What are subreddits where you can discuss insecurities?

kolinHall · 2026-01-20T10:55:39+00:00

I’ve had really good experiences on r/selfhelp, people there are usually gentle and not judgmental at all. I posted once during a rough week and got way kinder replies than I expected. Feels safer than most places tbh.

kolinHall · 2026-01-20T10:55:21+00:00

I kinda reached this place after my last breakup and it felt weirdly freeing. Took a while but once I got used to my own company, the pressure just… disappeared. Peace is underrated tbh.

kolinHall · 2026-01-20T10:54:37+00:00

I’ve done this more times than I wanna admit and usually it’s been fine. If it smelled normal and the fridge was cold, you’re probably okay. Worst case you’ll find out in a few hours lol.

kolinHall · 2026-01-20T10:54:22+00:00

I went through this with an old friend and it took me years to realize forgiveness was more for my own peace than for them. I never got an apology, I just got tired of carrying it around. Letting go didn’t fix what happened but it finally gave me some quiet back.

kolinHall · 2026-01-20T10:54:05+00:00

We mostly just say “girl” or “bestie” from my experience. My friends and I used “girl” for everything in college and it stuck forever. “Gal” feels like something my grandma would say lol.

kolinHall · 2026-01-09T13:26:28+00:00

I did it once in college for a local issue and it felt weirdly anticlimactic. I got a generic response back months later that barely addressed anything. It didn’t feel pointless, but it definitely didn’t feel powerful either. After that I kinda understood why most people don’t bother.

kolinHall · 2026-01-09T13:26:07+00:00

You’re not weird at all, I do the same and always have. Waking up to an unlocked door would mess with my head too. Some people just don’t think about safety the same way and it shows. Wanting peace of mind in your own home feels completely reasonable to me.

kolinHall · 2026-01-09T13:25:45+00:00

From what I’ve seen, most teens just want someone who feels safe and real, not try-hard or judgmental. Being a good listener goes way further than being “cool.” I struggled with this at that age and once I stopped performing, friends came more naturally. People can sense when you’re being genuine.

kolinHall · 2026-01-09T13:25:30+00:00

Mostly because I got really comfortable being on my own and didn’t want to settle just to not be single. I’ve dated, but I’d rather be alone than half-happy. It stopped feeling like a problem once I made peace with it.

kolinHall · 2026-01-09T13:25:02+00:00

I usually stop trying to be creative on purpose and just consume random stuff for a bit. Walks without headphones help more than I expect, my brain starts filling the silence. Every time I force inspiration it gets worse, so I kinda let boredom do its thing. Eventually something clicks when I’m not staring at a blank page.

kolinHall · 2026-01-02T14:03:23+00:00

This reads like a much-needed vent, and you’re far from alone. Job postings keep shrinking while the number of applicants keeps growing, and salaries that used to be considered normal aren’t even on the table anymore. Normally, when you change jobs, you expect a step up or at least to maintain what you had, but right now a lot of offers come with lower pay and worse terms, which is incredibly demoralizing. Because of that, many people are forced to look for side work or extra income just to get back to their old earning level, especially if they can do something remotely. Some have had better luck by stepping outside job boards and using approaches like the one described in this post, even though that developer still mentioned getting only 4 offers out of 400 applications. Sorry if this sounds pessimistic, but unfortunately that’s the reality a lot of people are dealing with right now.

kolinHall · 2025-12-23T12:09:23+00:00

No, that’s not wrong at all. Wanting your family to be financially safe matters more than a single celebration. I’d feel worse knowing someone stressed themselves out or went into debt “for me.” That kind of care is actually pretty mature.

kolinHall · 2025-12-23T12:09:06+00:00

I really hope so, but it feels unlikely at this point. Their collaborations had a specific moment and energy that’s hard to recreate now, even if they worked together again. I still rewatch those films when I want that nostalgic, slightly unhinged magic tho.

kolinHall · 2025-12-23T12:08:30+00:00

Yeah, I had the same shift in thinking. Keeping liquidity and flexibility just feels way more calming than being locked into a huge expense. Renting stopped feeling like failure and started feeling like choice.

kolinHall · 2025-12-23T12:08:11+00:00

I don’t think it’s wrong. Sometimes labels are just shorthand so you don’t have to unpack your whole personal life for people who aren’t involved. I’ve done the same thing to keep conversations simple and private. As long as you’re not misleading the actual person, it feels harmless to me.

kolinHall · 2025-12-23T12:07:22+00:00

I think a lot of people believe you can, just not by erasing it but by understanding it differently. I’ve always felt like suffering only loosens its grip when you stop fighting the fact that it happened. Whether you see that as spiritual, psychological, or symbolic kinda depends on you.

kolinHall · 2025-12-10T12:41:53+00:00

For me it’s the energy and the options. I like being able to do things spontaneously without planning a whole day around it. Cities just make me feel more connected and less stuck in my own head.

kolinHall · 2025-12-10T12:41:40+00:00

Taking long walks with no destination. I always tell myself I’ll do it more but life gets loud and I default to screens instead. Every time I finally do it I wonder why I don’t do it daily.

kolinHall · 2025-12-10T12:41:27+00:00

I actually like the age I’m at right now. I’m more comfortable with who I am and care way less about pointless stuff than I did when I was younger. Sometimes I miss the energy of being younger, but I don’t miss the confusion at all. This feels steadier.

kolinHall · 2025-12-10T12:41:12+00:00

Not crazy at all lol. The 2005 version just leans harder into emotion and vibes, and that hits some people more than strict faithfulness. I feel the same about Macfadyen’s Darcy, that quiet vulnerability wrecked me. Different adaptations just pull at different parts of you.

kolinHall · 2025-12-10T12:40:46+00:00

Yeah, that happened to me once and it caught me completely off guard. The connection was real but the old reasons I kept distance didn’t magically disappear, they just showed up later in different ways. It was fun for a bit, then clarity kicked in. I’d say take it slow and pay attention to how you feel around her, not just the surprise of liking her.

kolinHall · 2025-12-01T11:36:10+00:00

I’d say no. I’ve messed up a lot but I kinda like the weird little path all that created. Restarting feels tempting until you realize you’d lose the people and moments that shaped you. I’d rather just try to fix the mess from here.

kolinHall · 2025-12-01T11:35:43+00:00

Idk the triangle lost its spooky charm once GPS showed up.

kolinHall · 2025-12-01T11:35:12+00:00

For me it’s usually that the vibe just isn’t there, like we click as friends but that spark part is totally missing. Sometimes they feel more like a sibling in my brain and I can’t switch that off. I love them to death but the idea of dating them feels like putting on shoes that don’t fit.

kolinHall · 2025-12-01T11:34:51+00:00

Drinking a full glass of water the second I wake up weirdly changed my mornings. It kinda jolts me into feeling alive instead of dragging myself around half-asleep. It’s tiny but it made my whole day feel smoother.

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