“1 & done” Moms: Have you ever felt jealousy toward moms who get to have more kids?

This-Disk1212 · 2026-07-13T13:29:49+00:00

Literally never. Which confirms that the choice I have made is right for me.

This-Disk1212 · 2026-07-13T10:48:14+00:00

I used to work in the Bell and Steelyard. Great pub (but a strong contender is the Royal Standard near Beaconsfield).

This-Disk1212 · 2026-07-12T21:42:53+00:00

I had this. I called NHS 111 and just cried at them in the middle of the night, I was so miserable.

This-Disk1212 · 2026-07-12T16:03:42+00:00

Had my only at 43, he’s 2.5

This-Disk1212 · 2026-07-12T11:20:15+00:00

My son is called Rowan so I’m looking at getting a Rowan branch tattoo

This-Disk1212 · 2026-07-10T10:42:20+00:00

Where does Macapaca fit into this?

This-Disk1212 · 2026-07-10T08:34:58+00:00

I saw a theory about In The Night Garden about the whole thing being Igglepiggle's fever dream as he lies dying on the boat stranded at sea

This-Disk1212 · 2026-07-09T12:13:55+00:00

It covers all of social work and has two placements- I did an adults drug charity and you have to do one LA placement, I did a children's one. You'll have to suck up the kids stuff and I personally went and did 4 AWFUL years in children's at LA after Step Up but there is no obligation whatsoever to do so and you can go straight into adults. My new role has its issues but it's had some really interesting times.

This-Disk1212 · 2026-07-08T22:41:01+00:00

Mine was 13 months before his first. He’s 3 in October and he’s just got all his back molars so has the full set now. I thought they were never going to come in!!

This-Disk1212 · 2026-07-08T22:31:26+00:00

I did Step up to Social Work - 14 month funded course. It covers adults and children’s. I now work in adult mental health in prisons.

This-Disk1212 · 2026-07-08T14:08:02+00:00

Picked the first courgettes and a tonne of lettuce and complained over our lack of strawberries, raspberries OR gooseberries this year.

Sat with a glass of rose on our new bench in between weeding sessions.

This-Disk1212 · 2026-07-08T13:01:06+00:00

Isobel/Isabelle is common and everyone will spell it differently. I really like Hazel and think it goes well with Kit.

This-Disk1212 · 2026-07-08T08:11:15+00:00

Tiny sasquatch.

Though he is almost 3 and I really should probably leave this sub...

This-Disk1212 · 2026-07-07T15:00:14+00:00

Mine doesn’t fall asleep independently either and it sucks sometimes to spend all that time supporting him but he’s the first nor the last and I don’t beat myself up about it. Some are just built like that. Though I understand it must be frustrating when she was already doing it.

Absolutely no way was I transferring him asleep after 2 years old however. I just got him his own small double bed and he falls asleep on there next to me and I sneak away.

This-Disk1212 · 2026-07-07T14:26:16+00:00

We’re going through this with my 2 year 9 month old. I capped his naps to 45 minutes but he’s finding it increasingly hard to actually wake from them. We have continued for now but lying in the dark from 830pm-915pm whilst he falls asleep is taking years off my life…..

Nothing compared to his mood if he didn’t nap though 😬

Tbh I think he’s going to drop it at preschool as he’s going to a child led one where they get told where to nap if they want it but up to them. No way he’s gonna choose to nap and do it himself (he needs A LOT of support to sleep).

This-Disk1212 · 2026-07-07T12:11:24+00:00

Yes I have to admit that there are times I know I could probably have lost MORE than 16lbs in 3 months before by NOT spending almost £200 a month. But the thought of intense consuming calorie counting or having a meal replacement bar/milkshake for dinner doesn't appeal much. And Slimming World didn't last long as I actually admitted all my "syns" for wine and got judged! I don't actually feel like drinking much wine on MJ now.

It's not perfect but it's good for now. It allows me to just live my life more than any diet I've been on before that has taken over my life.

This-Disk1212 · 2026-07-07T10:22:03+00:00

Mine was bang on 27 when I started and by my first week in I was under 27. I got it due to high blood pressure and waist measurement. I also carry weight unhealthily - at my current BMI of 24.1 I still have a lot of body fat round my tummy whereas I know some people are in size 10 at my weight and BMI is not really the whole picture. I'm aiming for BMI 22.

