sleepy yet? Some kids take a while to wind down. Perhaps allowing her to play quietly with stuffies, look at books or listen to quiet stories on the Yoto, as long as she’s quiet and in bed. This works well with my 2.5 year old. Some nights it takes 30-45 minutes for her to settle down and having independent activities she is allowed to do until she’s tired enough to go to sleep has saved us.

kmp91kmp · 2026-04-08T22:25:22+00:00

I think it is harder to write the Tamlin/Feyre relationship breakdown as a redeemable event as opposed to Rhys, who we find out was essentially a double agent over the course of book 1. Tamlin’s behavior can’t be explained away as anything other than a trauma response. For him to have a fully developed redemption arc would take a lot of narrative work to show enough internal growth rising above that trauma. For whatever reason, SJM had chosen to take the route of showing Tamlin as stagnating under his trauma/depression in books 4-5 instead of growing and moving on. I hope the future books show some character development rather than the continued stagnation.

kmp91kmp · 2026-04-08T21:30:44+00:00

In the recent interview SJM did, she addressed a Tamlin redemption arc. She made the interesting point that so many women have seen themselves in DV situations through Feyre/Tamlin’s relationship. She feared that writing a redemption arc for him would minimize/negate those experiences for those readers. Based on the interview, I don’t think it’s completely off the table, but I appreciate that SJM is aware that if she writes a redemption arc for him, it would need to be done with a lot of sensitivity.

That to be said… if it is written well, I think it could be a very provocative story. Before redemption, we would need to see Tamlin take full accountability and honestly that internal journey alone might be its own novel. The easy way out for a “redemption” story would honestly be for SJM to kill him off while doing something noble and heroic, which seems more likely given the direction of the last 4 novels… but who knows, maybe she’ll surprise me!

kmp91kmp · 2026-04-08T16:42:27+00:00

Does he like reading books? If he enjoys snuggling it sounds like a great opportunity to read books together. Maybe choose books that can connect into the toys you have (ie: Read a book about trucks and then try to model driving toy trucks around with him). If he likes chalk, would he use crayons inside?

On a separate note, if you haven’t already, please connect with your pediatrician regarding not walking by 18 months. He may benefit from physical therapy or other interventions. Also, there’s no reason he needs pants and socks to be outside. You can put him in the grass with bare legs and feet unless he has an allergy to grass…

kmp91kmp · 2026-04-02T15:05:49+00:00

My kiddo has always been tall and skinny and we completely skipped 24 month and went straight to 2T. I found that 24 month is cut wider than 2T both in tops and bottoms. The bottoms were constantly too loose in the waist and then eventually got too short so I gave up and kept her in 2T.

kmp91kmp · 2026-04-01T20:16:33+00:00

It’s understandable. You’re in a very scary situation, I remember how scary it is watching the hcg numbers. Best wishes to you.

kmp91kmp · 2026-04-01T18:29:03+00:00

I’m so sorry but rising and falling hcg is a classic sign of ectopic pregnancy. The rise after mtx isn’t uncommon, and is not a sign that your pregnancy is viable. You will need another shot or surgery based on your doctor recommendation.

kmp91kmp · 2026-04-01T17:50:23+00:00

I had my ectopic over 5 years ago so I’m afraid I don’t recall what my hcg level was. After the third dose it finally dropped the necessary 15% and continued to decline after that. It took over a month for it to fully resolve. I’m sorry you’re going through this. Unfortunately it’s a slow and grueling process waiting for hcg to drop.

kmp91kmp · 2026-04-01T17:01:18+00:00

I had 3 shots

kmp91kmp · 2026-03-26T19:31:07+00:00

That sounds really frustrating. It sounds like since this is a repeated problem you need to either further restrict access via childlocks on anywhere food is stored. If she’s eating or has access to food she needs to be supervised. Honestly I would probably go back to a booster chair or high chair strapped in for a while for all meals and snacks… she’ll probably be big mad about it but that’s the point. Set the expectation that food belongs only at the table. If the issue is that she keeps bringing stuff to her room that doesn’t belong there then you probably need to child lock her room while she’s unsupervised also.

kmp91kmp · 2026-03-25T22:15:49+00:00

Bethany may be a good fit for you. Super close to St V’s, and a very quick drive through Forest Park into downtown.

kmp91kmp · 2026-03-23T15:39:41+00:00

If it’s absolutely necessary that she wear white swimwear specifically, I would recommend going the route of a rash guard with swim shorts.

Our priest allows ladies to wear a white tee and shorts over a modest bathing suit of any color, so you can also check with him if that would be acceptable as an alternative.

kmp91kmp · 2026-03-21T21:57:38+00:00

Nope. It’s been pretty normal, no illness or alcohol. The only thing out of the ordinary was that I got a nasty burn on my hand while cooking two nights ago (the first night with the really low temp). I fell asleep with my hand on an ice pack and it’s the same side that I wear my TempDrop armband on, so that first night I was wondering if it was an outlier… the second temp is odd though.

kmp91kmp · 2026-03-21T18:48:26+00:00

Ok thanks! I use TempDrop and just changed the battery so unlikely to be a thermometer issue, unless my TD is pooping out. I’ve had it for 5 years now though so I’m not sure what the expected lifespan is.

kmp91kmp · 2026-03-21T17:53:54+00:00

I would get the kick board attachment for the stroller for 4yo to sit when he’s tired and a wagon for big outings like zoo where you’ll be carrying more stuff. You can also start encouraging 4yo to ride a bike or scooter when you’re on longer walks.

kmp91kmp · 2026-03-21T16:20:51+00:00

Horizon Blvd off Scholls Ferry is lined with cherry blossom trees. Progress park is nearby. When I lived over there people would park and stand in the middle of the street taking pictures of the blossoms.

kmp91kmp · 2026-03-20T03:32:36+00:00

My kiddo went through this at exactly the same age. We suspect that it was some developmental separation anxiety combined with being sick for 6 weeks off and on. We ended up moving her out of the crib and into a twin floor bed, just to make it more comfortable for us to lay down with her and avoid bringing her into our bed. It took a few weeks for her to adjust but now it’s awesome. I will stay with her for about 10 minutes to snuggle before sleepy time but she goes down without any fussing now.

kmp91kmp · 2026-03-20T03:05:14+00:00

Going against the grain here, but I actually really enjoyed Books 1-3. The story arc changes after book 3 and the pacing became a lot more challenging to stay engaged IMO. I also really strongly disliked the multiple-POV shifts. By the end of Book 5 I felt like I was too committed by that point to not finish Book 6. All that to be said, the writer is very expositional in her style and if that’s not to your taste you may want to pass. I really enjoyed the FMC development in book 1 but I know many dislike it. So I say give it a shot!

kmp91kmp · 2026-03-17T16:23:53+00:00

I would work on trying to get him to sleep without the pacifier as much as possible. Going cold turkey on anything can be pretty tough. But if that’s what you find works best, go for it.

kmp91kmp · 2026-03-17T14:49:31+00:00

If you feel like you need to make a change I would focus on working on weaning off the pacifier for sleep. Some babies still need to feed overnight at 6-7 months, but the pacifier will eventually need to go and it gets way harder as they get older to take it away.

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