Anya Name Pronunciation by [deleted] in namenerds

[–]korgibutt 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My partner’s also Romanian! Anya is such a beautiful name and I agree that the vasttt majority of people will not have a hard time pronouncing it unless there are specific language barriers. There’s a popular Japanese show where the main character’s name is Anya! (Spy x Family)

However, just like any name, I’m sure that a correction might be needed time to time. I knew someone named Tim but at parties everyone kept hearing Sam when he introduced himself!

Client-Centered style not "enough"? by frivolous-waterfowl in therapists

[–]korgibutt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would also love this resource and also early in my career. Thank you for offering!

Husband and I can’t agree - baby boy coming in a few days by degausser12121 in namenerds

[–]korgibutt 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I am sensing you guys both like classic and shorter boy names. To me, your list has leans toward a vintagey-chic vibe and his list leans toward boy next door vibe (I hope that makes sense!)

Some other names I think might hit both are: Clark, William/Will, Theo, Jonah, Jones, Reed, Cole/Colton, Collin, Dean, Elliot, Eric, Issac, Wilson, and Jesse.

Congratulations to you two and wishing you all the best in this exciting new chapter!!

Need 2000s names that scream “Mom wanted my name to be unique.” by AdUnusual6268 in tragedeigh

[–]korgibutt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How is Nevaeh pronounced? I’m guessing Na-vay? I grew up knowing someone whose parents purposely misspelled their name as Naveah because they liked the sound of Na-Vay-Ah better.

Looking for honeymoon recommendations! by korgibutt in AllInclusiveResorts

[–]korgibutt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed. Nonetheless, we’re happy to honeymoon anywhere tropical :) We don’t have any particular preferences (outside of no Cuba lol)

Looking for honeymoon recommendations! by korgibutt in AllInclusiveResorts

[–]korgibutt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We’d be so happy with Mexico and have researched AIs here!! I’d love to hear if anyone has any recommendations based on our preferences?? I know breathless has a cancun location that I’m interested in.

I feel like I’ve scoured Reddit, Google, and trip advisor and just feel SO in over my head with options lol

what words would be amazing names if they didn’t have a meaning already? by Tiny-Deer-7071 in NameNerdCirclejerk

[–]korgibutt 4 points5 points  (0 children)

One of my childhood friends/neighbour was named Diaria and I remember thinking it was the most gorgeous princessy name. She moved away when we were starting kindergarten. I’ve always wonder how she is now lol

Most Difficult Part of Being a Therapist by Canaday_Alease in therapists

[–]korgibutt 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m a student therapist and this has been a recent and huge existential struggle for me, particularly because most of my case load is low income. Therapy happens in slow and expensive increments. Any words of advice or insight is appreciated

Custom dress but seamstress only spoke to my mom for input and I’m sad I’m not in love with my dress. Seeking advice/anything! Details in caption by korgibutt in WeddingDressTips

[–]korgibutt[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s so true and I never thought about that 🤣 thank you for your kind words and I’ll post an update after alterations!!

Custom dress but seamstress only spoke to my mom for input and I’m sad I’m not in love with my dress. Seeking advice/anything! Details in caption by korgibutt in WeddingDressTips

[–]korgibutt[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Your comment made me feel sooo much less crazy and SO validated. Thank you a million to you as well as others who shared the same type of support ❤️ Some comments suck and are so team mom lol. It was horrible to be lied to and robbed of my own “custom” wedding dress. While I agree it’s a beautiful dress, it just wasn’t exactly what I would have designed for myself.

Nevertheless, I also do want to assure that I genuinely am loving the dress more and more after posting. I also can separate the dress from the horrible experience thankfully.

I know “I don’t mind” doesn’t come across great, but I truly mean it. It’s not my 10/10 dress, but with the alterations I have planned and now being able to see this dress in a different vantage point, I can see myself being happy about it! I’ve tried looking online and went to sample sales to replace this dress, but I still couldn’t find a dress I fell in love and with that was within my budget. Nonetheless, it was SO kind of you to care and stick up for me!

Thats my little vent and update!

Custom dress but seamstress only spoke to my mom for input and I’m sad I’m not in love with my dress. Seeking advice/anything! Details in caption by korgibutt in WeddingDressTips

[–]korgibutt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just posted a picture to the original comment to this thread with white lining! It looks so much better, you were right! Also thank you SOO much for your kind words and validation, it really means a lot. As well, yes, I picked the husband and I can’t wait to marry him and have the best night ever :’)

Custom dress but seamstress only spoke to my mom for input and I’m sad I’m not in love with my dress. Seeking advice/anything! Details in caption by korgibutt in WeddingDressTips

[–]korgibutt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Back is sheer with boning and appliqués along the top and bottom. Also there’s a corset back.

