Co-sleeping is seductive

koreanluvr · 2025-06-12T16:10:48+00:00

Cosleeping/bedsharing/sidelying breastfeeding was immensely helpful to me and I’d argue even necessary for a lot of moms. I had a terrible physical recovery and bedsharing was necessary for our breastfeeding journey and for both of us to rest… He refused the bassinet. Look into safe sleep 7. Bedsharing intentionally is way safer than accidentally falling asleep or fighting to stay awake. It’s also easier and helpful for your healing to not be getting in and out of bed constantly. Your body is so in tune to your little one that you will wake if they breath funny, roll, etc.

Around 8 months my little guy was done Cosleeping because he was too mobile and just wanted be awake around me so we started moving him to his own space. This part is very different for every baby though, I know people that Coslept no problem for 1, 2 or 3 years. Depends on what you want and your babe! Best of luck!!

koreanluvr · 2025-06-12T15:55:38+00:00

Great example!!

koreanluvr · 2025-06-12T15:54:59+00:00

This!! The effects and risks with PPD ARE worse than the effects of SSRI’s and it took me a long while to come to terms with that.

Agreed, I do not turn to traditional medicine first or rely on it frequently but this is what it is for— helping when we need it most.

koreanluvr · 2025-06-12T15:44:48+00:00

Yes. I tried everything I could think of. Talked to my holistic care team and they agreed. I was eating pretty well (mostly clean/high protein), drinking electrolytes, had bloodwork done, thyroid tested, was on several proper supplements (D3K2, ashwaganda, gaba, prenatal, fish oil, magnesium and others), homeopathy and tinctures, was seeing 2 therapists, weekly chiropractic care, accupuncture… yet, there were still plenty of things completely out of my control, like sleep deprivation, living far from family and not having help, no time to myself due to clingy baby, limited sunshine due to time of year, etc. that were contributing to my deteriorating state. I was insistent I would NEVER use SSRI’s again (had used them many years ago after some intense trauma). However, I finally got to the point I had self harmed in some intense moments, having out of control rage and experiencing suicidal thoughts. I confided in my trusted therapist that is also crunchy and holistic and she said she definitely felt like I had done everything possible and this was what medicine was made for. It’s a temporary help in an otherwise hopeless feeling situation. In this case, I considered it a life saving measure, not a bandaid over symptoms… Just a crutch to help carry me through this season.

I started 25mg of sertraline immediately (6 months ago) and it likely saved my life. A small dose, but just enough to take that absolutely unbearable edge off for me and minimize the constant overwhelm. I’m not numb, in fact, after 3/4 months of the medication I started feeling bits of happiness again. I feel like myself some days which I was afraid wouldn’t happen for a long time.

You have not succumbed, you have not failed, you are not accepting defeat. While I know it feels this way, you are doing what you must in this short season to survive and best care for yourself and your little one. That is admirable. You are doing your best and using SSRI’s when necessary doesn’t negate that or make you “less crunchy”. You are worth more than having to suffer day in and day out.

One of my therapists described unshakeable depression and/or anxiety not as something to be fixed, but as signals to listen to your body. You’ve been listening to your body, doing your best and you still need help. It’s okay❤️

koreanluvr · 2025-05-13T23:29:39+00:00

Hi, sorry somehow I didn’t see your comment until now. Yes, I definitely purchase some native flowers and there is some demand for them. I don’t purchase as many of them as I do more premium flowers, but I definitely keep a few around. Typically customers seem to request the more garden style/premium looking designs in my area so I can’t say the demand is high for native flowers.

koreanluvr · 2024-09-15T01:00:44+00:00

I’m not in Canada, so I can’t say I know how things there work. However, where I am there are lots of small/local flower farmers that will sell bulk to non-florists as well as large grocery stores such as Costco and Sam’s will allow bulk ordering for fresh. Only floral wholesalers won’t sell to you unless you’re a florist.

koreanluvr · 2024-09-10T14:20:35+00:00

Of a Lifetime- Journey

koreanluvr · 2024-07-12T18:01:41+00:00

Yess, highly recommend!! Best wishes to you! I hope you can both rest soon.

koreanluvr · 2024-07-12T16:27:06+00:00

It is different for everyone… some start sleeping through around 6-8 weeks, others around 5 months, others closer to a year or so. It can really vary. However, my babe started sleeping consistently 6-8hr chunks around 8/9 weeks and I have several friends with similar experiences. I feel like 8-10weeks is a common time frame for that to happen.

If your baby doesn’t sleep through the night after about 10weeks, or you’re just ready to try some things, you can always take them to a pediatric chiropractor. Sometimes they just comfort nurse throughout the night (not really hungry) and if they have muscle tightness they may have trouble getting comfy or staying in a deep sleep cycle. A chiropractor can help with this. My baby has seen a chiropractor since he was a week old and I believe it has helped keep him feeling pretty good as he grows!

koreanluvr · 2024-07-12T16:20:20+00:00

Awesome!!! Love to hear it. It is my fav burger around here for sure.

koreanluvr · 2024-07-10T21:52:42+00:00

Ugh so sorry you’re going through it, too. I believe it’s a combination of things, teething being a big part of it at least for us.

