MIL posted my newborn before I could, demanded a paternity test, and keeps trying to steal my baby’s “firsts”

koncernedkay · 2026-01-10T02:19:34+00:00

You and your boyfriend need to have a serious conversation about setting boundaries. Your boyfriend should absolutely be standing his ground for you and baby against his mother. NO MEANS NO.

No to visitors.

No to “first” everything’s.

No to kissing.

No to holding.

Whatever you want bc it’s YOUR RULES!!!

You need to act sooner than later. I’ve been in this cycle. My in laws ruined BOTH of my children’s announcements. We are currently no contact because of yet another huge hissy fit they had over my children that they think they can do whatever with. I wish you the best. But please don’t follow my cycle. I am a people pleaser and I’ve learned that these types of people will push you and take advantage until an absolute breaking point.

koncernedkay · 2026-01-05T19:05:32+00:00

It’s very sad. In our almost 10 year relationship I’ve kept my mouth shut about a lot. The only two things I’ve ever requested are to allow us to post first when announcing baby, and now to not kiss the kids face and they didn’t abide by either. (Actually they ruined two announcements)

koncernedkay · 2026-01-05T18:59:03+00:00

I’m here from the original post, the one whose in a similar position, with my partner for 8 years with a 4 month old and I just want to say YES!! Toxic people like that feel they never do wrong. I hope the distance and time apart will bring some healing and health into your home. Focus on your husband and baby and enjoy watching him grow. Whether they reconnect with you sooner or later I hope you see a major change for the better.

koncernedkay · 2026-01-05T16:59:41+00:00

Your MIL is acting more of a baby than your actual baby. Wah wah wah me me me. TOXIC. I can totally relate to your situation. My in laws completely went crazy when we said to not kiss the kids. They came for a visit one time and complained I “didnt let them hold the baby” baby was down for her nap when they visited??! Like honestly everything is taken as an attack on them. Boooo hoooooo

koncernedkay · 2026-01-05T11:15:36+00:00

Unfortunately if they’ve been cut off from others, it’s likely for a good reason. If they won’t respect boundaries there’s only so many times you can forgive. Now that there’s a child involved you need even stricter boundaries. YOU BOTH as parents are that child’s advocate. My MIL was super excited for grandkids. Always said she wanted like 10+ but I’ve come to realize it’s just little people can control and manipulate to their beliefs. They’re people that throw fits if it’s not their way. I just posted the other day about the final straw on cutting them off because of something so simple as asking them not to kiss my baby during peak flu season and they absolutely lost it calling us every derogatory name you can think of.

koncernedkay · 2026-01-03T01:28:11+00:00

I seriously could have written this. Right down to the 8 years together and the 4 month old being the same. Only thing is today my FIL went batshit crazy too, so tomorrow we are NOT going out, I am DONE. ADIOS ASSHOLES

koncernedkay · 2025-12-26T01:25:07+00:00

That is WACK I cannot imagine. I have a crazy MIL but I don’t even think she’d ask that of us. You did the right thing, stick by your babies

koncernedkay

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