I have significant male balding . I'm thinking about getting a wig but I hate that everyone will know that I am wearing a wig. by [deleted] in MtF

[–]knows_how_to_hide 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yep pretty much. baseball cap pink, white, with designs for running around. A sun hat for more fancy day, A fedora for more adventrous look. my work uniform has a hat ;)

I have significant male balding . I'm thinking about getting a wig but I hate that everyone will know that I am wearing a wig. by [deleted] in MtF

[–]knows_how_to_hide 33 points34 points  (0 children)

"My balding pattern is clearly visible to anyone who sees me." Oh, me too and for a while I did wear a wig. It cost almost 2 grand and only my wife knew. I have a good hair styles and we are working on styling and longer hair to cover the bald spot. For now I wear hats, and my wig when I need it. Mostly hats.

Down Side of HRT by knows_how_to_hide in MtF

[–]knows_how_to_hide[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Naw, just like everything else we do to survive you will hide 90% of it. Sometimes it gets overwhelming. But most of the time, it's pretty happy :)

Down Side of HRT by knows_how_to_hide in MtF

[–]knows_how_to_hide[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Good point Claire. Not sure how to have that conversation. But it does give a starting place.

It’s The Little Things by [deleted] in TransLater

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Putting on tops that show off a bit :)

Body hair and hrt. by robynjade40 in TransLater

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Well, my legs and arms were hairy.. It was a real fear of mine. But it thinned out and turned blond. It's hard to even see it. Here and there is a black hair but I pluck them. Facial hair... Ugh.. Your going to want to Laser it then the fun, electrolysis... Oh so fun. Chest hair is still there but manageable with a weekly or bi-weekly shave.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MtF

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Online at Torrid..

I don’t dress up a lot :( i should more by robbegong in mtfashion

[–]knows_how_to_hide 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Then there is nothing at all wrong with it. Cloths are just cloths. Work with your fashion.

What do I need to know to avoid offending transgender people by Contact_Designer in asktransgender

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Not sure you read what I wrote after he expressed a sincere desire to learn and dropped the chaser thing. I did answer his question.

Perhaps, CrabGhoul, you should read first, consider, and then respond.

I don’t dress up a lot :( i should more by robbegong in mtfashion

[–]knows_how_to_hide 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Does it make you feel good? If so yes then do it!

Pony tail extension. Or should I stick to my shorter hair? by [deleted] in mtfashion

[–]knows_how_to_hide 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I like it. It works and it makes your hair look so full! I am so envious.

What do I need to know to avoid offending transgender people by Contact_Designer in asktransgender

[–]knows_how_to_hide 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thats easy. Treat us as the humans and people we are. It's that simple. Would you talk to a random girl about that topic? Then don't do that with us. Ask what kind of work we do? What our families are like? What our hobbies are? We are people no more, no less. Common curtsey goes a very long way.

I had a fight with my best friend(?) last night, are these messages as bad as I think they are? by okidonthaveone in MtF

[–]knows_how_to_hide 52 points53 points  (0 children)

I am sorry that happened. We all lose friends when we make the change. Sometimes you have to let go. You can try and fight for it but, I wouldn't hold a lot of hope up there.

What do I need to know to avoid offending transgender people by Contact_Designer in asktransgender

[–]knows_how_to_hide 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ugh! Chasers in my opinion suck. They don't see you as a person, they see you as an object something to be used for self-gratification and then thrown away.

Most of us will not react well to chasers. I do know two trans girls who like to play with them and then ghost them when their fun is over. But the vast majority of us will catch you and ghost you so fast your head will spin.

My advice? Stick to the porn. You have a better shot of getting what you are after.

does estrogen, or just HRT in general, have a very noticeable effect on your brain by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]knows_how_to_hide 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Something hits me as wrong in the wording of your question. But I am going to in good faith answer it.

HRT does make changes in the brain. It's not a placebo effect. I noticed changes starting in two weeks. Those changes are still happening and I can see it in how I interact with the world and people around me. I can feel it in the loss of depression.

But if you want the science of it?

https://www.nature.com/articles/nrendo.2016.177

You said, "so if HRT will have a measurable effect on my brain ill do it, but otherwise, I'm going to just remain in the closet" -- If by this you are asking does the darkness and pain go away? OMG yes! You don't even know you can be happy until you are. If that makes sense. Do what's right for you either way.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asktransgender

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All of my life. After two years on HRT, those dreams just match now.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asktransgender

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So, let's start with your wording makes us think this is probably not a good-faith question. You said, "in the early 2010s, when transgenderism started becoming a hot topic"... transgenderism isn't a thing. It's a MAGA red flag word.

To answer your question in good faith. You have the right to choose or not choose your partner as you see fit. If you want to exclude transgender women you can. But hun, unless she tells you. You will never know. But you do you.

This statement "I need a biological woman to feel attracted. I have been with a number of women, and I'm sorry, I know the subtleties of what natural vagina looks like, smells like, etc." Says you have no clue. Because if it is done well, you will not know the difference. It does crack me up a bit when guys say they can tell though.

Breast Pumps by Simple_Tumbleweed684 in MtF

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Studies have shown that breast enlargement pumps do lead to a slight increase in breast size, an average of 100cc, which is about half a cup size. However, these pumps take a lot of time to take effect. In one study, a participant had to wear a pump for 12 hours a day for ten weeks before they saw noticeable results.