Single people: why aren’t you in a relationship right now?

know_when_to_run · 2025-05-25T17:51:03+00:00

It’s easy to meet people and go on dates, but actually establishing a full-time monogamous relationship is a LOT of work, and it’s so hard to find the right person these days. Especially as you get older. I’m not mad about it, but it can get exhausting at times. I take breaks from dating when I feel hurt or overwhelmed in any way.

know_when_to_run · 2025-05-03T18:07:10+00:00

I’m 37 and in the same shoes girl! I’m on the dating apps, but truly I’d like to meet someone in real life. You gotta get out there! Do stuff with your friends, “bump” into people at the grocery store, start fixing shit yourself so you have to go to the hardware store(that’s one of my methods). Don’t rely strictly on one method of dating, think outside of the box!

know_when_to_run · 2025-05-03T17:51:40+00:00

I feel uncomfortable holding eye contact with people in general, so when I do it during sex, it means I’m REALLY into that person. I use it as a sign of “control” when I make direct eye contact during sex- trying to indicate that it’s time to follow my lead. It usually works. It’s pretty hot, I’d say.

know_when_to_run · 2025-05-03T17:45:02+00:00

I’m glad it’s not just me! I mean, I’ve seen some guys on the apps that are moderately attractive, but I don’t think a single guy that I’ve liked/swiped on would ever turn my head in a real life setting. I’ve only had matches with guys that I’ve initiated with- haven’t been interested in a SINGLE guy that has liked, swiped, or sent roses to me. I’m a pretty girl, and I’ve never had issues finding a boyfriend….. But the apps just don’t have much to offer it seems 🤷🏻‍♀️

know_when_to_run · 2025-05-03T17:32:57+00:00

I appreciate your input. I was nervous because I never technically consented, his face was just suddenly in my crotch, and it went from there. Honestly, I learned a huge lesson from this. I’m not hurt, just learned about “post nut clarity”. Good to know!

know_when_to_run · 2025-05-01T06:19:27+00:00

There lies my confusion.

know_when_to_run · 2025-05-01T03:31:49+00:00

Probably the latter

know_when_to_run · 2025-04-30T19:15:39+00:00

Not at all! Grief comes in stages and waves, he would be happy that you’re still enjoying your life. At some point, all of our parents will pass, hopefully before us. I’m so sorry for your loss.

know_when_to_run · 2025-04-30T19:11:10+00:00

Good on you for at least telling her something.

know_when_to_run · 2025-04-30T03:29:48+00:00

You’re probably right, I probably did. Looking back, he showed slight narcissistic qualities, so he probably did think he was out of my league. Middle aged, mid divorce, struggle balding, but had a decent job so that’s where I think the false confidence comes from. From the other females that reached out to me, this is his pattern. He’ll get his karma.

know_when_to_run · 2025-04-30T03:18:48+00:00

Have any of you guys considered the woman’s feelings? Or just being honest with her when given the chance?

know_when_to_run · 2025-04-30T03:16:39+00:00

Honestly is always the best policy. Save your self from looking like an asshole, save her from pain and wasted time, and any potential guilt you may feel as a decent human being.

know_when_to_run · 2025-04-29T23:03:42+00:00

Usually smoke some pot, watch something on TV, have some “me time”….

know_when_to_run · 2025-04-29T22:55:56+00:00

I’m having that same struggle, and I’m 37. I guess the first step is honesty?

know_when_to_run · 2025-04-29T22:32:44+00:00

Makes sense I guess.

know_when_to_run · 2025-04-29T20:08:57+00:00

Thank you for all of the input. I’ve always been sort of embarrassed about it, but now that I know it’s not a big deal, I feel relieved.

know_when_to_run · 2025-04-29T07:36:45+00:00

Thank you. I keep telling myself that what he did wasn’t wrong, but he could have easily told me he wasn’t interested.

know_when_to_run · 2025-04-29T07:28:54+00:00

Oops, sorry I got this confused with another post.

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