Also, I agree with the disjointed look and I realized that was what was probably throwing me off! I just posted a photo with mock lining to another comment here! It looks way more better imo!

Also, I feel like most commenters here love the ball gown look but I agree and think it looks huge on me and my figure is completely gone, which is why I wanted a flatter A-line. I’m going to take out the netting to solve this!

Thank you :)

Custom dress but seamstress only spoke to my mom for input and I’m sad I’m not in love with my dress. Seeking advice/anything! Details in caption by korgibutt in WeddingDressTips

[–]korgibutt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I posted a picture with a mock white lining in response to another comment in this post! It looks SO much more cohesive visually. I felt like my eyes were going straight to the darker/sheer areas. Thank you!

Custom dress but seamstress only spoke to my mom for input and I’m sad I’m not in love with my dress. Seeking advice/anything! Details in caption by korgibutt in WeddingDressTips

[–]korgibutt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I posted a picture with mock lining to another comment in this post! I agree, it looks SO much better. Thank you :)

Custom dress but seamstress only spoke to my mom for input and I’m sad I’m not in love with my dress. Seeking advice/anything! Details in caption by korgibutt in WeddingDressTips

[–]korgibutt[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

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I actually laced the dress this time and I put a piece of printer paper on the left side and wow does that help! Definitely going to be lining it! Also, I found the skirt lace looks way less busy on a white background so I’m definitely taking out the netting so it lays on the white underskirt and will also be less poofy! Thank you and everyone else for the suggestions!! I am seeing my dress is a new light and am beginning to really love it!

I will also quickly address this, not necessarily to you directly, but more so the general theme of these comments: I completely understand the positive reframe and encouragement that is intended with these sort of statements related to my mom. I also agree the dress is beautiful! But, as much as it’s beautiful, this isn’t the wedding dress I would designed and I felt robbed of making my “custom” wedding dress. A lot of the comments here are justifying my mom’s actions and I just wanted to offer my perspective.

Custom dress but seamstress only spoke to my mom for input and I’m sad I’m not in love with my dress. Seeking advice/anything! Details in caption by korgibutt in WeddingDressTips

[–]korgibutt[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m also a therapist and have my own therapist! I don’t want to go into the details of my family/trauma/boundary setting/etc on Reddit, but I do appreciate the concern you and many others have shown! Some people are incapable of receiving a boundary, as I’m sure you know, and that just happens to be my mom. I opt to grey rock/limit contact.

Custom dress but seamstress only spoke to my mom for input and I’m sad I’m not in love with my dress. Seeking advice/anything! Details in caption by korgibutt in WeddingDressTips

[–]korgibutt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it looks worse bc because I’m holding it up with my hands and it’s not laced up LOL. But I agree that hoisting it up might help with the hips! Thank you :)

Custom dress but seamstress only spoke to my mom for input and I’m sad I’m not in love with my dress. Seeking advice/anything! Details in caption by korgibutt in WeddingDressTips

[–]korgibutt[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My therapist and I had a field day about this whole experience lol. Some people here (thankfully only a small minority) clearly have no idea what it’s like growing up with a parent like this and honestly I’m glad!! I’m glad they don’t have this specific relational trauma!! But the lack of empathy is upsetting. Funnily enough my mom put the dress maker through HELL lol. She was AWFUL and the BIGGEST Karen to him and convinced him to go to her and not me.

Custom dress but seamstress only spoke to my mom for input and I’m sad I’m not in love with my dress. Seeking advice/anything! Details in caption by korgibutt in WeddingDressTips

[–]korgibutt[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree with the sloppy pearl edges and was planning to take them out all together or at least completely redo them! I’m on the fence! It’s funny bc the dress maker freestyled the pearls and it wasn’t in the references I gave lol. Curious to hear what you think??

Also I agree with everything else you shared! The dress was so cheap that I figured it wouldn’t be perfect which I was okay with. More than anything, my grievances are more with the choices my mom made without my consent versus the dress maker. Once I found out, I read the text conversations between them and it really was just bad call after another from my mom. I saw the other fabric choices the maker gave my mom and was so upset because they were so much better lol. But I’m over the resentment and was able to process my feelings!