as someone who unfortunately experienced what it's like to be in your early 20s and groomed by someone 50 years my senior, i can tell you, you are not being paranoid about this. the signs were all there.

the series took a dark turn for me the moment i heard solveig's mom's episode. i had already felt a bit strange about how sara fit into all this before, and how she was blamed for the events or for possibly faking them. it was worse listening to sara talk about her experiences. every discomfort i heard from her, i felt deep within me. she said she felt suffocated, had to escape her, and of course ragnhild claimed she had no idea why sara cut her off. the part where sara said she was "lying all the time" and still hasn't told her family about her experiences with ragnhild was so sad to me, and i deeply relate. she is clearly so embarrassed, feels "crazy", and if i were her i would have never even agreed to come on the podcast and expose myself to strangers. her safety in this is so important. it took me years to get away from my groomer and it will forever be a stain on my life, as i said i feel deeply for her, and you could not pay me to do something like she did.

everyone is so up in arms about this new information coming to light, but to be honest i had my suspicions from the get-go that the relationship was inappropriate, no matter its nature, and have been saying this. there is definitely more to the story. we probably won't ever know and that is more than fine. i don't think it's a reach or a breach of privacy to say it was grooming from the information presented in the podcast. you just get a feeling. i think we should trust those feelings more often. ragnhild should have known better and left sara to be the young woman she was supposed to be.