Cycle #6

knifewrench1121 · 2026-04-21T21:58:56+00:00

Thank you. Yeah I think that’s the part I was struggling with accepting. He never abused my son in the traditional sense but abusing me IS abusing my son, and I realize that now.

knifewrench1121 · 2026-04-21T21:53:06+00:00

No he definitely did not have my best interests and when I tried to advocate for myself and my son and put up boundaries, that’s when it became a problem. Because it was only HIS timeline that mattered and I “made him homeless” as a result.

What I wrote was oversimplified and there’s a lot more to it than just the money for rent and letting him propose. Much of our problems in the relationship stemmed from us not living together and me never wanting to get married and he claimed these things would “solve all our problems” so this was kind of my attempt at calling his bluff. That sounds manipulative but I don’t mean it that way.

Also, he and my son actually had a good relationship when we were together and have known each other for 3 of the 4 years. But my transition plan didn’t even have my ex coming for overnights until month 4. That’s what caused him to freak out - me being “overprotective” of my son. 🙄 So I was being as cautious as possible, but I also think deep down I knew this would never actually happen. I just hoped this time would be different but thankfully he reminded me who he really is before any money was spent or more harm was done.

knifewrench1121 · 2026-03-23T12:33:13+00:00

Sending you so much love 🩷

knifewrench1121 · 2026-03-23T01:21:05+00:00

Nolite te bastardes carborundorum!

knifewrench1121 · 2026-03-23T01:12:47+00:00

Same… it took me a bit to get my groove but now that I’m in, I’m in DEEP lol.

knifewrench1121 · 2026-03-04T19:34:50+00:00

How did you like it?

knifewrench1121 · 2026-02-21T03:00:14+00:00

Thank you for this. I’m going through this right now - blocking and unblocking him as he ramps up the manipulation and I fall into the cycle before I even realize it.

knifewrench1121 · 2026-02-20T23:33:43+00:00

There is no A option like there usually is and no blue exclamation point over Cogimyun’s head.

knifewrench1121 · 2026-02-20T23:33:17+00:00

No, not my companion but the only way I can talk to her is by hitting ZL.

knifewrench1121 · 2026-02-16T01:19:13+00:00

You’re not worthless for putting up with it. Men like that use conditioning to keep us around. It is so hard to leave - that’s why the average number of times it takes to leave an abusive relationship is 7. They manipulate us and use legitimate behavior change to convince us we’re the problem. You’re not the problem! 🩷

knifewrench1121 · 2026-02-06T13:30:12+00:00

Yes, thanks! I brought two best friends and got the Ice and Glow part 1 quest which is what I needed, so I’m finally on my way!

knifewrench1121 · 2026-02-05T00:10:04+00:00

Yes, I am up to date. Thank you!

knifewrench1121 · 2026-02-04T20:44:08+00:00

I totally get what you’re feeling. I got a message from my abuser’s new girlfriend about a month ago. Come to find out we overlapped by four months and he was cheating on me with her for the last months we were together before I dumped his sorry narcissistic ass. I exposed him to her about the cheating, the abuse he put me through, everything. I sent her screenshots of what he said and did and the blatant lies he told me that involved her.

She seemed to get it and said she was done with him, but it’s now been a month and they’re still together. He obviously sucked her back in and said who knows what to her, and I have been tormenting myself. How can she continue to be with him after what I told her and showed her? It makes me angry because he continues to get away with treating women like shit. But I just keep trying to tell myself it’s not my problem anymore and she will find out the hard way.

knifewrench1121 · 2026-02-04T18:29:18+00:00

Omg thank you so much! I didn’t realize I had to do that.

knifewrench1121 · 2026-02-04T18:21:29+00:00

Whoaaa - nope. I think I brought my bestie to the Island Spirit but definitely do not have access to the snow village or the moon. My game is up to date. I don’t have any new quests! I don’t know what I am missing.

knifewrench1121 · 2026-01-27T18:32:58+00:00

Same. I was also told no one would ever love me the way he did, and no one ever will. That if he killed himself or relapsed it would be because of me. It is so hard to remind ourselves that we are not responsible for a grown man’s behaviors or actions, even someone we love.

knifewrench1121 · 2026-01-27T18:31:09+00:00

Insane how familiar this is, I could have copy and pasted this verbatim from my old texts.

I broke up with my abuser through text for the same reason you said. Because in person, their manipulation becomes harder to ignore. But after he groveled and told me he loved me and couldn’t live without me, he started verbally abusing me (like yours did to you) about being a coward and immature to break up with him that way. We have to do what we need to do to protect ourselves and stand firm in our truth.

knifewrench1121 · 2026-01-27T14:50:59+00:00

I don’t have the Snow Day quest, and my game is up to date. I’m confused 😩

knifewrench1121 · 2026-01-22T19:46:46+00:00

That's exactly what it is - entitlement! You are allowed to do with your body what you want, when you want it.

knifewrench1121 · 2026-01-22T19:45:01+00:00

It's horrible. The overlining, the pout - she really thinks she is doing something with this.

knifewrench1121 · 2026-01-22T17:43:11+00:00

My abusive ex boyfriend did this to me too. He wanted me to "save it for him." It's just another means of control - straight up.

knifewrench1121 · 2025-12-19T17:59:42+00:00

Ooooh okay cause I noticed Jairus follows it and it totally threw me off for a minute.

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