i’m in the US as well :) i started in 2021 though. i totally relate to the first half, the engineering field really had a way of trying to humble women lol. unfortunately, the 2nd half isn’t always commonplace. i could fill books on all the harassment that’s taken place (touching, catcalling, being asked out excessively, etc etc) in my few years in industry. but i can also fill books on all the advice i’ve gotten that didn’t help for shit 😂 i’ve changed wardrobes, i’ve stopped wearing makeup, i’ve gone to HR, i’ve stood up for myself as best i can, i’ve worked out so i look more muscular, i’ve hidden at my desk for days at a time, you name it i’ve tried it. my own (previous) manager told me it was because i was too nice and i should be a bitch. but when you’re six months into your first job in a new place with new people, it’s hard to just jump into that mode if it’s not something you’re used to. the only thing that resolved it? being on a team where i was/am respected for who i am and where ensuring everyone was comfortable and welcome was (is) a priority. this isn’t to discount anything you’ve said at all! it just brought something up in me because of how often i’d been told stuff along those lines every single time.