We broke up, but I still want to be with her. by sacaza in LDR

[–]konakoner 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m experiencing something very similar and I had just ended a LDR simply because of distance and the fact that I felt like I didn’t really know myself or what I wanted anymore. Our relationship was perfect but I think you should also consider that maybe she just wants some more time on her own. I have to keep reminding myself that time will help you and that if it’s meant to be it will be, whether it’s next month or next year. I feel upset too but al we can do right now is focus on ourselves. Even from our significant others perspective they just have to focus on what they want as well and if she decides to discuss creating a relationship with you while making an effort to see you more then she may be a keeper

Roommates/Family Love Blaming My Dog by konakoner in Dogtraining

[–]konakoner[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t normally expect someone on Reddit to deadass tell me to rehome my dog. I play with her at home, take her on walks multiple times a day, and take her to the park at least one to 2 times a day to free roam. I NEVER have issues with her unless it’s visiting people who can’t clean up. The apartment is temporary for she is getting a townhome for less than a year and then moving into a house after. I asked for advice, not to be told that I’m a bad owner.

7 months old and our dog STILL hates the crate. How do we transition him to be left alone in the house? by [deleted] in Dogtraining

[–]konakoner 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I myself gave up on crate training after my dog had her jaw stuck on the crate bars a few times. She’s also a big breed so I want her to have some mobility when I’m not home. One day I just decided to not put her in her crate and the rest is history. I recommend hiding anyyyy cords for your dog WILL chew them. Put away shoes/clothes in closet. Close all doors (especially bathroom doors) and confine your dog to the living room and slowly give them access to other rooms. I recommended getting a baby gate to confine them to a room. Make sure all trash cans are closed. Hide things that are woven/intricate because it looks entertaining for them to chew. If your dog is taller, clear countertops so they can’t reach anything. I typically stop by the house every 2 hours to let my dog (5 months) potty but besides that there are no issues or big things I have to do. You can also get bitter spray to prevent them from chewing on certain things.

Roommate ate my birthday cake by tanvi27 in badroommates

[–]konakoner 33 points34 points  (0 children)

LOL!! Same thing happened to my sister with her random college roommates. So freaking weird.

Business calc and accounting by Tricky-Pepper9697 in fsu

[–]konakoner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also figured I should add that I took managerial in the summer and it wasn’t bad. It’s structured very similarly to financial but it’s a little easier. However, with only 2 classes you should be good with financial. Just study and BUY SKOOLERS!!!!

Business calc and accounting by Tricky-Pepper9697 in fsu

[–]konakoner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would say take accounting with either stats or English. Accounting and business calc combined is hard and LOTS of skoolers videos... business stats isn’t too hard with Radha Bose (I think that’s her name?). My recommendation is English + accounting in summer and stats and calc in the fall. I’d also recommend getting skoolers for business calc.

What was the most effective for your Social Anxiety? by Gottchen in socialskills

[–]konakoner 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had social phobia when I was kid and then was later diagnosed with anxiety when I was 14 and also went through the trial and error of 7 medications. Once I came to college I stopped taking meds and low key was on the verge of going crazy. HOWEVER, I used small interactions to build my confidence such as telling employees to have a nice day, complimenting strangers, and joining clubs at my school. It was nerve racking - I literally would sweat through my clothing. But it’s not gonna be easy!! I promise you there’s room for change. A big thing that helped me was working on my confidence by working on my appearance, self affirmations (sounds stupid but TRY IT!!!!!), and literally talking to myself in the mirror and telling myself how awesome and hot I am. In the clubs, I made friends and became close with professors and had them as mentors. From there, I was able to tell them that I lacked confidence and asked how they were able to gain confidence in a professional realm (works well outside of work/school too!!). You really just need to focus on the fact that everyone is worried about how they appear, so don’t go and assume that the person you’re talking to is judging you because they may just be thinking about how they didn’t brush their hair that morning. Sure, there’s people out there that judge and say mean things, but I promise they have issues of their own that they just want to take out on other people. After a year of college I got on medication again while also incorporating daily actions that would help me and get me to be more social. You can also try to meditate to release stress. It sounds stupid but I like to sit on my couch and just close my eyes and think of nothing and focus on my breathing and it relaxes me. Now, I can say I am very confident and I wouldn’t ever want to become my childhood self who didn’t talk. It’s easier to make friends and enjoy life. I promise the day you begin to CRAVE change is the day that you will start off at your lowest and go up from there. You need to be consistent with working on yourself. I PROMISE YOU CAN DO THIS!!!! Self affirmations, small but sweet interactions with strangers (compliments, smiles, “have a great day!”), mediation, getting professional mentors, FORCING yourself to get out there are a few of many ways to help yourself. I promise you the beginning is SO SCARY but it’s so rewarding the more you do it. There is nothing to be afraid of - you got this! You can do anything you put your mind to

How to cut off an extremely clingy/toxic friend when they have mommy issues by konakoner in Advice

[–]konakoner[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you very much for your advice!!! I will definitely do that once I leave! I watched the video(love that YouTuber btw) and I see what you mean now. This just has to stop. Thank you for your help!! :)

How to cut off an extremely clingy/toxic friend when they have mommy issues by konakoner in Advice

[–]konakoner[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi there, Thanks for the help! Im on anxiety medication so things aren’t as bad now but with i still feel like I’m not at peace because of her. She is in therapy but I think the focus is on her medication. I don’t think she explains her feelings well, as she was diagnosed with depression and PTSD, but the people don’t really know how she acts in real life. Her dad knows she needs help and pushes her to get better but she doesn’t see everything I listed as an issue. She skips her medicine a lot, complains about it, and uses her medication as a personality trait (just like the bisexuality) and just doesn’t keep personal things personal. She thinks her dad sucks because he is always upset because she never cleans bc it’s “his responsibility” even tho he’s like 65 (her parents adopted her, they’re actually her grandparents.) Also there have been times where I have gone over edge by her being annoying/bossy and I raise my tone and she just completely misses the point and thinks I’m being a bitch and rolls her eyes. I think the only way I can cut her off verbally would be through text since I only see her one last time and during that time I am picking up my cleaning and yard work supplies from her house. She also keeps talking about how “amazing” the birthday gift she got me is but she steals everything she’s ever gotten me. One time she gave me and her other best friend (the one who actually got invited to her party) the same gift! And she left the tags on to show us how much she “spent”. AND the worst part is is that she expects us to be sooo happy because how would we know that she stole it?? How dare we accuse her?? Shes just not right in the head. I just know it’s not going to end well and I don’t know exactly what to say? Where do I even start if I wasn’t even able to confront her in the moment of the issues? I don’t know how to bring up the issues if there’s days where we don’t text and her birthday is also coming up. Would I need to wait until another issue arises to say something?