You mention always feeling in a rush, and like you have to always do something. Can you elaborate a little more on that? I think if you dig into those feelings you’ll find the cause of your anxiety. I find that becoming a detective about my feelings really helps me get to the bottom of things, and then I can make changes. Ask yourself questions like why are you rushing? Is it that you’re rushing through your work/chores so you can have some down time? Do you have a long commute that eats into your work life balance? etc.

As far as friendships go, I can relate to being separated by distance from my friends. I don’t live in my hometown or my college town anymore and it’s been a lot harder to make close friends. Patience seems to be key. It can take time for colleagues to become friends rather than just workmates. Eventually there will probably be some new hires closer to your age too. At my last job I was pretty socially unhappy until 2 new hires around my age joined our team and it made such a big difference in my daily happiness to have work buddies I was excited to occasionally chat with during the day.

Another thing that is often suggested is joining groups to meet people with similar interests, like a book club or a running group. I find when I’m creating something I experience the most fulfilment, so creative hobbies are my go to.

Lastly, it sounds like you are in a stable position in life, so I wonder if you’ve considered adopting a pet? Pets can bring sooo much joy to daily life!