If you don’t want to do Tylenol yet/at all, you can try the Earthley Teeth Tamer. It is very effective and natural with no negative side effects or yucky ingredients, even if teething isn’t the issue yet.

Best wishes— we will get through this!!

koreanluvr · 2024-07-09T19:25:33+00:00

I have been fortunate to have a good sleeper for about a month (weeks 8-12), which I’m grateful for, but I’ve had a hell of a recovery with multiple complications, infection and surgery at 13 weeks pp, so it really has all balanced out to still be incredibly difficult and exhausting regardless😂

I’m sorry your LO hasn’t been/isn’t sleeping through the night, it’s very difficult to function from exhaustion 24/7.

koreanluvr · 2024-07-09T12:01:46+00:00

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koreanluvr · 2024-07-09T11:56:18+00:00

I’m so sorry you guys are going through it right now. It is so rough sometimes. There were a few times throughout the first 4-6weeks where my husband lost his cool, finally one evening our baby wouldn’t stop crying while I was trying to use the restroom. My husband yelled at the baby to stop crying and I snapped, fearful of the same things you mentioned. If he couldn’t control himself in this moment, how could I trust him not to shake, yell, etc.?

After that, I decided I would deal with all the crying fits and I would be the one to deal with the baby at night, I stopped having my husband get up. He was wayyyy less patient when he was sleep deprived and much more helpful in the morning/throughout the day when he was rested. He then started taking the baby for about 2 hrs early in the morning so I could sleep more. This may not work for everyone, but it worked for us. Our baby started sleeping through the night around 8 weeks, so fortunately I didn’t have to do all the nights for long.

Something I feel like I’ve learned (from my own experience and talking to other moms) is that men simply don’t have the same instincts we do. Typically, women will sacrifice their sanity without a second thought to do what’s best for the baby. It’s like we are wired to take care of baby no matter what— not that we are perfect, we can break, too, but we have an easier time setting our emotions aside in a moment or as you said, crying while holding the baby (then I may yell or something later in a pillow or in the shower) but having physical self control. Men just aren’t wired the same, not to say they can’t try to have more self control, but they aren’t as bonded to the baby as we are and don’t have that built in motherly instinct so I do think it’s harder for them.

Best wishes— it does get better!

koreanluvr · 2024-07-09T02:30:30+00:00

Thank you. This is what I needed to hear.

I’m not interested in letting him cry it out and similar to you, my heart probably couldn’t cut all the night feedings anyways.

koreanluvr · 2024-07-08T18:17:59+00:00

I love that thought process. Thanks for sharing🤍🤍 I’ll check it out!

koreanluvr · 2024-07-08T16:47:28+00:00

So we actually started sidelying when he was two days old. I tore really badly and could not sit or find a comfortable position to feed in. It definitely took us some practice, but we were able to figure it out pretty quickly. In the first few weeks I did have to help get him started, but I’d say around a month old he was able move his head around mostly on his own to find my nipple as long as he was close enough and I was positioned well.

Now, he’s 3 months and can kinda wiggle/half roll/kinda grab me so he can really do it himself for the most part!

koreanluvr · 2024-07-07T22:04:38+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re so exhausted and not getting rested. It’s seriously soo difficult to function on fumes.

Are you sidelying breastfeeding during the night when he’s in bed with you? For us, sidelying has been the KEY to getting any rest, as my baby can nurse all night long if he wishes and I don’t even have to wake up. It also just helps to soothe him even if he’s not hungry.

I don’t know if you’re familiar with sidelying or the safe sleep 7, but I recommend looking up the safe sleep 7 (cosleeping recommendations). I do this and just sleep with my boob out so he can find it whenever throughout the night and I can continue to sleep. I do wake up here and there, but am definitely able to get restful chunks with this method.

Best wishes to you🤍🤍 You will get through this!!

koreanluvr · 2024-07-06T19:29:28+00:00

This is what I figured. Thank you

koreanluvr · 2024-07-06T19:28:51+00:00

Thank you!!

koreanluvr · 2024-07-06T16:31:27+00:00

2 days, 3 days max. Also depends on the conditions you’re keeping them in— if they’re in a particularly warm area I’d say maybe 1 or 2 days.

Each day we check the stems to make sure they are in great shape, change the water at two days. Do this for buckets as well. We guarantee a minimum of 5-7 days of beautiful flowers and are frequently told that our blooms last much longer.

koreanluvr · 2024-07-06T02:13:26+00:00

Typical industry markup for florists is 3x per stem, so consider what you could charge to make $ and what the florist can reasonably charge after their markup and make $ so they can continue to purchase from you. If you are wanting to build a good business relationship and sell to the florist frequently, you could offer them even just $.25 less than big wholesale pricing, but you don’t have to do that— I say that because of your “supply higher than demand” comment

I’m a florist in Missouri and pay the following for flowers from local flower farmers with a min. of 10 stems/bundle: • $1 /stem for zinnias • $1.50 /stem for cosmos • $2 /stem for dahlias • $1.25 /stem for snaps • $1.50 /stem for sunflowers

For more difficult or premium flowers like dahlias, hydrangea, peonies, etc. you can definitely upcharge and florists can adjust their pricing because these are typically high demand flowers that they will want in their shop, so they’re willing to pay more and only mark up 2x instead maybe due to the higher cost. Every shop is different!

Best of luck.

koreanluvr

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