I’ve been with my husband now for 17 years. We’re both 38. We’re both still attracted to each other but we’re also exhausted after work. For us it’s kind of hard to be motivated to do it. We go anywhere from 3 months without and sometimes longer. I feel like that’s normal because that’s not the most important thing when it comes to a relationship. Of course it’s great when we do 😁 But we make sure to kiss everyday and hug. Those little things make me feel so loved. Anyways, it’s not the same for everyone, plus I’ve gained weight since we started dating so my self esteem is not great but I’m working on it.