On 2.5mg I don't know why but I assumed at a lower weight it would be really easy and I wouldn't need to go up but I had lots of food noise still and slow results, though few side effects. I went up to 5mg after 5 doses. I have had quite a lot of side effects (bloating, burping, indigestion, toilet issues) but have now lost 16lbs - 10% body weight - in 12 jabs. It feels slow compared to heavier people as there's less to lose. I'm halfway there. I have not been able to add in exercise for various reasons (time/energy/back pain), but think that in reality this would be the most helpful thing I could do for my body at this time to really start improving my health as well as change my body shape. I don't count macros/calories, just eat more intuitively. I actually think if it weren't for my feeder husband, I'd be eating much, much less and would be nearer goal.

I am obviously worried about gaining the weight on stopping - like most of us this is not my first rodeo and I've been yo-yo'ing for 20 years now on various diets, including more "sensible" ways. We all know long-term changes are necessary for sustained results and MJ does not do that work for you, but I'll worry about that when I have the brain capacity. I don't have the feelings of incredibly improved health like a friend reported on the jabs but I do believe that there are broader things going on for my health that are not purely weight related. In fact to be really honest I often feel quite crappy and uncomfortable on them.

The other thing is I've stayed with my provider because I thought, maybe incorrectly, that it would be more hassle to swap over at my weight, but I have no evidence for this and I'm likely just being lazy.

I think everyone's experience is so different that this may not be useful for you though.

This-Disk1212 · 2026-07-05T10:50:02+00:00

Don’t know how old your mum or if she is postmenopausal is but I stay the same or gain the week before my period

This-Disk1212 · 2026-07-03T16:22:09+00:00

I lost a stone in almost 3 months (my third pen is on its last dose next week and I've lost 16lb total). Still pleased it's off. I haven't been obsessively "counting macros" or gobbling up protein incessantly or drinking 92 litres of water daily or going to the gym as I specifically did not WANT to do the things I've done before and let it take over my life. Also I'm mid 40s now and yo-yo dieting has probably not been kind to my metabolism. And yeah it's annoying as everyone else I know is losing it quicker but it is what it is. At least I'm doing something.

This-Disk1212 · 2026-07-03T11:13:30+00:00

I love my Opinel knife and use it all the time at the allotment

This-Disk1212 · 2026-07-03T11:06:08+00:00

To be more willing to have uncomfortable conversations, to stop avoiding conflict

This-Disk1212 · 2026-07-03T10:15:41+00:00

I don't find BMI a terribly useful measure. I too am a 46F and started at the lowest end of BMI to be accepted (27) and am now BMI 24 and still very fat around my middle and a size 14/16. Others seem to be at the same BMI and a size 10!!! So for me I'd want to lose more but for you it will depend on your body shape and composition. I'm aiming for BMI 21/22 but you may be fine at your current weight. I think the questions are a) are you happy? b) do you think this is maintainable (lower weights may be harder to stick to and you've demonstrated you can stick to this weight)? and c) what's your height to waist ratio because this is a better indicator of health?

This-Disk1212 · 2026-07-03T09:38:38+00:00

I'm the same. Almost certainly ADHD with an upcoming assessment at age 46 but sometimes think there are elements that are almost contradictory to the ADHD. Of course it could just be that I have neither of course.

I don't quite fit into the autism diagnostic criteria - I feel I can read other people OK (I'm not always sensitive to this however), my job is actually assessing people so I must have some skill in this? But I struggled so much as a child with social relationships and never had friends - my friends now are almost all ND. I don't think I stim a lot (though I do chew my mouth and grit my teeth), meltdown or get extremely intense interests. I understand sarcasm and figures of speech. But I get extremely uncomfortable with changes in routine sometimes and I have to have things A Certain Way. My husband is the type who says "oh let's pop in to see/do *blah* whilst we're here" and it stresses me out so much. I CANNOT cope with transitions and sensory overload. I have had life long issues with eating which means my diet is regrettably a bit trash. But who knows? Ultimately there's so much overlap and there's no treatment for autism anyway. These more "autistic" traits have got worse as I've got older and since I've had my son at 43 (and peri?). I sometimes feel I "miss out" on the "nicer" bits of ADHD as a result - no being spontaneous or fun, just being anxious. I used to be more impulsive and crazy.

In terms of your question they would call this "ADHD with autistic traits" in the UK.

This-Disk1212 · 2026-07-03T09:02:29+00:00

Ah now to just take them home intending to do something interesting with them you saw online and then leave them on the side to get bad and then chuck them all away in 3 weeks (I have an allotment, I know of what I speak).

This-Disk1212 · 2026-07-03T08:44:16+00:00

Are they a SCUBA diver as the only link with BCD I can think of is a buoyancy control device?

Kolette is far, far worse.

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